Most funerals I have been to have been very dignified. Why? This is because everything was laid out as the deceased desired.

I remember when I was younger folks fought over who should take what flowers... I felt awkward.

It's wisdom it putting things in writing. That way the family will not fight over things... House? Car? Bills?....

- Proverbs 22:3

I had a good friend that I noticed that she was losing a lot of weight. She would say my stomach hurt....She would go to the doctor and never really tell us what was going on.....She died..

I am more determined now to get involved in my good friends lives...A few months ago I accompanied one of my other friends to the emergency room... The staff were throwing out all types of medical terms. I told the doctor to speak clearly and explain in simpler terms what was going on (Not sure she…

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 Read something interesting about Hospice

1) Keep bed sheets clean

2) Change position frequently to prevent bed sores

3) Change undergarment or diapers if needed

4) Keep the mouth moist with wet swabs or ice chips/lip balm

5) Hold our love ones hand and remember the last thing to go is their hearing

- Awake 2015

Today marks my brothers 3rd anniversary. I miss him everyday. Since then I found out how he really passed. It upsets me even more, but there's nothing I can do about it now. I've always been there to protect him and the one time he needed me I wasn't there. I'm guesssing we will never know what happened that night, but I have an idea. Looking back on that night and day at the hospital seeing how his girlfriend acted made me think. She got real angry at me when she asked for his apartment key. I… Continue

A friend in her early 30s was deeply affected by the recent death of former Israeli President Shimon Peres. She was unfamiliar with Peres until she read his obituary and learned his life story. She shared that she was unaware that Peres had tried to broker peace in the Middle East.…

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Last month,

My family engaged in a group text regarding remembering those that month that died in our family... I believe it was actually the anniversary of 2 love ones.... So the texts started off depressing.. Then my sister turned it around and said ...."let's also remember the wonderful life that came in the world today"... Let's celebrate them and the birth of a new baby in our family....Let's remember precious memories of the dead and alive.... I thank my sis for making us…

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Although many of us have different belief systems, we have one thing in common- death. It is our enemy. I love to have comfort from friends and family but I get the greatest comfort from the wonderful promises in God's word the Bible. I can't wait to the time when God will do away with death and pain. In addition to all the suffering and injustice....No politician( or any other human being) can do away with death but God can and he will....

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I lost my brother end of August this year.  I am the eldest.  He thought he had the flu, went to walk n clinic, still verifying this and died a day later, alone in his own bed.  My parents are in shock.  I have a younger sister.  I started a new temp job couple of weeks before he passed.  I'm struggling with his passing and generally with all of this.  I am also angry with him for his lack of care and follow up.  He tried to work through his flu but had a temperature of 104.  Not…

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Snow covers the ground early this year.
Thanksgiving dinner was wonderful your family all here. As your sons drove away yes you heard right both boys driving can you believe it !
If I had a wish to give you it would be for your to see them. I Can just picture your face I see the tilt of your head the sparkle in your eyes your head back roaring at the sight of them
I miss you so very much
Tpwu
Love you Hun
Mum

It’s difficult to witness the physical and mental decline of a friend or loved one with a debilitating illness. In fact, it’s hard not to grieve while they are still alive, as responsibilities and relationships shift and lives change. Some might think that death would be a relief and grief shortened, but that’s not often the case.…

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Q. I’ve heard that some widows experience “complicated grief.” How does it differ from ordinary grief, and who’s at risk? I’m a widow myself.

Grief is the emotional and physical response to the death of a loved one, featuring symptoms such as sadness, anxiety, panic, numbness, fatigue, shock. After my own husband…

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Hi There. As a mother who lost her eldest son ten years ago, I have come to really dislike the term often used in grief work as living with a new normal. I work as a grief therapist and psychotherapist, and I can tell you from the perspective of a parent, there is nothing normal about the loss of a child, no matter the age. I think of it as "a new reality" that we are forced to live with. Losing someone you love isn't normal. Yes we adapt over time - life goes on with or without you. I get…

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