Joe died suddenly last October. My grief was almost unbearable. We had been working hard together planning our future. I had over time moved almost all but furnishings into his house. We were house shopping. Between us we each had 2 boys, all grown. Joe's oldest son had married 2 weeks before he died. The reception was the following weekend. I got the phone call nobody ever wants and my nightmare began. I have struggled over loosing my life partner. My best friend. Dreams we shared will…

My younger brother committed suicide 9 years ago. He was 22. He left a very long letter in which he explained how he had been carefully planning his death for years. I was in college at the time and, in his letter, my brother said that he wanted to wait until after I graduated to kill himself. In May of 2002, I graduated from college and a couple of weeks later my boyfriend and I decided to go on a road trip to celebrate. When we reached the hotel, I called my mom to let her know that we had…

Friday, March 25, 2011

The weather was sunny & pleasant, but terrible storms were predicted for the weekend so I went to the cemetary after work to pull weeds. I forgot my weeding fork last week when I went to fertilize. I also purchased a disposable camera on the way just in case. I pulled weeds until the sun set, from Larry's gravesite and those surrounding his. They were so neglected & overgrown with dandilions. What good is it to leave them, they will just blow over &…

Hi Hun

It has been 8 long months tomorrow and the coldest and worst winter in Alberta since 1974 the year you were born. The weather has kept us inside allot and it really doesn’t matter because I am numb from missing you. With the snow melting I heard the sound of the first motorcycle revving up and my world stood still. I truly couldn’t breathe as I knew if…

I grew up with Dave - he was a childhood friend of my older brothers.  He always made me laugh.  He also always wanted me to be his girlfriend.  I just wanted to be his friend until my junior year of high school.  I realized I really did care more for him and was so blessed to have such a great friend that made me feel adored.  We were married in Sept. of 1974 after I graduated from high school.  We had three sons together and 6 grandchildren.  We have helped our youngest son raise his two…

Little did we know, you would be gone the following Sept 18th. We miss you so very much and Cecelia knows your name and points to your pictures all the time. Of course we have you all over the walls.

love and miss you

mom and dad

xxxxxooooooo…

Well on March 31,2011 will be a year that my baby girl Christina Lee Rivera was in a car accident killing her and her mother in law. It will be the hardest thing for me to go through not see her or missing talking to her on the phone. My life be empty with out her and my heart ache so much. If you remember the story I firsy posted when the person who did this to her said he wasnt the driver of the jeep that killed her. Well he was the driver because dna was taken from the jeep and it was his…

Optimal Hospice continues it’s excellence in care by providing free grief support groups to Bakersfield and the surrounding communities of Taft, Lake Isabella, and Tehachapi. Facilitated by Dr. Pat Roberts, Optimal provides a warm and welcoming environment to anyone who has experienced a loss. You don’t have to travel the path through grief alone. Let us guide you through this unique experience. Our groups are always free and open to the community. Please join us at the following…

It hurts when they speak of you because then I have to remember that your gone,

but it hurts more when they don't speak of you because I want them to remember

that you were here.

Would like to hear how other Mothers are dealing with the lose of a daughter.  My daughter was my best friend.  I stay thru the week with my wonderful son in law and 4 grandchildren and go home on the weekends to my kind and loving husband.  I talked to Jami 3 or more times a day.  I worry about the influence I have on my grandchildren and mourn all the 1sts that she is missing and we aren't sharing.  People seem to think that you get over losing a child but for some reason I am unable to…

Spring is painful this year. It has always been my favorite season, It was my mother's as well. She loved th e symbolic promise of new beginnings, the rebirth of nature and the chance to once again work to beautify English-style flower gardens in her yard on the corner.



Through the dark cold fall and winter of my mother's open heart surgery, and her doomed…

We know how to respond to a death in a friend’s family, but what happens when the death is in the family of your child’s friend? Is it appropriate to involve children when supporting the bereaved family? That’s what one mom wondered. Her daughter’s best friend’s granddad died. The mom planned on writing a condolence letter to the family and asked, “Should my daughter write one too?”

At what age is it appropriate to involve our children in the bereavement process? I’m not sure…