AMY,

WE SO MISS YOU SO MUCH BUT AS TIME GOES ON, WE SEEM TO HEAL A LITTLE EACH DAY. WE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU AND YOUR SMILES.  EVERYONE THAT KNEW YOU SAYS THE SAME. YOU HAVE TOUCHED SO MANY IN YOUR SHORT LIFE. KEEP SMILING AND SENDING HUGS AND SIGNS.

WE LOVE YOU, MISS YOU TIL ETERNITY. XXXXXOOOOOO

WE MADE IT THROUGH TODAY WITH YOUR HELP AND THE LORD ABOVE, WE KNOW YOU ARE IN GOOD HANDS.

HUG GRAMPA, AND FAMILY FOR…

MyMum committed suicide about a month ago, after several attempts about a year ago, after which I volunteered to be her carer. I didn't know what else to do.Things seemed to be fine, although I know I could become exasperated with her. She had emphysema and leukemia, and was on oxygen fulltime. She had become,gradually,very needy and dependant, always asking questions to which she knew the answers already,always worrying about the smallest,most insignificant thing. It was hard looking after…

My 6 yr old Granddaughter was shot and killed by her 2 yr old brother (my Grandson) on May 29,2011. I been overwhelmed with so many emotions and have no clue where to turn to. It was a terrible accident that could have been avoided so my anger is at an all time high and I don't know what to do with it.

Q. I just heard that the mother of an old friend died several months ago. I haven’t seen or talked to the friend in over a year due to her move to another state and my own busy life. Her mom was very kind to me when I was a teenager and needed all the positive reinforcement I could get. I’d like to send a condolence note, but so much time has passed and I feel embarrassed about losing touch. Should I write or not? What can I…

Grief changes you. A widow said that she no longer knew who she was and that she was getting to know the “new” Sarah. You cannot go into such a deeply emotional loss and just pick up where you were before the death occurred. You are forever changed, but that does not have to be a bad thing. As you rebuild your life and discover your “new normal,” you may discover aspects of yourself that…

Hi Everyone,

First please forgive me for taking so long to reply to you.

I am swamped with work! (I created it, so maybe I better not complain)

(Laughing!) Also, it is good to keep busy! Less time to think!

I sure hope you are doing OK? Please do not be as bad as I am, as far as responding!

I have a legitimate excuse, though!

I just had my second book published. It is titled, "More Than…

The tenth anniversary of 9/11 has passed.  The thoughts I had ten years ago, five years ago, and even last year have changed.  I taught my son to commemorate heroes, not to put them on pedestals but honor them still as the brave human beings they were – not gods or becoming someone’s personal angel.  I wanted him to understand the human condition in what it surmounts to with…

Yes, faith is a goodly anchor;

When skies are sweet as a psalm,

At the bows it lolls so stalwart,

In bluff, broad-shouldered calm.

And when over breakers to leeward

The tattered surges are hurled,

It may keep our head to the tempest,

With its grip on the base of the world.

But, after the shipwreck, tell me

What help…

I'm invisible,,so long as I grieve.  Family here 'waiting' for me to be normal again.  Grief counseling is ok, guess it helps, for a day.  Hub wants me 'involved' in 'something' ...sweet mary and joseph, why can they not see.   hub tries, he does, my grief just creates more stress on him.  And that makes me feel worse.  The other 'two' here, just steer clear of me,,unless it looks like i'm in a good mood.  RARE.   I hate it here sometimes.  No friends, no one to talk to, about how I feel,…

 There are groups all across the country that help people deal with loss and grief of all kinds.  I have not found any in New Mexico.  NM, as a state, is lacking many resources in many areas (education, mental health support to name a couple).  I am interested to hear from any one who may know of a group or individual counseling support dealing with loss, grief, depression as a result of past issues that just never seem to "go away".    

As the 10^thanniversary of 9/11 hovers around us all this week, it’s difficult for those of us who didn’t suffer the direct hit – whether in human loss or up-close trauma – to think about how we can pay tribute to those who died, to those who saved, and to those who were left behind to endure their grief.

Never before had our country been so publically bombarded with every moment of that horrific tragedy, shown over and over on televisions that day and on…

Not a day goes by that I don't have Mother in my thoughts.  She taught me so much, mostly by "example."  Mother never had a bad word for anyone, even if it was justified.  She taught me how to communicate with a family member who was 35 years old and born with Cerebral Palsey.  His name was Brucie.  His mother never put him away.  He was in…

It's September; summer is coming to an end, kids are back in school. And here at LegacyConnect, we are thinking about suicide: how to prevent it and how to support the bereaved.

September 4-10, 2011, is designated as National Suicide Prevention Week (…

My phone kept ringing the morning of September 11^th as I worked with a client. I finally answered and learned the first airplane had hit the World Trade Center; and then the second. I quickly concluded the appointment and watched the news. I then walked outside, and despite the beautiful fall day, my suburban DC neighborhood was eerily quiet. There were no airplanes or helicopters overhead; no dogs were walked and no children played outside. No cars entered my neighborhood. It…

Getting Ginger was one of the few times I openly defied my dad. Mom wanted a dog, he didn’t. After their bird Livvie died suddenly in August 2005, he made it clear he didn’t want to attach to anything or anyone anymore. Period. But I thought because Mom wanted a dog, she should have one, sending me to the Albuquerque shelter where an employee led me to a fat, sad-looking white Labrador Retriever whose eyes held no happiness. He had suggested this particular dog because I explained my mom…

When Tim was about 7 years old, Old Country Buffet was pushing to have their restaurants labeled kid friendly.  Part of this campaign was to go after the sweet tooth of juveniles across the country by having a commercial showing a kid making a mammoth dessert from chocolate chip cookies, soft ice cream, pie, cake, whipped cream and sprinkles.  Tim being no different asked if…

September 4-10, 2011, is designated as National Suicide Prevention Week (www.suicidology.org) and September 10, 2011, (www.iasp.info) is World Suicide Prevention Day. Don’t miss out on your chance to learn more about how to help others. Many times we don’t know how much people are hurting until we ask. Don’t be afraid to ask because you never know when you might save a…