May 2010 Blog Posts (66)

Coping With The Loss Of My Beloved Husband

Hi, my name is Lupe, I am 42 yrs old and I have 2 daughters, a son and a granddaugher.

Tragically, 3 weeks ago I lost my beloved husband of 20 years in a car accident due to a careless driver.

Our 10 yr old son was in the truck with my husband. He was air lifted to a trauma hospital in another state. He suffered a bruised spine, torn ligament and swelling in the kneck, hemotoma in the abdomen causing him to loose alot of blood, sprained wrist, severe burns on his body from… Continue

Added by Lupe on May 30, 2010 at 11:06pm — No Comments

HERE IS THE INJUSTICE WE DEAL WITH...ALL OVER AMERICA...

MY SON ELOY CONRAD DURAN III GETS NO JUSTICE VIA OUR LEGISLATIVE PROCESS...MURDERER JOVANI MUNIZ GETS LESS THAN A SLAP ON THE WRIST...RATHER, HE NOW GETS A CHANCE TO GET AN EDUCATION, AND A DEGREE, AND GET OUT OF THE YOUTH OFFENDER SERVICE (SIMPLY A COLLEGE FOR MURDERERS) IN 6 YEARS SCOTT FREE...NO PAROLE, NO PROBATION...FREE TO MURDER AGAIN...FREE TO DO WHATEVER HE WANTS TO DO...AGAIN... COMPLIMENTS OF YOUR AND MY TAX DOLLARS...THIS IS NOT JUSTICE, THIS IS A NIGHTMARE THAT IS SANCTIONED BY OUR… Continue

Added by ELOY CONRAD DURAN II on May 29, 2010 at 6:54pm — No Comments

Mena Gene Moseley

My daughter Mena would have been 10 years old this year on May 30. On May 29th 2000 I was 37 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I hadn't felt my baby move all day. I had read "What to expect when you're expecting" and read that some babies get very still once their birth gets closer. I had been having contractions but nothing too serious. I called the after hours clinic and spoke to a nurse and gave her my symptons. She told me to drink orange juice and lay down on my side. The sugar should make my…

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Added by Cynthia on May 29, 2010 at 7:00am — No Comments

going on here is new to me. i find the days being harder to deal with my mothers death. i need something to help me. although i have alot of friends and family i still find it to be extremely difficu…

going on here is new to me. i find the days being harder to deal with my mothers death. i need something to help me.

although i have alot of friends and family i still find it to be extremely difficult. i visit my mother weekly at the cemetary to bring flowers and i find my self crying hystericaly there. i feel that she is there and i can talk with her . but is this helping or hurting me? i ask myself how am i going to go on without her? and at times i feel how can i go on without her?i… Continue

Added by lisa on May 29, 2010 at 6:17am — No Comments

Holistic Grief Scale

Grief is the natural, healthy, spontaneous, unlearned, normal, emotional, healing process that occurs after a significant loss.

Grief is experienced uniquely by each of us, and is often experienced in waves, with emotions, thinking, physical, social and spiritual/religious responses coming and going in terms of the intensity, duration and order of our reactions to the loss.

One of the keys to coping is awareness. Awareness is helped if you can learn about yourself. This… Continue

Added by David Fireman on May 28, 2010 at 2:46pm — 15 Comments

my son dez.

dez was a wonderful young man... and he will always be missed...

Added by helen rodriguez on May 28, 2010 at 7:51am — 1 Comment

Some Poems That Fit Right Now!

I know I have to let you go.

How I will, I do not know.

I know that it's your time to die.

What I don't know is how to say goodbye.

I'll miss you so much

I don't know what to do.

I guess I'll just end this poem

with a goodbye and an I love you.

I thought of you with love today

but that is nothing new

I thought about you yesterday

and days before that too,

I think of you in silence

I often speak your name

All I… Continue

Added by Hurting on May 26, 2010 at 7:23pm — No Comments

Why Did You Go?

Today it is 22 weeks. If I could get a chance to talk to you, I would like to ask following questions:

1. Why did you go so suddenly?

2. Did you hurt as bad leaving us as I am hurting since that day being deserted by you?

3. Why did you make those marriage vows of taking care of me in sickness and health if you were going to leave anyways?

4. Do you have even a tiny idea how bad all of us are affected by your sudden departure?

5. Are You Okay?

6. When will my… Continue

Added by Hurting on May 26, 2010 at 1:43pm — No Comments

My Frank

03/29/08 My husband left for work, he never got to come home! He worked at a concrete plant and as he walked out of the batch house (trailer in the middle of the plant) he looked to the left and saw an 18 wheeler with a co-worker in it waiving at him so he waived back and as he did a hollister bobcat with NO backup beeper backed over him and killed him instantly! I sure miss him and I too have a hard time leaving my house, once I'm out I feel better but it takes hours to get out....

Added by Ann Fuller on May 26, 2010 at 9:38am — No Comments

3 MONTH since....

It is three month now! I feel this nightmare is not ending for me 'just being here' without my Baby Fernando. I am still figuring out what I supposed to do, apart from making everyone aware of Lung Cancer and wanting to fight against the medical establishment. But what about Fernando and me we suppose to be together forever growing old so we can see our children bringing up our grandchildren and then we can fulfill the duty we so looked forward to 'spoiling' our gandkids rotten and smile when… Continue

Added by Fernandohulya on May 25, 2010 at 11:08am — 4 Comments

Happy Anniversary???

Well, today would have been 26 years for us..Amazing!! I can't believe that I have been without Tom for over a year. Life just keeps moving forward and I am just along for the ride. I am not sure I can keep up. I am just existing in this life. And as horrible as it sounds I am waiting for the time when we can be together again. Everyday is a countdown. I know that sounds so pathetic. I have our kids, and a new granddaughter, Lilyanna Tommi, to keep me going, but GOD how I miss my love!!!

I… Continue

Added by Marlena on May 25, 2010 at 9:48am — 2 Comments

It's been almost one year...

Over these last few months, I thought I'd finally gotten to a point where I was finding myself again. I haven't cried in months and been able to switch off my thoughts of you when they tried to consume me. I think with the aniversary of your death approaching this Thursday, I am unable to get you out of my mind. It still hurts so bad. You left me, and mom and dad. I just wonder if you knew everything that has happened since you left, would you have made the same decision? Do you still think the… Continue

Added by kat on May 25, 2010 at 3:00am — No Comments

feeling overwhelmed

i lost my husband on march 27 2010. then i lost the only grandpa i ever knew on may 16 2010. we have 8 kids and i just feel so lost.im doing every thing im suposed to do ,work, taking care of the kids, taking care of the house, and the animals i do write in a journal when i feel i need to and i read the bible when i can.but i do pray every night.i'm very spiritial and trying to give it all to god to handle for me but not too good at just being quit and letting someone else take the reins. also… Continue

Added by mischell on May 24, 2010 at 7:00pm — 4 Comments

The Legacy Connect site

I would like to thank everyone who is involved in this wonderful grief release. I have lost my sister, father, sister in law, uncle, nephew(21 yrs. old) and my sister- in- laws mother in 1 years time. Not counting the two long time friends of 30 yrs. Your support page has helped me release some of the grief that has just seem to take over. Once again,I want to thank each and everyone of you.
May God Bless
Sandy Cunningham

Added by Sandy Cunningham on May 24, 2010 at 6:08pm — No Comments

Fear of Change: How To Overcome It

Do not be afraid of change. Change forces you to grow and, hopefully, become a better, more fully developed person.

It is you who will decide how your grief will affect your life. On one hand, you can sink deep into your grief and never see that there is still life going on around you -- life in which you can participate. On the other hand, you can be proactive in adjusting to your new circumstances and see all the positive things around you.

As I’ve mentioned previously,… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on May 24, 2010 at 12:00pm — No Comments

FAILURE

I am a failure. I have always tried not to fail, to get good grades, be a good friend a good wife, a good mother, a good employee. But I am faced with the fact that I have failed. The ultimate failure is my daughter is not alive, she died, of no cause, no one can tell me what happened, why at 28 months my beautiful little girl did not wake up, she does not get to live and I failed her. Every single day I feel that failure in the fact that she is no longer here. I should be slathering her and… Continue

Added by Danielle on May 24, 2010 at 8:24am — No Comments

Jordan Ramirez

Here is my baby nephew who was chosen by god to leave us so soon. I love him so much and I really miss him and I want the world to know who Jordan was. He was so special to me and everyday is a struggle and I'm really trying.

Added by michelle rivas on May 23, 2010 at 11:02pm — No Comments

kevin my son

I lost my son jan 2009 to a massive heart attact, every time I think I'm through the grief it comes again. I know where my son is and with Jesus Christ.
I still can't get over the feeling I could ofbe more aware o9f his like his pain and love

Added by maureen elliott on May 22, 2010 at 1:14pm — No Comments

Another day down

Honey,

I just saw an ad for a new movie, its called "Despicable me". it is animated and I don't know why but in looking at the commercial I KNOW it would make you laugh, even though it is too old for you, I KNOW you would like it, I know what laugh it would be, the belly laugh that starts out slow and builds. I KNOW exactly what your face would look like as you smiled and what your body would feel like as it shook with the laughter. I know your sisters will want to see it but this… Continue

Added by Danielle on May 20, 2010 at 9:50pm — No Comments

Noah

Noah Leslie Mook 5/20/81-7/7/81

Noah is my 3rd son. Though his life was short, he left a legacy. He was not only my son but David's first chance to be the "big" brother. He was the big brother that Jason and Elizabeth haven't gotten to meet yet. He's Maddy's Uncle Noah and she sees his picture on the shelf. Even though he's been gone almost 29 yrs. There will always be a Noah shaped hole in my heart.

Happy Birthday Noah!… Continue

Added by Kathy Mook on May 20, 2010 at 9:43pm — 1 Comment