October 2009 Blog Posts (36)

depressed and sad

i wake up today feeling depressed again and not knowing what to do everything that im us to is gone know i found myself picking the phone up and calling grandma's home phone when i relized she would not pick i hung up and started to cry. when does the pain stop and when will i feel like my heart is not gonna brake anymore i wish i had friends who understand what im feeling everyone is to wrapped up in what there doing . i write down my feelings becouse they say it will help but even that does… Continue

Added by diane adcox on October 30, 2009 at 3:20pm — No Comments

National Cemetery Funerals and Burials

Who is eligible for a national cemetery funeral or burial?

Q. A relative’s husband, a retired officer in the Armed Forces, just died and will be buried in Arlington National Cemetery. I was surprised. I thought only Medal of Honor winners and other heroes are buried in Arlington. What are the eligibility requirements?

A. There are actually 130 national cemeteries in the United States where free burial benefits include a…

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Added by Florence Isaacs on October 27, 2009 at 12:00pm — 1 Comment

God Bless the Child

The day after my son died, I awoke with the realization I had joined a union of parents that had lost a child. Does it really mater how? Not really, the joy from that child has been taken, from this earthly plane; to live in a better place. I look to the heavens often and say my prayers so that they know I'm staying connected through the higher power. My son was so loved and yet he strugled to find love. It was all around him. He could paint it, draw it, but he could not apply it to himself. So… Continue

Added by Sage on October 27, 2009 at 10:29am — No Comments

What not to do

A young woman who was eight months pregnant gave birth to a stillborn baby. Overcome with grief, she called her supervisor at work and requested he notify her colleagues by e-mail so she wouldn’t have to individually tell her devastating news. It seemed a simple request, but when she returned to work, she learned her supervisor did not notify her colleagues and they were each stunned when she painfully shared the news. Not knowing what to say or do, they avoided her and she felt shunned and…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 26, 2009 at 6:30pm — No Comments

my baby boy

my sons name is Joshua Keith Petrea. He was 17yrs old and was heniously and brutaly murdered. He was a Honor roll student, very active in our church and was attending college after hs, allready accepted by acodemic skills. He had a great and well thought out future ahead of him. He was loved by everyone that new him and would give his last dollar to a stranger. (in fact he did once)here is my story.

Joshua was on his way to longview with a friend to eat pizza and hang out. While they… Continue

Added by carol on October 26, 2009 at 8:07am — No Comments

Making New Traditions

In my last posting I talked about the one year anniversary.

Other tough days may include your loved one’s birthday; a wedding anniversary; and those difficult holiday times that are fast approaching.

No doubt about it ~ there are going to be changes in how you celebrate.

The best advice I can offer is to have open and honest communication with your family and friends about their expectations, the changes you envision, and how you plan to implement the… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on October 26, 2009 at 7:00am — 2 Comments

New to me

Just found this site. My sister died 2 weeks ago at 53. Still not sure why. they think heart failure. She wasn't sick. so many conflicting feelings. the saddness, anger at her for dying, unresolved issues. I have heard there are 7 stages of grief...want to go right to number 7 so these feelings will go away.

Added by Pam on October 25, 2009 at 8:47am — No Comments

What will happen to your pets and livestock when you die?

While you’re organizing your records and considering loved ones wrapping up your affairs, you may wonder how to plan for your pets and livestock. What will happen to them when you die? Who will take them and care for them? Here are some tips for planning care for your animals when you’re no longer able.

Today, while you have the time and you’re…

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Added by Melanie Cullen on October 24, 2009 at 1:00pm — No Comments

grief is everlasting

dec 20 2009 it will be 2 years since losing my husband and as time passes the grief grows deeper and the holidays I fear the most ,never will a happy occassion for me,when god takes your loved one he also takes your heart,

Added by violet la pollo on October 23, 2009 at 9:17pm — No Comments

MY MOMMY

Im destroyed i feel lost, even though im a grown women with grandchildren of my own the loss of my wonderful mother is overwhelming and I know I will grieve her loss for the rest of my life because she was my everything. I feel like im in a dark tunnel and will never see light again. the pain is unbeliveable but thats my only feeling otherwise i feel numb.

Added by helene rusty osser on October 22, 2009 at 7:50pm — No Comments

today was hard

It seems lately it is harder to get up in the morning. It takes everything to get up and go wake up the kids and then I go lay back down. I don't get up until I absolutely have to. When I finally got up this morning I was trying to find something to wear and when it came to finding my boots, they were my sisters, I couldn't find the other one. I searched my bedroom and I had my kids looking for them. I didn't want to wear another pair i wanted those ones. I ended up taking too long and made us… Continue

Added by Trisha on October 21, 2009 at 9:40pm — 1 Comment

Loss of a son

On Sept. 21,2009 I buried my first born, he had just turned 22 on the 19th. He spent his birthday weekend in the arms of an angel. I have been very strong through this whole tragedy but I know I will have my day. He had just spent 90 days in a detention center for a DWI, 45 of which he chose inpatient therapy for abuse of pills. He was "clean" out for 1 week and so excited to stay that way. He had so many things he wanted to do, we found his list later going thru his journal. His death is under… Continue

Added by Valerie on October 21, 2009 at 2:33pm — 1 Comment

What to expect at a Unitarian Memorial Service

The Unitarian faith is a practical religion that believes in economy. Most members cremate their dead and they hold memorial services that are a celebration of life, scheduled at a date convenient for the family.

Their memorial services are personal with favorite music and readings. The families are very involved in their planning and they often share funny and poignant stories of the deceased. Attendees are invited to participate so if you knew the deceased and have a story to…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 20, 2009 at 8:30am — No Comments

Miss My Mom

Mom passed away February 25, 2002 and I miss Her every day and night and She was/is my best friend. She was very kind and sweet. I am older now and lived with My Mom all my life or She lived with me..............doesn't matter which way as we were together 58 years. I can't get past the denial stage and go to a psychiatrist and a therapist. I take medication however none of that really helps. I am very depressed and have many friends and do go out and attempt to be okay however coming home is… Continue

Added by GailM. on October 18, 2009 at 8:21am — 5 Comments

hardship

my only true sister was murdered she was 20 years old and was living in louisana. the mafia killed her . That was in 1994 and now my uncle just died and i'm having a hard time dealing with this

Added by brenda whitefield on October 17, 2009 at 10:50pm — No Comments

death

mom why did you leave me that day? i thought that time went by id be fine, but i was a fool to think that way. who am i without you? i don't even know, it scares me to think of what direction i will go. without your guidance and without your love i am a ticking time bomb. i don't know if the decisions i make are right or if there wrong.i made you such a big part of me and now i don't know who to be.i wish i could talk to you one more time and ask you what to do, but I'm stuck here without you.… Continue

Added by michelle foster on October 17, 2009 at 9:23pm — No Comments

you were my best friend

U were my mother and my best friend now ur gone for good u were so complicated and so misunderstood. I know the burden u carried was heavy but now u passed it down 2 me all ur unhappy feelings and all us misery. Now im left with all these questions the hows and the whys i must accept the fact u chose 2 die. I dont know what made u do it maybe 2 much pride i just wish u would have stuck it out long enough 2 c me b a bride. Oh how i miss u mom these tears i cant control u will never get 2 c my… Continue

Added by michelle foster on October 17, 2009 at 9:22pm — No Comments