My wife Tami died on December 8, 2014.  My life changed completely that day.  I lost the love of my life, my partner in everything, and the one person that knew and understood me best.  A giant hole opened in my world and has yet to close.  I am not lost without my wife.  I am capable of doing all the things that I must to go on.  Yet everything I do seems incomplete without her to share it.  It has been almost four months now, but it feels like yesterday.  I no longer cry when I see her…

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 I too lost a friend in the crash over the French Alps. I hear that the pilot had some suicidal tendencies in the past....Many of our family and friends suffer from mental illness and unfortunately we may too.

I took this class called Mental Health First Aid and it was very beneficial to me because now I know how to respond if somene is undergoing a mental health crisis. Its similiar to First Aid but you deal with a mental health crisis. That can be just as traumatic.

We all…

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Q. I'm struggling to write a condolence note to the wife of a very close colleague of my late husband. I knew the man well and cared about him. He was a genius in his way, but sort of a lost soul who also had serious health problems. I never met his widow. They married after I'd lost touch with him. What can I say that makes sense when I…

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evry loss i get i ask why not me

if it bean evry 1 wud be happy or better off if it had bean me or no 1 wud miss me

all i get tild its grief speak not me

i feal…

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A young woman chose to announce her mother’s death on her mom’s Facebook page. She had no other access to her mother’s wide circle of friends and she felt this was the best way to share details for her mother’s funeral. Facebook friends “shared” the funeral plans and the young woman was surprised and comforted at the large turnout at her mom’s…

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It's so raw. I keep thinking im strong and of course I am. It's just that he was my life and to put it together without him almost feels wrong. We were so in love with each other. It will just take time. I'm writing down something to do each day, next day and future day. But I did forget to write the next 3 days. I think I will try that.

Alex was my life and I was his. He was driving on the way home from work, pulled over to the side of the road and the police said he looked like he was sleeping. People say I'm lucky because I have daily pictures and daily "I love you" but they are all gone and stopped now. I relay his videos to me...the one where he asks "where's my sweetie" and another where he says "I miss you". Every restaurant we went to we would hold hands across the table and talk until the food arrived. Five years of… Continue

I CRY 2 DAY IS 1 OF DAYS IT STRTS AGAIN HEAR A SONG ON VIMEO ITS ME NOT ME SINGNG BUT SONG IS ME U CUD SAY I THNG IV CARZED FLOODS IN SEA OR SEA OR SEA OR RIVRS OR SO ONcry me a river link http://vimeo.com/96822173 cry me a river embed

Just joined in hope of maybe finding ways of how to cope from the only other people who could possibly know how this feels.  My daughter died 6 months ago and I still cry every day.  I really don't know what to say.

Lost the best part of my life when Barb died this week and I am having a tough time adjusting. I know it's early but it seems like an impossible hill to climb. Any advice about how to go on from here. Figured that joining this site might be a good option to help me cope. She was very ill with Cholangial Carcinoma, a form of liver cancer. She actually survived 10 years with the cancer but during the past 4 or 5 months she slowly got worse and worse. Any help that anyone could offer would be…

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Q. I lost my husband about a year ago, and still am not ready for dating. Yet widowers I know (or have heard about) seem to be interested in a new relationship almost right away. How come?

Both research and demographics confirm your observations. In a 1996 Annals of Clinical Psychiatry study of…

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WHY ME

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It is unnerving to see Facebook recommend a deceased friend or acquaintance under “Suggestions for People you May Know.” Even creepier to get notified by Facebook to wish a friend happy birthday when your friend has died.

Facebook has processes in place to help you before or…

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trying to figure out how to go on.  I feel like I have been fired, I was his wife for 40 years and it was the best job I ever had. 

I don't understand all this I just want to talk to someone I'm dying inside I thought of this as a last resort and can find no human comfory

Just wanted to say hello, I joined because I lost my better half back in June of 2014 and now I feel I am coming back to earth but I feel I need to speak to someone like us gay people  because I am surrounded by straight people they do not understand like us people you know so again hello..