Care giving causes mix emotions ..feelings of loss, shock and confusion...We need to share our thoughts with a trusted friend..Also pour out our feelings to God...he gives us that inner peace... Some of us have wrote our feelings on this site.

Trouble and sorrow is ahead...So I best prepare in advance

regarding their wishes NWT PS 90:10

Losing a loved-one is extremely hard. While legal complexities are the last thing anyone wants to think about at such a time, it is important to know basic legal procedures so as to proceed in the most appropriate manner. This infographic, courtesy of Clark Skatoff PA explains the rights of the surviving spouse: …

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My dad passed away eight months ago. He battled with his sickness for a long time. I was hard to watch and help. I am the youngest of his children in only 20. I have five older siblings. When my dad got sick my mom changed some how I turned into the mom for my siblings and my mom everyone leaned on me and they still do. But the fact is I have no one to lean on I always leaned on my dad for support and now he is gone. The fact is for eight months I have been holding back my pain from losing my… Continue

Just an ordinary day for us, Pride Day... just an ordinary photo of us riding the city's electric train to the downtown Pride Day parade.  I think we stayed for about 2 hours before heading home to see the dogs.  Every day was Pride Day, for us no need to make a big deal of it because we didn't give a damn what anyone thought.  And I still don't.  But we understood its original intent and significance; we both dealt with discrimination, ignorance, religious bigotry, downright blind hatred of…

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As a watch the television, I hear of great sadness in Charleston.

They say that a young white male shot up a black church..

As a watch television, I see methodist killing methodist and

christians killing christians

As a watch television, I see tribal wars in other nations.

Can we all just get along? I hate the racial tension among us

I cant wait to the time when every nation can serve together without killing each other -NVT Revelation 7:9

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Q. In my bedroom I display an 8x10 photo of my late husband at his best. Smaller photos that include him (shots of happy family events and our many trips) are scattered…

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There are reminders of my mother all over the house; the family heirlooms I inherited, the gifts she gave me, family photographs, and the personal items I chose to save. I would not part with the family heirlooms or her handwritten recipe cards, but what about all the letters, cards, and her personal items I elected to keep?…

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I found this Father's Day note from the doggies on the kitchen counter last year, next to my coffee cup, the usual place where Tim knew they'd be seen first thing in the morning, starting my day off right. 

Myl husband had stage 4 brain cancer and was sick for a very long time.  I feel I can recover this loss better if I attend support group meetings to learn how other people cope with the loss of a loved one.  I am not sure how to research group support meetings and how I can learn the guidelines of attending an event.

Researchers say that we should keep it simple and dont try to hide our grief. However, what about autistic children? Do they really grasp the concept of death? NVT 1 Cor 14 :9  I think about my sister daily....

A couple years ago Tim drove my big black convertible over the mountains from Seattle to Kennewick for an overnight visit with his mom, Arlis Wennberg.  Shown is the result of 1) not using sunscreen and 2) driving a big black convertible 80 mph through the high desert of Eastern Washington. 

I first met his mom in the early 1990s, shortly after we'd moved in…

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Funeral Cosmetology Service Provider When the family of a deceased person is making arrangements, the funeral home administrator attends to a multitude of details and might overlook the fact that cosmetology care is available for the deceased.

Therefore, this…

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 I want to share one lesson that I have learned since the passing of my beloved Noreen 34 months ago. In my case it has to do with my sons...no daughters.. and other family members who have not even mentioned her name to me or talked about her in well over a year,  This is a mother who at one time worked 49 straight days....sometimes 10 hours a day....in a hot manufacturing plant so that her family could have a better life.

  It seems that they are ignoring her sacrifice and her very…

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I was reading the account about the ressurrection.

I came across the account about Lazarus and how Jesus wept

Luke 11:38-44...I weep today ....may God take away our anxieties

I hope everyone is taking one day at a time

I just had to have a talk to with my fiancé . He said he's concerned about me , concerned about my drinking and I don't blame him I am too. Ever since I ended up in the ER from drinking so much that my stomach became inflamed. Truth is it's easy to be drunk it's hard to be sober, I miss my brother Joshua so much. I know I need to seek help(from my pastor, counsoler  or a support group. I know I've had a problem with drinking in the past and I a couple of days ago I was drinking with my mom…

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With several high profile deaths in the news there have been many media references to grief and what actions help the bereaved. There are no new insights, just reminders on the vital role we each can play in helping the bereaved heal following a difficult loss.

Let’s start with what does not help; avoiding or…

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I feel like I'm just barely here.  I feel like it's all reversed, backward, looks sorta the same but not really, like I'm in some kind of parallel universe.  My family believes I'm so strong, so smart, that I have a such level head, that I'm an incredible survivor, that I'll be fine.  That's what they tell me anyway - and knowing them as I do I'm glad they feel comfortable…

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Tim loved him some coffee.  I think it's a Norwegian-Swedish thing.  He also loved Tom Jones.  I took him to a concert at the Paramount in Seattle years ago - it stuck with him like we'd just come home from it.  He had excellent taste.  Most of the time.  I wasn't sure he wasn't serious when he pointed out a flavor to add to his espresso bar collection at home.  …

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I caught him in the act, sneaking donuts that he wasn't supposed to ever be eating in the first place.  I couldn't help myself, I laughed and took his photo.  He was such an imp.