February 2010 Blog Posts (99)

The Beginning of the End

THE BEGINNING OF THE END
written By L.L.P.F.

The Beginning of the End, When you Greive and cannot cry.
And you search your soul with-in,
To find the words to say good-bye.

The hardest part of losing you,
Is, "how to set you free"?
Your prism with-in my spirit
That's still so much a part of me.

I feel, I feel so much your real
And though I can not see
Twas the beginning of the end I feel
Was the hardest part for me

Added by Leslie L. Fiorda on February 28, 2010 at 9:00am — No Comments

WHAT NOT TO DO WHEN SOME ONE DIES

1) Do not keep away because you do not know what to say or do
2) Do not pressure them to stop grieving
3) Do not be quick to advise them to discard clothing or other personal effects of the deceased before they are ready
4) Do not say "You can have another" baby
5) Do not necessarily avoid mentioning the departed one
6) Do not quickly say "it was for the best"
7)Do not say "I know how you feel"

Added by T.C. Goodwin on February 27, 2010 at 2:39pm — No Comments

THE DAY MY WORLD CHANGED....

My world changed on February 5, 2010 at 7:26pm. I received the phone that about killed me, my sister was killed, I fell to my knees and screamed not "my Weezy". She is my sister and my bestfriend, now I feel all alone cause I am not close to my other siblings. I walk around with this empty feeling inside and have had many mixed emotions about losing my sister. I had just talked to her 10 minutes before she was killed, we talked about her new hair cut and her going to dinner with her family for… Continue

Added by Donna on February 27, 2010 at 10:53am — No Comments

LOSS OF A CHILD

MY BELOVED SON, DUSTY, 25, WILL BE GONE 6 MONTHS ON SUNDAY FEB 28. IT HAS LITERALLY DESTROYED ME.
I MISS HIM SO VERY MUCH. I HAVENT BEEN BACK TO CHURCH SINCE HE PASSED/ TO CELEBRATE HIS LIFE,
I AM GOING BACK TO CHURCH SUNDAY, 6 MONTH ANNIVERSARY OF HIS PASSING. I AM SCARED AND NOT SURE OF MYSELF, BUT THIS IS GODS CALLING FOR ME TO CELEBRATE DUSTY!

Added by valerie moore on February 26, 2010 at 7:39pm — No Comments

To Adam with Love

The worst day of my family's life Oct 29,2009. I was at work and received a call from my 16 year old Ryan: "Mom you need to come home NOW there are police at the door, it's about Adam!!"

Adam had not come home the night before and was not answering his cell phone. This was not an immediate cause for concern:as an independent 19 yr old he had done this type of thing before and always spent the night at a friends house......

Somehow my motherly instincts had not registered… Continue

Added by laura b on February 26, 2010 at 3:15pm — No Comments

i miss so much

Today makes one month since my sister passed away. I couldn’t bring myself out of bed this morning. How I wish I could talk to her. Every morning she would call me just to talk about anything. I miss so much. One month!! God this hurts so much my heart is broken. I still don’t understand why my sister why did she have to be sick.

Added by stephanie on February 26, 2010 at 12:32pm — No Comments

Missing Dad

April 14 my dad will be gone 1.5 yrs. I have days that I don't want to get out of bed and if I see a picture of him or someone talks about him I burst into tears. I usually pretend he is at the hospital and can't get visitors and he will be home soon,then reality hits again and everything is so real. I loved him so much and helped my mom take care of him. My mom is so sad (after 61 yrs of marriage) and refuses counseling that we don't know what to do for her. Her sadness and anger is affecting… Continue

Added by Wendy on February 26, 2010 at 8:13am — No Comments

I feel like a zombie

I am alive but numb. It feels like there will never be joy again in my life without my mom. I feel hatred to people I dont know who say the stupid Christian things like "God called your mother, he needed her, shes in heaven...." etc Yeah right, he gave her a miserable life with a painful end after her being such a kind person all her life, and then took her from me, now jeepers...may he give me the strength to bear my loss!

Do I need a stupid impersonal cyber greeting card with a dancing… Continue

Added by Lindy on February 26, 2010 at 3:52am — No Comments

Survivor Guilt

I have known my ex husband for over 40 years and he is suffering terminal cancer.

He is much loved by our eldest grandchild who is unhappy with me at the moment

My ex and I only had one child and he and his family are not communicating with me although my ex requested that I visit him in hospital which I have been more than happy to do. We have been friends since I was 18. The family dont have any concept about this long term friendship.

I feel on my own and wish I could trade… Continue

Added by Jenn on February 26, 2010 at 1:19am — 2 Comments

MURDERER...HOW DARE YOU PLAY GOD...AND TAKE ANOTHER HUMAN BEINGS LIFE...

I sincerely Thank you, Thank you all, god bless all of you....I attended, with my mother and sister, the local POMC meeting on Saturday February 20, 2010 here in Denver, Co. It is such an unfortunate, but absolute necessity, to have a national support group of strong, caring, compassionate, god fearing people whom, people, like myself and family, can go to, to learn and gain their knowledge, wisdom, and fortitude, from their own personal tragedy, and ensuing personal and public experiences.… Continue

Added by ELOY CONRAD DURAN II on February 25, 2010 at 8:59pm — No Comments

Losing Jerry

As a result of a comment made in reference to my most recent blog entry, "The Howl of Grief," I have decided to share something a bit more personal. In spite of my role as a therapist, I believe there are appropriate ways for myself and other therapists to share some of our own personal experiences with grief. What follows is an exerpt from a paper I wrote entitled, Psychotherapy and Existential Crisis in the Fourth Decade of Life, presented at The National Association of Social Workers a few… Continue

Added by David Fireman on February 25, 2010 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Memorials - Thankful, but they are so hard

So, the school called the other day. They want to do a memorial page in the yearbook. I'm grateful that they think enough of Christopher to memorialize him in the yearbook. It's just so hard to continue to but that kind of stuff together. I keep thinking, I shouldn't be doing this. I should be arguing with Christopher about wheather or not I've paid for the yearbook. Every year, he would tell me he needed yearbook money, and every year, I'd think I gave it to him, only to find out I put the… Continue

Added by Kim on February 25, 2010 at 8:10am — No Comments

Endorphins? Yeah right.

Last Saturday I went to a local Lifetime Fitness and got a seven-day pass to see if maybe working out at the gym would help me get off the couch and hopefully stay out of depression. When I went on Saturday night and went on the treadmill for 20 minutes I felt pretty good, except I broke down and started crying in the locker room afterwards. I was doing something new, what would Dan say? I know he would have encouraged me, then made some comment about how he "needs to do something about that,… Continue

Added by Chris B on February 24, 2010 at 11:19pm — No Comments

Sad

My husband passed away Feb 17 2010 on his birthday, he had a massive stoke
on feb 13 this is the hardest thing I ever done God how do I get through it.I miss him soo much.'Treva

Added by Treva Hunter on February 24, 2010 at 10:09pm — No Comments

understanding what your going through

This message it to Shannon who posted a comment here about her Dad, first I am so sorry for your pain!!! I lost my mom 7 months ago today! I miss her terrible I have 5 sisters who will not even speak to me so I know what feeling alone is all about I dont even have a husband I am a single mom of a 12 year old little girl who was my moms angel, whenever I look at her I think of my mom so you see how much i still think of her and miss her my sisters hold it against me because I was so close to my… Continue

Added by cathy on February 24, 2010 at 5:46pm — No Comments

Emptiness - I miss her so much

I've never felt this way before. I keep waiting to feel better, and on some days I do, but then, this overwhelming, suffocating grief returns to me. I have a lot of emotions that I don't know what to do with and a lot of thoughts that are scary to me. I've had people pass away before that I was close to and loved dearly, but never this close. This was my mother. This is the person who knew me the best, the one person I could tell my secrets to, and she would understand and love me the same. Now… Continue

Added by Felicia on February 23, 2010 at 7:28pm — No Comments

"Daughter" a [Victim] of a "Murder-Suicide" by Husband !

How does a "Parent" relate to/or reconcile with such a [Tragedy]?;

The "Question(s)" that I am faced with each waking moment is - Why?;

What "signs" could I have foreseen, how do I relate to the Guilt of not being there?

Added by Francois-Andre Paront on February 23, 2010 at 5:15pm — 1 Comment

Trying this again...

I joined Legacy Connect right after my son passed away in September. I found it difficult to come here. I would come to receive encouragement and advise, but I would get caught up in reading about everyone else's sadness, loss, and tragedy, that I would leave this site worse that when I came in. It's been five months since I was active on here. It was good for me to come here initally to understand that my feelings are not just my own. I see there are others out there who share the same strange… Continue

Added by Kim on February 23, 2010 at 2:12pm — No Comments

Showing Grieving Relatives You Care When You Are Far Away

Q. My maternal grandmother died recently in Florida, which is where she and most of my extended family live. My parents and I are 1500 miles away. There was always an awkward relationship between my parents and my mother’s family. After I moved out on my own, I did get in touch with these relatives a few times, although we’re still not close. Regardless, my parents are going to Florida for the funeral and have asked me watch…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on February 23, 2010 at 12:30pm — 1 Comment

What to do now.......

Almost another month has went by and it still hurts as much today as it did when it first happened. I miss my son so much sometimes I can't breath. Flash backs of how sick the dr's made him still haunt me. I still see him taking his last breaths. I just can't get past it. He didn't want to go he fought so hard. I feel maybe I didn't fight hard enough for him. I should have stood up to the dr's and his dad and put him on the ventilator to see if the meds would continue to work. But I just didn't… Continue

Added by Kim on February 23, 2010 at 10:26am — 1 Comment