October 2013 Blog Posts (19)

Sudden death of my husband

Hello, my name is Mandy and I lost my husband, Officer Ryan Baird on October 7, 2013 to a fatal car accident.  He recently celebrated his 38th birthday 11 days prior to the incident.  I was shocked, in denial and beyond consolable when the officers came to my door that night to announce his death.  My children were upstairs screaming including our youngest Lundon who is 2yrs old.  I’ve felt my world was caving in on me and for the first two weeks I was an emotional wreck.  Leading…


Added by Mandy Baird on October 29, 2013 at 4:05pm — No Comments

Am I the only one who does not want to be bothered?

Why am I the only one not wanting to be bothered? Friends call me, text me, and I do not want to be bothered. My sister passed abruptly of lung cancer on, September 18, at 41. She was in the hospital for one month. Two weeks she was being treated for pneumonia, and the last two weeks, it was cancer. My friends don't seem to understand that I do not want to be bothered. I'm not being mean, but, right now, only God can counsel me.. Generic comments such as, "It will get better," or, "She's in…


Added by Jojo on October 22, 2013 at 2:35pm — 1 Comment

My loveable Boyfreind

I lost my boyfriend on April 29, 2013. I was in the hospital  because I was told that I had congested heart failure. I was in the hospital at KU FOR 13 DAYS UNTIL I was discharged and sent to medical lodge for the rest of the month to get better. I would like to tell you a little about my loveable boyfriend that passed away of a massive  heart attack in our apartment.. PAUL  & I  were together for nineteen beautiful years. We were never apart while were were dating for 19 years. Paul was…


Added by Blanche Louise Nelson on October 21, 2013 at 5:30pm — No Comments

Why write sympathy thank you notes?

When someone dies we are motivated to do something to both remember the deceased and to communicate our support to the bereaved. One of the most natural things to do following a death is to make a donation in memory of the deceased.

A donation, more lasting than a bouquet of flowers or a fruit basket, provides a tangible reminder to the bereaved that their loved one mattered. A contribution in a loved one’s…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 21, 2013 at 8:30am — No Comments


I lost my mum in jan 2012 and each month on the 21st i do not feel myself. I keep getting flashbacks to that day that my mum passed away.

I am coming up to the 21st again and know what way i am going to be but can anyone advise me when they are going to become any easier for me.

I know Birthdays and Anniversaries are hard for me to but this is nothing compared to this. I dread the date coming each month because it is always another month that my mum is gone and…


Added by sonya mcknight on October 19, 2013 at 9:46am — No Comments

New Free Resource at The Center for Grief Recovery

Dear Reader,

In an effort to better serve clients, colleagues, and the general public, the Center for Grief Recovery (the Center) is providing this free website-based bibliographic resource to broaden and deepen your knowledge and access to grief recovery related materials. Our aim is to support, encourage, offer hope and guidance to anyone, free of charge, wrestling with the meaning of their lives and the lives of loved ones in the wake of loss.

Materials included have been…


Added by David Fireman on October 19, 2013 at 9:08am — No Comments

My Dad

My Dad passed away unexpectedly on 1/27/13. I am not doing well with his death. I miss him everyday. Sometimes I think it gets worse not better I miss him more not less. Just one more day that I cant speak to him one more question I cant ask him, one more thing I cant share with him, god I miss his laughter. I listen to his voicemails often. I have this dream often and in it I am thinking I have not spoken to my Dad in so long I need to call him and someone tells me he is dead and I wake up…


Added by Celeste on October 17, 2013 at 4:13pm — No Comments

Losing my parents

Lost both parents just short of 2 months apart. June 16th for my daddy (Father's Day and my wedding anniversary). My mom, August 15th. My mom was diagnosed with a Grade 4 glioblastoma in April. She had resection surgery and was given 12-15 months. She made it 4 1/2 months. My dad during all this, fell and broke all the bones on the right side of his face and had numerous brain bleeds. He was responsive at first, but slipped into a coma. He continued to squeeze our hands and wiggle his toes for… Continue

Added by Susan E Allen on October 17, 2013 at 10:53am — No Comments

always in grief, trying to be happy

Being around adults is especially troubling to me. They are harsh and in a hurry and extremely judgemental. I have never felt special around them. I am happiest riding a mountain bike, gardening and painting and reading my books. These are all alone activities. Since I was severely abused as a child, I have been taught to be alone. It is too lonely, but I can't find someone that thinks like me. Family should have popped up for me by now. I think that my family is all about angels and other…


Added by Singing Rain on October 16, 2013 at 9:04am — 1 Comment

Joining Loss of Sibling Group...

 I thought it might be best to join a group for sibling specific since they do not have one here in DFW. My sister passed away at 34 in February after a 17 year illness.  I know, its early, there is no time on grief... I have heard it all, I am trying to deal with the fact I am so extroverted yet I cannot talk about her and leave the room when I am at home. My parents talk about her and "see signs" that she is around but that is their way of dealing with it and I don't get "signs" or maybe I…


Added by Trish W. on October 15, 2013 at 10:42pm — 1 Comment

Missing you xoxo

3rd Thanksgiving without you.

I am told this is suppose to get easier but hun it does not. Missing you so very much your'e on my mind so much during holidays as you always were the main attraction. Your laughter filling the room and you...bigger than life. Spent the day with your kids. Brett, you'd be so proud of them. They are growing up so fast and each of them with a part of you showing. Ethan with his identical looks, Aidan with his love of life and laughter and Bitsyboo with her…


Added by Colleen Pasay on October 14, 2013 at 11:32am — No Comments

Death Notices Find Long Life Online

People have come up with all kinds of ways to attain their 15 minutes of fame. But many who have a spotlight on them these days don’t even know it. They’re the ones whose death notices, written by themselves or family members, are “going viral.”

According to the online Urban Dictionary, “… a link goes viral because most of the people who get it forward it to their…


Added by Susan Soper on October 11, 2013 at 2:36pm — No Comments

The pain in losing my child

My name is lynna Moore .I lost my oldest son mark Moore on Labor Day Sept 2,2013. He went to great falls with some friends they where sitting on the rocks mark decide it to go into the water on the river edge not knowing the under tones in the water that took him 100 feet out he tried to swim back to shore but the current pull him back out.and he never came back up out the water. The search team went out for 3days looking for his body on the 4th day a person that was boating saw a body floating… Continue

Added by Lynna Michelle Moore on October 9, 2013 at 8:17pm — 1 Comment

Faltering relationships following loss

Loss is hard enough, but it’s even tougher when your relationships don’t hold up. Maybe your friends or loved ones lack the time or energy for your needs or they can’t cope with the sadness or anger that follows loss. Or, they may not know how to help or have too many problems of their own. For whatever reason, it’s very sad to find that your friends aren’t there when you…


Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on October 8, 2013 at 9:30am — No Comments

Missing my husband

Hi my name is Amanda,

I Lost my husband on June 10th of this year in a tragic work accident. He was 37 years old. I really still don't believe that he's gone, I don't know if I ever will! I miss him more and more everyday! He was the best husband and father. My daughter is 5 years old and I really don't think she understands.

He was so passionate and energetic about everything he did. Whether it was working on his truck or being with my daughter. His smile could light up a… Continue

Added by Amanda Spencer on October 3, 2013 at 12:25am — No Comments

Help with Grief

I met my husband Geoffrey Joseph17 years ago, I was coming out of a divorce, and had 3 small children. I had just sworn off men, decided to become a nun (joke) but I met him and we fell in love. He was everything that I ever wanted, and more, and he loved my children too. We married 4 years later and through thick and through thin, we were together. We had a love that I cant even describe, I was lucky, and i know it. He died August 4, 2013 of a massive heart attack at the age of 53. I was…


Added by Tammy Maidlow on October 2, 2013 at 3:44pm — No Comments

Help with Grief

I met my husband Geoffrey Joseph17 years ago, I was coming out of a divorce, and had 3 small children. I had just sworn off men, decided to become a nun (joke) but I met him and we fell in love. He was everything that I ever wanted, and more, and he loved my children too. We married 4 years later and through thick and through thin, we were together. We had a love that I cant even describe, I was lucky, and i know it. He died August 4, 2013 of a massive heart attack at the age of 53. I was…


Added by Tammy Maidlow on October 2, 2013 at 11:30am — No Comments

loss of spose

My husband died Sept 15, 2013 and I am having a hard time dealing with his loss.  I don't know where to go from his loss.  It feels like I have a hole in my heart, the pain is so bad.  I can't go my friends & children as they all have spouses and they don't know what I am going through.  Will it ever get any better?

Added by connie tolson on October 2, 2013 at 8:46am — No Comments


I lost my mother in January 2012 and the pain i feel inside since I lost my mum is heartbreaking. My mum was diagnosed in June 2009 2010 and 2011 with a wild range of things.

I miss everything about my Mum and not seeing her anymore is very hard for me to come to terms with and that is what I am struggling with.

I know in my head my mum is gone but it is nearly 2 years this January coming and my mums passing is not getting any easier for…


Added by sonya mcknight on October 1, 2013 at 9:22am — No Comments

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