I see your smile,

I see your face,

I hear you laughing in the rain.

I still can't believe you're gone.

                                                                                                          ~William Luther & Aimee Mayo

Who’d You Be Today?…

My name is Sherry Gayton Im 44 years oldI am the mother of 3 children Scotty which was 24 Dillon who is now 20 His future wife Carly  and my heaven sent angel Cheyenne who is 6 (she is our life line gave us all three a reason to keep living) I have 2 grandson Phillip which is Scotty he is 5 months now and Blaine which is Dillon and Carlys little one and he is 2 weeks old I lost my husband  Talmadge on jan 5 2004 and it been 9 years and i'm still coping and greiving  We were a happy family we…

Changes

I watch the ripples change their size

But never leave the stream

Of warm impermanence and

So the days float through my eyes

But still the days seem the same

~David Bowie

After Timmy died, I found it hard to go into his bedroom.  I could still smell his scent – the body wash, deodorant, and even his musk and sweat on the sheets.  I could almost hear his laughter from…

Q. The 16-year-old son of friends committed suicide a week ago. My wife and I are thinking about inviting them to attend a social event coming up next month and wonder whether that is an appropriate thing to do. Is it too soon after the death, and would it seem as if we don’t recognize the depth of their grief? Or not?

The death of a child is unimaginable agony for the parents. Your children are supposed to outlive you, and the enormity of the loss just…

It was about 4 p.m. Saturday when my husband called while on an errand. He received a call from a family member, stating that he needed to get to his nephew's house right away; something is terribly wrong!

The words I heard were "Jeremy is dead!" I sat there, stunned, as if someone had punched me in the stomach. Jeremy? "What happened?" I asked. My husband said he wasn't sure what was going on yet, and that he'd call me back soon. I called my mother in Colorado and spoke with…

I am probably one of the few females on the planet that cannot express emotions properly. My Dad passed away on 1/3/13, and I have been battling an uphill battle of anger/pain/guilt ever since. My father died at a very young age of 55 years old abruptly, having a heart attack and was gone. Words cannot describe how difficult this has been for me, being only 28 years old. Being younger and losing grandparents it does break your heart a bit, but…

                                                   THE WAVE

Standing near the water

The grief wave struck,

Tossing me around

There’s no way to duck.

Pounding of the water

Finally did subside,

Up for air I came

There’s no-where to hide.

Wave comes when it comes

Regular as the tide,

So go with the flow

Hang on for a ride.

In the calm water

Remember a great…

It's been five years since Scott went away.  I can't tell you'll how much I love him, I go crazy at times and cry and throw things.  I drink too much,  I went to the doctor and she wanted to put me in Our Lady of Peace because I cried in her office.  I can't keep a job because I can't concentrate sometimes on what I should be doing.  Just tell me how should a mother act who lost a son . Put it on the back burner and go about your way,  should I put all his pictures away so I can't see his…

One of my resolutions this year is A Drawer A Day – trying to weed through and edit out clutter – clothes, kitchen utensils, books, cosmetics, candles, shoes, scarves, CDs, old tax returns and even photographs. You know how you might have five versions of the same photo, with only slight variations? I now sit in front of the fire and MAKE myself pick one!

Because I am an inveterate clipper, my files on death, funerals, grieving, obituaries, rituals,…

Hi,

it has been almost 6 months since my Eddie died.  He was 14 yrs old and i found him dead on my living room floor.  I don't know what to think anymore.  I have missed so many days at work and of course, i am on my final write up, I was told that I don't have any initiave anymore, you think, just getting here most days is an accomplishment.  My days are filled with despair and I cry just about every day, some days are better than others, but no such thing as a good day.  Oh did i…

This mornings Mass was for my Maria. As soon as Priest announced it was for Maria, I started crying. Maria's two great friends from HS were with me and I was able to continue with Mass. After we went to breakfast. It was so nice to be with these friends as we could talk about Maria. Today, was the first time I went out on my own  for entertainment. I went to an afternoon movie. It's odd, when Maria was here, I could go out by myself and not think anything of it. Now, since she is gone, going…

Daryl Petton (1953 - 2013)

Obituary

Petton, Daryl Eugene Age 59, of Quinlan, TX went home to be with The Lord on February 9, 2013. He was born in Dallas, Texas on April 22, 1953. He was a veteran who…

So it's been a year and a half since my little brother took his life.  What has changed?  Well everything has changed but yet nothing has changed.  Everyday I wake up thinking about him. Every day I cry and wonder what might have been. I still pick up the phone when I see something off the wall funny and I still crack up thinking about all of the crazy stuff we used to do.  The one thing that has changed is where I go to visit you.  :(

My Mom had been taking care of my Dad who has been sick since June 2012.  I would help her in between my work hours.  Fortunately we all live in the same house.  I would do all of the cooking for the household and take care of my Dad's meds.  My parents had set up living quarters in our finished basement for themselves and my husband and I live in the main part of the house.  I would drive them to where they needed to go, as my Dad hadn't been driving since he got sick.

On Tuesday…

When my children were young we visited my mom on Valentine’s Day. My mom lived in a retirement community and I knew many of her neighbors probably wouldn’t be celebrating Valentine’s Day so I thought we’d do something thoughtful. I had my daughters help bake and decorate valentine cookies and we packed them with ribbons. While visiting my mom, the girls walked…

Q.  I’m invited to a big party and have mixed feelings about attending. Part of me wants to attend, but I’m also afraid I won’t fit in. My husband died four months ago and this is my first big social event that isn’t strictly family. I’m worried about what to say and whether to mention that I’m a widow. Any suggestions?

You’re facing a new social…