June 2010 Blog Posts (66)

HOSPICE: Good or Bad?

I just went through a terrible experience with the Hospice of Yuma (HOY) top managers and one particular nurse.

Mom died on June 22, 2010 of cancer in the liver. All of her medical doctors including one who posed as a medical doctor but in reality is that he is a Registered Nurse-Nurse Pratitioner. Two weeks ago I called his boss, Dr. Jose Maria Rocamora, MD at one of his three medical offices to set-up an appointment. The receptionist told me that he was already booked for a few… Continue

Added by Dr. Miguel Angel Contreras on June 13, 2010 at 9:13am — 1 Comment

grieving husband

my wife was killed 4/5/2010 in car accident.i had my wife for 28 years . the reality when your go out alone and come home to empty house is more than i can handle .i should not say empty house because she left me the cats and dogs and horses but without her there it's not the same . i miss her more than i can explain or describe . i wish i could say something that would help others in my situation because i know the key to helping self is helping others but i am too tied up praying for help for… Continue

Added by david on June 13, 2010 at 8:30am — 14 Comments


I think after my life turning upside down, and everything normal turned into abnormal, I think totally different now. I know before I used to have bad days, but robotically went through life to get to this point that I thought would bring me "happiness". My brother killed himself, because this place... either just gets further away, changes destinations, or when you reach the desination it isn't what you thought it would be. Hopelessness. This mental knowing that nothing will ever be calm and… Continue

Added by kat on June 13, 2010 at 1:43am — No Comments

Another life lost...

Working at the hospital, especially in ICU and trauma ICU, I come across suicidal/suicide attempt/suicide succeeded patients and family frequently. I've only been able to talk about my own loss with patients/family a couple times, literally twice. I wish I could build myself up more to make a difference in someone's life and try to show them the light at the end of the tunnel or offer support in someway. This morning is one of those mornings that I can't decide whether to step out of my comfort… Continue

Added by kat on June 12, 2010 at 5:03am — No Comments

Surrendering To Your Grief

Webster’s definition of surrender:

To give oneself over to something (as an influence)

To give up completely or agree to forgo especially in favor of another

Synonym: Relinquish --give up; to withdraw or retreat from

Sometimes grief is so painful and your loss so deep that you might want to surrender to your darkest emotions, but society tells you “you must be strong.”

What if society’s definitions of weak and strong are incorrect?

What if… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on June 11, 2010 at 10:30pm — No Comments

What to do with myself

Lost my husband of 37 years (1972) on Nov. 20, 2009.I loved him since I was 10 years old (55 now).He had a stroke in 1997 which affected his right side. Then another big one in 2007 which got his left side. From that time on he was in the bed. I tried to take care of him as much as possible and even learned to pick him up with a gaite belt to put him on the potty, etc. It was so hard to watch a young man slowly wilt away, but I am glad I was the one that went with him through it all. Now I… Continue

Added by Carolyn on June 11, 2010 at 1:06pm — 1 Comment


I hate this existence. It is truly nothing. It is get up, get what absolutely has to be done done, go to bed. There is not a smile, not a moment of joy. It is crossing things off a list. Things that have to be done so it appears to our children and the outside world like we give a damn. Cayden has three birthday parties this weekend so I will dutifully go to the store later and purchase gifts so she can go to the parties, appear normal and have fun. But it is not normal, it is not enough. Reese… Continue

Added by Danielle on June 11, 2010 at 11:08am — No Comments

She WILL be remembered for Pilates!

When I recently congratulated a good friend on becoming a certified Pilates coach, she perked up and answered right back, “Now I have a new item for my obit!”

Never mind that she has had a long and successful career as a real estate agent, is the mother of two, grandmother of four and a widely traveled, sophisticated beauty.

Pilates? This is important! She worked hard to qualify for this certification – going through 600 hours of grueling precision training…


Added by Susan Soper on June 11, 2010 at 9:30am — 1 Comment


my dad commited suicide 3 years ago, the first year is hard the second xmas you have come to terms with it, he was obviously depressed, alcoholic and mentally ill. i found a good counsellor to get over the three months after the funeral.

this may seem inappropriate but im desperately looking for realtives in boston, i am registered on ancestory.com. my granduncle william connell, born 1903 in kaelfadda goleen west cork ireland came via cork and new york to boston 1920/s 30s, died boston… Continue

Added by bernie coughlan on June 11, 2010 at 5:08am — No Comments

Happy Birthday to me - Missing my Junior so very much!!

Tomorrow, June 11, is my birthday . . my first birthday since my Junior left me on June 20, 2009. He was admitted to the hospital for a 2-day stay on my birthday last year. I just cannot believe that he will not be here this year--just another 'first' for me without him! I feel so empty and lost at times...all day, every day! It just seemed that our future was going to be spent together, traveling, fishing, and enjoying each other!! He would be having a fit over the oil spill in the Gulf. We… Continue

Added by Deb on June 10, 2010 at 9:24pm — 1 Comment

Grieving Alone

I lost someone who labeled me as his "Soul Mate" to cancer. We were so happy together until the age difference became an issue with his only daughter...I took a step back, but I never stop loving him. I wasn't there when he passed away...I don't know how to stop crying...I don't know how to deal with his passing...

Added by kristin on June 10, 2010 at 3:38pm — No Comments

MISSING YOU! (24 Weeks)

Time does not bring relief; they all have lied who told me time would ease me of my pain! I miss you in the weeping of the rain; I want you at the shrinking of the tide; The old snows melt from every mountain-side,and last year's leaves are smoke in every lane; But last year's bitter loving must remain heaped on my heart, and my old thoughts abide. There are a hundred places where I fear to go - because your memory haunts me at every turn. I enter with relief some quiet place where you never… Continue

Added by Hurting on June 9, 2010 at 8:00pm — No Comments


At 11:57am on June 9th, 2010, brandy said…

At 6:43pm on June 8th, 2010, brandy said…

Hi,my name is Brandy,this is new to me I'm not sure how I really feel ,I get scaread,worried,having to decide on things comes hard, I get upset easily&the nervousness keeps me awake,last night was rough I couln't sleep cause I knew I had to go away today.

The feelings are crazy,I lost my husband in Feb.& i don't know where i belong it's like I'm lost ,but yet I have to be… Continue

Added by brandy on June 9, 2010 at 12:03pm — No Comments

My cousin Zachrey.

Suicide. Everyone thinks they’ll never commit it or no one they know will commit suicide. Suicide is the leading cause of death in teens. It’s one of the most traumatic things to happen in a family. I was the person who thought “No one I know will commit suicide, everyone I know is happy with there lives.” I was also very wrong in my statement. The person I had least expected to ever think to commit suicide, did. It tore my world into tiny pieces when I heard the news of my cousins… Continue

Added by brittany on June 8, 2010 at 9:54am — No Comments

my mom died about 6 weeks ago ,i cried alot when it happened and during the funeral but when i got home after a few days i could not cry anymore, is this normal?

my mom died about 6 weeks ago ,i cried alot when it happened and during the funeral but when i got home after a few days i could not cry anymore, is this normal?

Added by curtis johnson on June 6, 2010 at 7:49pm — No Comments

Hi My Name is Cheryl and Im New to the Legacy

I lost my Brother and Mother the same day almost 8 months ago such a terrible loss to take on and get threw. I miss them both with all of me.

Added by Cheryl L. Ross on June 6, 2010 at 12:55pm — No Comments

my cousins suside.

his name was zachrey 19 in collage smart kid had a girlfriend who loved him. we had gotten close a cou[le summers back, and i changed his life, got him to stop being shy. and he thought that his girlfriend sarah was the greatest. he commited sucide in his dorm room. march 20 1010. i took it hard. i still do. i have anziety attacks. cry all the time. and its harder than anything ive been through.

Added by brittany on June 4, 2010 at 10:29pm — No Comments

Its been a while

It been 2 and a half years of the death of my son but it still hurts so bad

Added by Elaine Powers on June 4, 2010 at 7:27pm — No Comments

Lost my dad

I lost my dad on April 21, 2010 and I am having a hard time since his passing. Not only was he my dad but he was my friend. I feel hurt, bitter, and angry. I also feel that I have to be strong for my son and my mother. I hurt inside and don't have anyone to lean on. I feel so alone.

There are a lot of times while I am working that I have to fight back the tears and when I get home and alone I don't cry because I held them in for so long. Is this normal?

Added by Michael Williams on June 4, 2010 at 3:35pm — 2 Comments

What is getting past it mean?

I am encouraged by all the blogs I have read. You all are stronger than you think just to be able to get on here and communicate with other survivors it's awesome. We are that even though it does not feel like it most of the time especially when you heart aches so bad you can hardly breathe. My son Micheal died 4/11/09 in a single car accident when he struck a utility pole coming around a corner which I am sure he drove that same route hundreds of times but it was rainy and slick he lost… Continue

Added by Yvonne on June 3, 2010 at 9:10am — 2 Comments

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