April 2010 Blog Posts (71)

If My Husband Could Send Me A Letter

Honey, today I saw a tear fall down your face.

You didn’t see me standing there, nor could you feel my soft embrace.

But I was standing next to you, I know you looked around.

You seemed to wonder what it was, you thought you heard a sound.

Yes my love, it was I, who came to check on you.

I saw a tear fall from your eye, I knew you were feeling blue.

Even though you cannot see me. please know that I am near

I am now an angel from above, To brush away your… Continue

Added by Hurting on April 30, 2010 at 9:48pm — No Comments

The story behind The Widows Walk Ministry

I was widowed in 1997, at the age of 42 with three children ages 8, 11, and 14. By the grace of God, we have survived and learned many things along our journey.

In sharing my stories, I hope to help others who are dealing with grief in their lives. This ministry began when I met a woman who was grieving the recent death of her mother. She began telling her story and as I listened, I felt my soul being drawn toward a familiar place. She asked if I would meet her to walk and to talk… Continue

Added by Jan Evett on April 28, 2010 at 10:00am — No Comments

Two Years

April 28, 2010

It is two years since my son passed away.... I miss him so much. My heart aches so much. We have fundraisers in his memory and we give away scholarships in his name to other high school students graduating going on to college in the in field he wanted to be...Sports Journalism. Everyday there is either one thing or many things that remind me of my son. I'm surrounded by his memory. It is very comforting, yet sometimes very sad. We had some good news this week, my daughter… Continue

Added by Marcie on April 27, 2010 at 9:22pm — No Comments

Recently I have been asked! How do you put 1 foot in front of the other???

Since then I continue to ask myself how do I keep going on?

Added by Karen ~ Kenny's Mom on April 27, 2010 at 8:21pm — No Comments

I miss my Mommy soooo much.

It has been 8 months and 2 days since my mother passed away suddenly from a heart attack. I feel so alone. She was my everything. The one person on the face of this earth who knew and understood me completely. I could've never imagined life without her. Now I feel like I have to live the rest of my life without her. Too unbearable. I ache and long for her. I feel like people who haven't been where I am really don't understand. Some days it feels unreal. I want to talk to her; feel her; touch… Continue

Added by YOLANDA EPPES on April 27, 2010 at 12:16pm — No Comments

Celebrate life with obituaries

Ever since I had to write my dad’s obituary in the middle of the night with no resources at hand, I’ve been an inveterate and appreciative consumer of obits. I read them in newspapers, in magazines, online and even in books (see 52 McGs: The Best Obituaries from Legendary New York Times Reporter Robert McG. Thomas, an incredibly creative compilation of posthumous profiles). I clip them, email them, excerpt them and, always, learn from them. Sadly, I often discover amazing…

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Added by Susan Soper on April 27, 2010 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

without my husband

its like i have to start over living again he was my guide for thirty years he taught me to live and kept my kids from walking all over me hes gone and its like i have no cotrol i cry without warning and hate myself and even get mad at him what am i to do how do i find a way around this does anyone understand me

Added by Debbie MCcracken on April 26, 2010 at 5:46pm — 1 Comment

Crystal's with me ...Forever mommys girl!!!

My daughter Crystal passed away suddenly almost a year ago on 5/3/09

1st I want to tell you she was the air I breathe the Sunshine of my day the Love of my life!

Crystal would walk into a room and light it up with a beautiful smile on her face every time,everywhere.From the time she was born she made mommy laugh and I wish I could see her face 1 more time ,hear her voice say mom,hold her in my arms and squeeze her tight,But I will cherish all those precious memories for the rest of my… Continue

Added by CrystalsWithMe on April 26, 2010 at 10:47am — 1 Comment

Projecting Positive Thoughts

"The inhabitant or soul of the universe is never seen; its voice alone is heard.

All we know is that it has a gentle voice, like a woman,

a voice so fine…that even children cannot become afraid.

And what it says is “Sila ersinarsinivdluge” -- “Be not afraid of the universe.”

- Eskimo teachings

It is my contention that in order to understand how the universe works, you must first… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on April 26, 2010 at 7:00am — No Comments

Healing but still missing dearly beloved une

It has been six months since I lost my dear husband to lung cancer and I still have my crying spells but my family have told me not to hold the tears I recently started to visiting the cementary and placing flowers on his grave something that I thought that I could not bear to do alone yes it was very hard to do but I know that he would be proud of me. I still have not been able to get rid of his… Continue

Added by Alberta L Priest on April 26, 2010 at 12:37am — No Comments

December 23, 2009 - My Life Was Changed Forever!

They say there are no tears in Heaven, but that must be wrong today. Because you took part of my broken heart, when you went away. I know my tears must have followed you,how else can it be? My Spirit feels broken,‘Cause you are no longer here with me. I cried to the Heavens, my tears fell like rain. So, I know my tears must be in Heaven. Things will never be the same. They say someday I will accept your passing. But, right now that can’t be true. Because part of me is in Heaven. You didn't go… Continue

Added by Hurting on April 25, 2010 at 6:30pm — No Comments

why nine months is hard

with some input from a friend i just figured out why nine months has been so hard...as i said...you can have a baby or you can plan a wedding in nine months...in other words, you can begin a life in nine months...for me, i have had to say good bye to a life. i just didn't realize that was what i must have been thinking until a friend pointed it out to me...thank you to my friend...i am a little calmer now because it makes perfect sense to me about why nine months was rattling me so much. i know… Continue

Added by alaine dougherty on April 25, 2010 at 2:13pm — No Comments

nine months

yesterday was nine months since michael died. it has been a hard week leading up to yesterday. i am not sure why nine months seems to bother me so much...maybe because you have a baby in nine months...maybe because you can plan a wedding in nine months...maybe because in three months it will be a year since michael died. a year! i must be stuck in a time warp because it still feels like it happened yesterday. maybe that is what happens when it is a sudden death like michael's was. i just don't… Continue

Added by alaine dougherty on April 25, 2010 at 10:24am — No Comments

Help me understand

the loss of my only child.

Added by Mae Walker on April 25, 2010 at 10:18am — 1 Comment

SPRING IS HERE

Well, Amy, spring is here already and I need to start to work on the garden I planted in the yard for you last year. Time has healed a bit, but it is going to be a long long time for me to get to a new level of, I dont know, life I guess as they say, without you. I still cry at least once daily in one way or the other. There is alway something that reminds me of you. I will laugh about something we did together and then think, how sad it is that you are not here to make new memories. Everyone… Continue

Added by JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 on April 24, 2010 at 2:32pm — No Comments

STAY STRONG

tHIS IS FOR EVERY ONE WHO HAS LOST A LOVED ONE RECENTLY OR NOT SO RECENT. i URGE YOU TO STAY STRONG THAT WILL KEEP THEIR MEMORY ALIVE AS THEY WOULD WANT YOU TO DO. AND WHILE YOU ARE STAYING STRONG YOU CAN COPE WITH YOUR LOSS A LOT EASIER. IT IS NEVER EASY TO LOSE A LOVED ONE . BUT IF YOU ARE STRONG YOU HAVE A BETTER CHANCE OF MAKING A STRONGER JOURNEY WITH YOUR GRIEF. SO WHEN YOU ARE DOWN REMEMBER HOW MUCH THEY LOVED YOU AND THEY YOU WILL STAY STRONG FOR THEM....GOD BLESS ALL OF… Continue

Added by libby poff on April 24, 2010 at 10:31am — No Comments

Expressing and Processing Emotions in Grief Therapy Part Two

The proper atmosphere for grief therapy should be a combination of warmth (gentleness) and structure (firmness). The mixture of these two, provides a safe place to express and analyze the difficult feelings surrounding loss. A feeling of safety is needed to help moderate the anxiety associated with sharing intense emotions. But learning also requires that a certain amount of anxiety be present. Too much and we cannot take in what is going on. Too little and motivation to learn may be… Continue

Added by David Fireman on April 24, 2010 at 8:00am — No Comments

hey everyone

hi my name is shannon my son was first dx back june 4 2002 at age of 3 half he had surgery chemo radation well it was all gone he been in reamission 4 7 half yrs he was doing so great his mri been so good he was get them every year well i notice his left arm was just like it hanging left foot was swollen and mouth seen like he had a stoke so went see cancer doctor on a wensday jan 14 2010 then set up mri the next day well we got very bad news that jonathans had two tumors that came back in his… Continue

Added by shannon on April 24, 2010 at 12:46am — 2 Comments

new member

I lost my 38 year old husband 3 months ago and have not really been able to find a support group that I feel comfortable in. So I thought I would try this one. How do you guys get through your day? Does it get easier? What are some coping skills that have helped.....

Added by ashley baxter on April 23, 2010 at 4:07pm — No Comments

Talk about death is alive and well

Is awareness of all things death-related a perception thing? That once you’ve lost someone, you become more aware of the buzz around you about death and grieving? Or is it that, as part of the aging process, we are all more accepting of our mortality and others’ too? Or could it be that as we age and lose loved ones, we are all just plain paying more attention to the topic – and talking about it more?

A recent spate of death-related stories in the media – all this month – leads me…

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Added by Susan Soper on April 23, 2010 at 12:30pm — 3 Comments