June 2011 Blog Posts (84)

Reconnecting After Loss

When a spouse passes away, you lose your most intimate connection in life. It was in the home that you built together where you felt most like yourself. You were able to bare your soul -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- and still be loved and accepted. Now that he or she is gone, you may be set adrift without a tether to anchor you securely. And so you flail loosely about as you navigate the stormy sea of…


Added by Ellen Gerst on June 14, 2011 at 6:00am — No Comments

Thank You

Thank you for all the love and support in the last two weeks, and especially in the last three days. Today, we buried our Baby Girl. It was rough -- and that's an understatement. But I think she would have loved the Rosary and the Mass. And she would have really, really appreciated all the love people showed her. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Added by Carol Broeder on June 13, 2011 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Timmy's 4th Birthday and Sesame Place

Timmy’s fourth birthday is a special memory.  He was an avid fan of Sesame Street, especially Elmo, the small red furry child monster Muppet on the show.  I had scheduled my summer vacation week off around his birthday so there wouldn’t be any interference by court appearances or work.  His mother and I decided to take him Sesame Place in Langhorne.  Sesame Place is a water…


Added by Martin Connors on June 12, 2011 at 2:30am — No Comments

My beloved husband Ernie passed away April 27, 2011

I an so relieved to have found this blog as only those that have lost a spouse or child can feel the pain and loneliness that we have been feeling and it is different than losing one's parents.  Ernie and I have known each other 45 years and married 39 years this August. Unfortunately we were not blessed with children and I've been feeling so alone. I am blessed with family and many good friends, but until one has experienced this type of death they cannot begin to imagine what it feels like. … Continue

Added by Marsha H on June 11, 2011 at 7:16pm — 3 Comments

found my dad and my sister????????NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!

This site is new to me and im definately not one for a pity party,and its hard to talk to people about death and depression cause nobody wants to be the "party pooper"maybe i can find some common ground on this site. my story in short.. when i was 15 i found my father aged 33 peacefully expired in his bed in our family home. i will always miss my dad but ive been able to finally remeber him with joy in my heart. when i was 25 tho, i found my little sister jillian 20, peacefully expired in my… Continue

Added by christina holz on June 11, 2011 at 1:23am — 3 Comments

Poems Written by Charlie White, Jr.

My son wrote the following poem for his farther-in-law's funeral who passed away suddenly just a month and a half before his own death.  He never knew how quickly the last sentence of his poem would come true.  He also wrote a poem for his wife's grandmother who passed away only a month before his death. He was so gifted - I hope God is putting all of his talents to good use in heaven....…

Added by Cathy on June 9, 2011 at 10:15pm — No Comments

Tough Day Today

Tough day today. Really tough day. Went through Sarah's room looking for things to display at her Rosary Sunday night. Found 11 library books that need to be returned, nine of which are books on planning a wedding...

Added by Carol Broeder on June 9, 2011 at 10:00pm — No Comments

Timothy's Strength

 I wrote this September 12, 2001. I wrote to exorcise my demons and tribute those that sacrificed; hoping it would inspire solace all from the words of a little boy, my son Timothy.  His simple little boy wisdom was spoken from an old…


Added by Martin Connors on June 9, 2011 at 12:30am — 4 Comments

My dad passed away June 2 2011>This has been one of the worst weeks in my life.I have paryed and asked God to please help me through this and make it a lil easier.For the last year my dad had been ve…

My dad passed away June 2 2011>This has been one of the worst weeks in my life.I have paryed and asked God to please help me through this and make it a lil easier.For the last year my dad had been very sick and had to have open heart surgery,the doctors told us he wouldn't make it through it but he did and came home a few days later,then eight months to the day he is gone.I just can't make myself believe that he is gone. Continue

Added by Kristina Shelley Johnson on June 8, 2011 at 1:41pm — No Comments

Feeling Connected to My Dad (It's Complicated)

Recently, I sat at dinner with my friend Fred discussing a writing project that involved using my high school journals and the lessons I learned from my years of running competitively in cross country and track. I said something about the difficult relationship I had with my dad and how I debated including that. Fred looked puzzled and asked, “I thought you and your dad were good buddies?”

At that point, I realized that Fred didn’t know about those years with my dad, the…


Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on June 8, 2011 at 9:30am — No Comments

The heart wants what the head can't deliver.

I have been a psychotherapist since 1975. I have spoken to many people who came to me about how the  head and the heart are not always in sync. I am living that in real time these days. My head knows that Rose is dead and not coming back but my heart refuses to accept it. I get in my car, turn on the radio and start crying. I tell her how much I miss her all the time. I went to a concert we both would have enjoyed and all I could think about was how much she would have liked it.The waves just… Continue

Added by Chicago Beard on June 7, 2011 at 11:30pm — 2 Comments

Walking Through Grief--Together

Last Saturday, The Center for Grief Recovery hosted its first-ever fundraiser walk to celebrate 25 years of service to the bereavement community.  The day was hot, but there was a cool breeze off lake Michigan and the trees offered nice shade. 


A group of 60+ people attended the walk, which began with welcoming remarks, a brief history of the Center and its mission, and an invocation by the Center's KC Conway, LCSW. 


Before the walk commenced, participants…


Added by David Fireman on June 7, 2011 at 11:30am — No Comments

Somewhere in Time -The Elderly Nieghbor and Her Trellises Door Cover

I’m sitting here on the sofa. Alone. Earlier tonight, my daughters were sitting on the neighbor’s step and I remembered when Timmy was about Alaina’s age, maybe four or five years old. There was a different neighbor living there at the time, an elderly woman that would sometimes give Timmy taffy or a chocolate. On the storm door at the time, she had a plastic trellises style cover over the screen. Timmy had sat on her step and she had come to the door and said she would be back with a treat.…


Added by Martin Connors on June 6, 2011 at 11:00pm — No Comments

The Performance

The spotlight brightens,

The music begins

I'm up on my toes

as I twirl and spin

I jump and I leap

From one side to another

feeling just the music

never any other.

I raise up in pointe

then down in plie

performing what I've practiced

for so long every day.

To dance is my dream,

I can't let it…


Added by Carol Broeder on June 6, 2011 at 12:30pm — No Comments

Our 1 Year is less then 24hrs away.

We have managed somehow through his birthday and all the holidays and now in just 24hrs on June 7th it will be 1yr since my son Christian left us for Paradise.

The more I hear that time heals the more I want to scream!

I "thought" even sometimes "think" I am doing better, then Boom! Something or someone triggers it again and again and again.

My ex-husband (Christian Father) this his only son has turned to memorializing him…


Added by Nancy Holiman on June 6, 2011 at 11:32am — No Comments

Love and Sticky Date Pudding

On my second trip to Australia, I was in a Melbourne restaurant with several friends for dinner when one of them, an Australian, went with me to pick out a dessert. There was this gloppy mess of a cake and I asked Susan what it was. “Oh, that’s very Australian,” she said. “It’s sticky date pudding.” As she would later say, it’s mostly made up of butter and sugar (plus some dates). While looking quite like a messy cake, and obviously very sticky, it’s a wonderful dessert that I…


Added by Michelle Rusk (Linn-Gust) on June 6, 2011 at 9:00am — No Comments

Reaching out on Father's Day

It's become hard to escape Father’s Day, as the holiday, like Mother's Day, has taken on a commercial spin. You’ll find restaurants touting special menus, stores producing Father’s Day catalogs, and every type of greeting card you can imagine, for dad, grandfather, son, uncle, cousin, friend, or you name it.

So if you can’t escape it, how do you take the sting out of the first, or second or third for that matter, holiday that a friend or loved one experiences without their…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on June 6, 2011 at 8:30am — 2 Comments

May 17, 2010 Sometime after 4:10 PM Taking My Hand

I begged the nurse to take me to see him.  I begged and begged.  I was crying.


“Mister Connors, please.  They’re cleaning him up a bit for you to see him.”  The blonde nurse said.  She had tears streaming from her eyes.…


Added by Martin Connors on June 4, 2011 at 6:30pm — 1 Comment

May 17, 2011 Tuesday 4:10 PM

I’m sitting in the chair.  The doctor had just walked in, quietly shutting the door behind him. He was a young black doctor, light-medium complexioned.  For some reason, I thought he looked like Tiger Woods.  He had the grim look on his face.




Added by Martin Connors on June 3, 2011 at 10:30pm — 4 Comments

Extending support in the wake of natural disasters

With tornadoes and floods dominating the news, it’s easy to feel helpless in the wake of such personal tragedy. In this technology-driven world, we’re witnessing breaking news, reading, seeing and hearing first-hand how these disasters personally impact individuals and communities. Who can forget the faces of those interviewed after losing their loved ones, homes, schools and places of employment?


We’ve seen acts of courage, heroism and extensions of human kindness, but with…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on June 3, 2011 at 11:30am — No Comments

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