June 2011 Blog Posts (84)

Somewhere in Time: Blenders and Shamrock Shakes

Like most kids a love of milk shakes begins in early childhood. The blending of milk, syrup, and ice cream, to make a refreshing drink made to a desired consistency to be slurped through a straw and promise an almost instant cooling. Timmy was no different. He was thrilled when I took him to the local Wawa…


Added by Martin Connors on June 19, 2011 at 4:00pm — No Comments

May 17, 2011 After 4:10 PM, Facing a New Reality

I was lead from the Family Room to the Emergency Room. I was crossing my arms across my chest; hugging myself – clutching my hat in one hand. I didn’t want to see my son lifeless. I wanted to see him sitting up in a gurney, embarrassed with a cut, a broken arm or leg. But that wasn’t meant to be. He laid there hospital gown and sheet. The intubation tube still in his mouth,…


Added by Martin Connors on June 19, 2011 at 12:00pm — No Comments

Happy Father's Day My Beautiful Boy

Hi Hun

This is a very hard day as I know these kids were your life and I know they will have what you so wanted them to. Thank you for today. I love you so very much and miss you so much my heart aches.

The signs........Thank you hun.

Love ya'…


Added by Colleen Pasay on June 19, 2011 at 11:04am — No Comments

Time !

Well I am doing something I didn't think I would have done. I am selling some of our things at auction it really is bitter sweet as I was pulling out the different clocks I remembered when it was bought, I'm just a little torn but it  needs to be done and for a good reason. I know you understand ! the talks we had tells me you would be ok with it. I will always have the great memories nothing will take them away. I am ok with it  and why I am doing it.  

Added by Virginia on June 19, 2011 at 8:00am — No Comments

A Father's Day 2011

Here I am on the eve of Father’s Day; a day that is supposed to honor fathers.  Instead of looking forward to the little homemade gifts and cards, I dread the thought as I grieve my son’s death.  My Timothy gave it a purpose.  I have fifteen years of Father’s Day memories that came from my son – from a Hallmark card written by his mother a month before his birth,…


Added by Martin Connors on June 18, 2011 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Angel ~ Sarah McLaughlin Video by one of the students at AR

Added by Martin Connors on June 18, 2011 at 2:45am — No Comments

Remember Sarah Rose Catherine Broeder!

By Mary Ulses, Northern Cochise Community Hospital Auxiliary


The Broeder Family has suggested that as a Memorial to their daughter, Sarah, donations be made to the NCCH Auxiliary Scholarship Fund. One of Sarah’s goals for her future was to study to become a labor and delivery nurse. The NCCH Auxiliary Scholarship Fund provides scholarships to Willcox students who plan to enter the healthcare field after high school. There is a collection jar in the Gift Shop or checks can be…


Added by Carol Broeder on June 17, 2011 at 10:00pm — No Comments

As I Mourn

Pull down the shades and draw the curtains,

Shut off the phone, lock the door; hang the black wreath

Allow me to feel the pain of my grief

Let me taste the burning salt of my angry tears


An unfinished story; pages torn and ripped out

Dented metal and a boy’s broken body

An angel wishes to escort him Home



Added by Martin Connors on June 17, 2011 at 9:30pm — No Comments

Bereavement Coping Measures

An S-O-S friend posed a question of what various ways have survivors found to help cope with the grief, and I'd really like to hear from the rest of you, some of the things that have worked for you.  What are the most helpful ways you have found to help comfort, encourage, renew hope, and stabilize your thoughts and emotions?

Here are a few of the things I've tried recently...



Added by Theresa Sweaney on June 17, 2011 at 6:00pm — 1 Comment

Father's Day without a Father


My Dad was consistent, loving and caring and no matter the…


Added by Linda on June 17, 2011 at 2:00pm — 1 Comment

Remembering Dear Old Dads (and Granddads)

Who will you be missing this Father's Day? I’ll be thinking about and missing my granddaddies, Ozell and Brooken. Granddaddy Ozell died in 2006, Granddaddy Brooken just this past fall. I was lucky to know them and have them in my life well into adulthood.


I miss their smiles, their laughs, the twinkling in their…


Added by LegacyConnect on June 17, 2011 at 12:30pm — 1 Comment

First Day of Summer Vacation

Today would be Tim's first day of summer vacation. I could see myself going to his room to wake him up and tell him that he can't sleep the summer away. Then watch Tim stagger down the stairs in a stupor to eat a bowl of cereal and then back up to take a shower. His mother and I would be talking about what to get him for his birthday next month, and of course it would be what… Continue

Added by Martin Connors on June 17, 2011 at 11:58am — No Comments

In Memoriam Ads

Q. I’m thinking about running an In Memoriam ad in the newspaper as the fifth anniversary of my daughter’s death approaches. Is it appropriate to do this so long after she died? How do I place the ad and how much does it cost? What should I say?


A. An In Memoriam ad is appropriate on the anniversary of a loved one’s death or birthday. For example, I recently saw an In Memoriam, placed by a son, on what would have been his late father’s 100th…


Added by Florence Isaacs on June 17, 2011 at 11:30am — 6 Comments

I just happened onto this by a passing of an extended family memory's obituary. I clicked on it and joined because I've lost a few people that were close to me. The most important one being my son wh…

I just happened onto this by a passing of an extended family memory's obituary. I clicked on it and joined because I've lost a few people that were close to me. The most important one being my son who passed on 11/3/06. It was a tragic accident and my grief continues, changed but there a times that hit me so hard. Be was 21 and had a two year old boy with a fiance who was six weeks pregnant. The baby is almost 4 and Hayden's six. They truly are gifts from him and do not know where I'd be… Continue

Added by robyn stimpson on June 17, 2011 at 8:00am — No Comments

My Tattoo

Tattoo I got for my son's memory and our relationship.

Added by Martin Connors on June 17, 2011 at 12:00am — No Comments

30 Days of Tears

Today, Thursday, June 16, 2011, will be 30 days since my Timmy was taken from me.  His high school invited us to the Freshman transition Mass, and to bring the gifts to the altar.  It was emotionally draining.  When I wake up, I go to my Tim's bedroom, hoping in vain to find him sitting on his bed playing a game or doing his homework.  I was allowed to speak to the students,… Continue

Added by Martin Connors on June 16, 2011 at 10:30pm — No Comments

A Corny Tribute to Two Dads

Every year when Father’s Day approaches, my husband and I pick up a debate that has been with us through 23 years of marriage. Is my dad’s fried corn better than his dad’s? Or vice versa?

It’s really kind of a moot point but a semantic exercise we enjoy annually.

When our two dads were still with us, both of them World War II veterans who knew their way around a kitchen or two, we happily…


Added by Susan Soper on June 16, 2011 at 5:00pm — No Comments

Somewhere in Time: The Real Santa

Every Christmas, multitudes of parents flock to the malls to stand in line waiting to have their children photographed with Santa.  There was no difference with my family when it came to Timmy.  I had graduated from the Police Academy in June, 1998 when Timmy was just shy of his third birthday.  Since Timmy was born friends had told his mother and…


Added by Martin Connors on June 15, 2011 at 10:30pm — No Comments

The First Feeling of Helplessness Somewhere in the Summer of 1999

I was working one day in the summer of 1999; I was on patrol with my partner.  I was a year out of the Police Academy.  In my uniformed hat I had a photo sticker of Timmy.  It was about an hour into the tour when I suddenly felt sick to my stomach.  I felt as if I was about to vomit.  I didn’t know why; this was new – I never felt this acute and sudden wave of nausea.  I…


Added by Martin Connors on June 15, 2011 at 3:00pm — No Comments

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