I spent the last 10 years caring for my sweet dear sister Abby. She has been gone a year now and I can't believe how much I miss her. She passed 9/4/07 had a birthday 10/4 and then with the holidays it magnifies the loss. We went through so much together and now there is a big empty hole in that part of my heart. She suffered terribly with mental illness and I take comfort in knowing she is in the arms of the Lord. I created her site so I could really go to it and feel her presence. I created a… Continue

It happens all the time. Something has us stressed, upset, or worried and we search for comfort. But what we really need is someone to listen; someone to give us their full attention as we share our fears and concerns. We’re not looking for advice, we’re looking for understanding. And we each have the power to give this all important gift – our time and attention.



It’s hard to ask for support but we can’t expect our friends and loved ones to be mind readers and intuitively…

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Q. What can you say or do when there’s a suicide in someone’s family? My cousin’s 21-year-old son killed himself, and she and her husband are inconsolable. What can I possibly say to them in such a devastating situation? I feel powerless to help them.



A. Suicide is the third leading cause of death in the 15-24 age group in this country with only injuries and homicides claiming more lives, and suicide on college campuses is more common than most people…

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What happens when someone you care about is grieving a loss and you know you said the wrong thing? That’s what happened to a friend of mine. She attended a family dinner and said something to her sister-in-law that she immediately knew was inappropriate. She didn’t know what to do, so she said nothing and her sister-in-law never mentioned it either. And even though the relationship seems fine, my friend feels guilty and wonders if there is something she can say a year later to make…

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I have recently lost my mother at the age of 53, I am so heart broken. I feel so lost without her, it doesn't seem real. This is the first time that i have ever lost someone so close to me, I don't know how to deal it feels like the whole world has stopped. She was the most beautiful person inside and out, she was my best friend I feel so sick without her. I just want her back it's not fair to be taken away so young. Mom I miss and Love you with all my heart.

Welcome to Comforting Words! We’ve all faced a situation that’s left us speechless. A friend shares a devastating medical diagnosis, or you learn via e-mail of a relative’s death. What do you say? We’ve all been at a loss for words when we've needed them most. My goal in creating this blog is to provide a forum to share stories, ideas, and resources that will help us feel confident when confronted with unexpected news of loss and difficult times. And most important, I’d like to…

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2 weeks ago today on November 3rd, 2008, I lost my son Alexander James. Losing him was completely unexpected and since he's gone, I've lost myself somewhere.



Alex was my third pregnancy. The first was in 1994. We lost our daughter Elizabeth Lynn at 20 weeks due to my incompetent cervix, which we didn't know was incompetent until it was too late.

My 2nd pregnancy was in 2006 and was twins. We lost the first baby at 10 weeks to disappearing twin syndrome. We'll never know what sex… Continue

Kevin's Legacy

Kevin Michael Conatty, a Soldier, Policeman, Private Investigator, Fiancé’, Step-Dad, Friend, Son, Brother, and Uncle. How could I even begin to put down on paper, his life story, and all of the wonderful things that he brought to me and my daughters life? Kevin was such a wonderful man who touched so many peoples lives in many different ways. He had a love that was so real, pure, and honest, anyone that ever knew Kevin or was a part of his life always felt… Continue

All parents do it, we just don't realize it all the time... UGH! when they say they've cleaned their room, but really they just slide everything under their bed or into the closet... Well, I'm out of ugh's... They never meant harm or disrespect... they where just an ugh... I'm not liking being out of ugh's... I would do anything to have just one more time to say it, with meaning... Delete Comment

if buford smiles then what?

In the beginning there were lots of hugs, an acceptable way for people to show they cared. They no longer remember to do this and I miss Joe’s hugs even more. I guess it is up to me. I can give a hug and get one in return. Or I can simply say, “I need a hug today.”



Little "Hugs" I Can Give Myself



BREAKFAST IN BED. The bed is still warm. And who cares if a few crumbs get scattered around when I eat my toast?



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FEEDING THE HOMELESS
12-24-2007 AT 11-2
PHOENIX AZ

The Cord

We are connected,

My child and I, by

An invisible cord

Not seen by the eye.



It's not like the cord

That connects us 'til birth

This cord can't been seen

By any on Earth.



This cord does it's work

Right from the start.

It binds us together

Attached to my heart.



I know that it's there

Though no one can see

The invisible cord

From my child to me.



The strength of this cord

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I Wanted You To Know......



I Was Sitting Here In Heaven

And Having A Wonderful Day.

I Started Thinking About You

And All The Things I Didn’t Get A Chance To Say.

I Don’t Want You To Worry About Me

And Please Don’t Shed Any Tears,

Because I Will Wait For You In Heaven,

If It Takes A Hundred Years.

Everything I Had On Earth

I Have In Heaven Too!

My First Day Here

My Body Became Brand New.

It Is Really Pretty Here

And I… Continue

I am wondering what to do and say to my friend and her family regarding the death of her sibling. He was a wonderful young man, sensitive and caring and a bit of a free spirit. As he got older he became addicted to a number of things and ended up in prison for a good many years for a horrific crime, really letting everyone down. Every relative washed their hands of him except his parents. He was released just months ago and now has died from an apparent overdose. I do not know what to say to… Continue