I would imagine that anyone who has suffered a tragedy at some point – in my case, the suicide of my brother nine months ago – hears comments to this effect: “Oh, but compared to what you’re going through, my problems are meaningless … I feel silly telling you.” I know these comments come from a place of kindness, but it can be incredibly frustrating.

After a tragedy, the hardest thing…

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My mother’s birthday was July 25. She would have been 87, hard for me to even imagine as she died at age 45 in 1968 – 42 years ago. A whole lifetime ago. So many culture changes ago. So many upheavals ago – none of them, however, as devastating as losing a mother at a young age.



As my avocation is reading and writing obituaries, wanting to always know more about what makes people tick – even when they are no longer ticking – I’ve been thinking about how her…

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People express concern in finding the right words to write a truly appropriate condolence note. But it's not your mastery with words that's important; what are truly special are messages that come directly from your heart.



When someone dies, the bereaved are left with their memories. You can add to those memories by sharing your personal thoughts, anecdotes, shared experiences, and remembrances of the deceased. In doing so, you are giving the bereaved a priceless…

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round here he's always on my mind

round here (hey man) i got lots of time

round here we're never sent to bed early and nobody makes us wait

round here we stay up very, very, very, very late.



i can't see nothing, nothing round here (oh)

won't you catch me if i'm falling?

won't you catch me if i'm falling?

won't you catch me cuz i'm falling down on…

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It is a couple of weeks after the funeral of your spouse. Relatives have gone home, the kids may be back at school or gone back to their own homes, friends aren't stopping by that often, and you are feeling very sad and alone. Every time you open the closet to choose your clothing for the day, you are confronted with your dead spouse's array of clothing. You can hardly look at the clothes, for they bring back the painful memory that they will not be worn again by your loved one.



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Robby,

Its been 10 long months, and I still cry at the drop of a hat. I don't think I will ever be able to go inside of a Toys R Us again. I have gotten better about it all though. I can talk about you without crying...sometimes. I really needed you on Saturday. But I made it. One day at a time. Just keep moving. I have taken on so much work and volunteering that no one knows how I manage. I still can't sleep without dreaming something terrible. Last night, dad killed himself…

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MY DAD PASSED AWAY APRIL 6TH 2004 IT SEEMS LIKE ONLY YESTERDAY...DEALING WITH HIS LOSS IS VERY HARD HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND I LOVED HIM DEARLY......KNOW DEALING WITH MY MOTHER HIS SPOUSE IS ALSO VERY HARD........

Lost my mom to pancreatic cancer 17 days ago, I am 45 yrs old and thought i would be able to handle her passing but i have found i am a big mess, i cant stop thinking about her or crying and i cant find joy in anything sometimes i think the pain is going to swallow me up. I know she is gone but it seems unreal...

This is a bad month for us as her birthday is tomorrow and our anniversary is the 29th.

Rose passed to God's hands May 31st, 2007 sometime between midnight and about 3:00 or 4:00 in the early morning in her sleep. She had been ill and progressively getting worse so maybe it was Gods way of relieving her of her pain.

I have multiple medical issues as well but they were mostly under control. In the last year my neurological issues have been geeting to the point that I had…

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Ask My Mom How She Is

~Author Unknown



My Mom, she tells a lot of lies,

She never did before

But from now until she dies,

She'll tell a whole lot more.

Ask my Mom how she is

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Hello Members of Legacy Connect...



I came across this website hoping I can meet people that can relate to the what I'm going through...not sure if this is where I put this...



I have now been suffering it will be 3 months at the end of the week the sudden lost of my fiance...today I could say was an OK day...but I have had worst...I will go into detail at a later time..like I said I'm having an OK day so I'd like to try to keep that way...but if someone could be so kind to… Continue

Hi, I just joined today. I was looking for some kind of peace to the day I have had. It's been a little over 5 1/2 years since my daughter passed. She was only 8 days old, but we went through hell to keep her here. I re-lived those days today....again. I had her at full term, but a mid-wife on duty messed things up for us that day and for the 8 days to follow. Who knew a bad judgement call would affect my husband and I the way it has. I stay so angry and hurt, but mostly numb. I allow myself to… Continue

How do you face each morning? I cared 24/7 for my husband for the last 8 years. Mornings seemed the worst for me.

Moonlight slanting

by Matsuo Basho

Moonlight slanting

through the bamboo grove;…

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