November 2010 Blog Posts (55)

Managing The Holidays

Holidays Can Be Difficult

No matter what your religion or lack thereof, the holiday time can be most trying. The holidays stir up memories of the past, evoke powerful feelings, and force us to compare our life situation to that of the perfect family portrayed on television.

Memories of the past are tied to this time of year. Many people have traditions which are sanctioned by religion, but many also have traditions which are more secular… Continue

Added by David Fireman on November 30, 2010 at 8:34am — 3 Comments


Well, amy, dad and your brother mike went out today, and Mike was in your post and got a nice 7 pointer. He says you came through again. It took two shots, but he did it. We miss you so much at this time of year just as much as all the others, mins, hours, days and months to come. Luv ya, mom, dad and…


Added by JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 on November 29, 2010 at 11:21pm — No Comments

David (Davey) Andrew Chavez

He became an angel September 24, 2010. He had just turned 24 August 8. He was on his way to work on his motorcycle. He had just bought it 2 months prior and was so proud of it and so very cautious. The accident involved a big rig. That is all we know. We decided that it was better not to know what exactly happened because it would cause us more pain and not bring him back. They said he…


Added by Anita Chavez-Daveys mom on November 29, 2010 at 8:50pm — 11 Comments

so I got through the first one... but just barely

So this was the first Thanksgiving without my Daddy. I was so scared that I would lose it.

I just felt like I was walking around blind. I basically did what was expected

of me. To be cheerful and the go to girl. And I was for the days up to but the day that got to me

was my daddy' s birthday. The day after Thanksgiving was my daddy's birthday . We had a dinner , and wrote messages to my dad on balloons and let them go. I laughed a little because it seemed like I wrote a whole… Continue

Added by Diana Garcia on November 28, 2010 at 7:30pm — No Comments

Hope It is Ok to share this bittersweet memory. SOME MOMENTS FEEL IMPOSSIBLE TO GO ON!

OK I am learning my way on the computer too...
This is an emotional journey.
Working on the computer today came across this recording and listened to it a million times with tears streaming down my face.
Doug was teaching me how to use the record part way back when.

Added by Ellen Brant on November 28, 2010 at 7:12pm — No Comments

How do I continue on with my life

I just lost my husband on November 21, 2010 in his sleep. He was a diabetic. We were married for 15 years. For those 15 years, I made sure that i did everything for him. He worked so hard that I didn't want him to work when he came home. I took care of him in and out of hospitals. I endured his pain that he felt from his diabetes due to neuropathy. I am to the point that I don't like November or December anymore. November because i lost my dad 6 years on Thanksgiving and now my husband, and… Continue

Added by Monica Kay Bower on November 27, 2010 at 9:38pm — 1 Comment

THANKSGIVING and the day after

I posted a note to you wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving and that it was our 3rd without you, and somehow I deleted it. So once again, we got through. I kinda had a hard time. I didn't want to do dinner without you. So it was just me and dad here alone. We didnt even eat at the table. We seem to be on different tracks lately. You know how we used to be and I would confide in you. I can't do that now. It's me and gram keeping each other sane. She is just as heart broken as we are. We can't…


Added by JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 on November 27, 2010 at 2:30am — No Comments

Another holiday without beautiful Shelly...

Shelly had a way of making everyone laugh. She was the person there when you had a problem, always listening. She wasn't only my daughter, she was my best friend.

Added by Diane Cayer on November 26, 2010 at 5:16pm — No Comments

Giving Thanks

Okay, I made it through the first Thanksgiving without Steve, and I'm okay. As Steve and I had done for the past 6 or 7 years, I walked across the street to my neighbor's house for Thanksgiving dinner. I've long had the "appetizer duty" at this event because I show up on time! There were about 18-20 people on hand, most of them either the hostess' relatives or neighbors from our block. Instead of the usual going around the table to say what each of us is thankful for (the hostess knew that… Continue

Added by Susan Mayer on November 25, 2010 at 7:30pm — 3 Comments


Happy Thanksgiving to all...This is our first Thanksgiving without Conrad, We also just "celebrated" without him... what would have been his 26th Birthday Nov 10th, it sure has been hard...Holidays are not the same...anymore...Happy Thanksgiving son...Eloy Conrad Duran III...Love You...

Added by ELOY CONRAD DURAN II on November 25, 2010 at 7:04pm — No Comments

lonely and sad

3 months has passed since I lost you, I have had to go through our anniversary, your birthday, and now Thanksgiving without you -- I miss you and cannot stop thinking about you. I am here with the boys but it will not be the same, we all have a hole in our heart.

Added by Barb Platt on November 25, 2010 at 10:41am — No Comments

The Holidays

This will be my first Thanksgiving without Joel and I am feeling depressed and close to tears as I sit here thinking about all the other Thanksgivings that we had together. I see him in my minds eye sitting across the table from me and he is saying a prayer thanking god for giving us the day together and for all the food sitting there before us. He looks up with a smile and begins to carve the turkey. I like white meat he likes dark . I make sweet potatoes every year but he won't eat them. He… Continue

Added by Sandralee on November 24, 2010 at 10:35pm — No Comments

The Holidays

The holidays are right around the corner and I'm just NOT ready. Thanksgiving, my daddy's birthday, my birthday, Christmas, New Years .. I'm just NOT READY

Added by Diana Garcia on November 23, 2010 at 11:45pm — No Comments

Rough Daze

OK...does the pain ever get tolerable? I know for sure it won't end. Darn Sunday was grueling with floods of tears and internal pain. I kept doing what I know best...keep doing things through it all. We have a plant on the patio that I may have shared about eariler but to me it is a miracle plant. It is a bouginvilla that froze over and hadn't bloomed in two years. It was a gift to Doug from me. He loved Bouginvilla plants and always promised we would one day we'd have a yard and house with… Continue

Added by Ellen Brant on November 22, 2010 at 3:21pm — 2 Comments

A season closes

With the help of friends and neighbors, I got my house and yard ready for winter this weekend. I have a disability and cannot do all the work myself, but have great friends and am lucky to live on a wonderful block with wonderful neighbors who all pitched in to put up storm windows, take in the deck furniture, empty and clean flower pots, prune shrubs, cut back perennials, and spread mulch.

Today came the saddest chore, though: clearing out the vegetable garden. I started crying when I… Continue

Added by Susan Mayer on November 21, 2010 at 10:00pm — 2 Comments

my wife

i lost the love of my life of 39 yrs, what am i goind to do? i have no one else and cant realy talk to anyone with out crying. l sit and still put my hand where hers always was, i go to bed and reach for her. im lost

Added by frank nicholls on November 21, 2010 at 1:00pm — 1 Comment

aubrey kimberly kaye sagala

It is killing me I can't ever hold her again, why would god do this. It kills me the most I worked a bunch of overtime and was going to school, so I hardly saw her. Now she is gone forever. I would give anything I have to have her back for 5 minutes, even if she cried the whole time. I miss her so much and I don't know how much longer I can be the strong one

Added by robert jeffrey sagala on November 21, 2010 at 9:43am — 1 Comment

Missing My Mom

Missing Mom so much lately now that the holidays are near. She would spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with us. I will miss her saying grace before our Thanksgiving meal. It is six months today that she has passed, today is November 20th and it is my anniversary as well. I have been thinking of her all day and how much I miss her. I am going to church later so I hope I feel better when I get out of church. I just miss her so much.

Added by Judi Castellone on November 20, 2010 at 2:44pm — 2 Comments

Facing Fear - Living without regret

Recently, a woman who had lost her mother and father in the last two

years expressed how tired she was of always feeling anxious and fearful.

Her losses had brought home the fact that the people she loved were

all going to die. It could be anytime and anywhere. The possibility of

facing the loss of her husband or one of her children was constantly

invading her thoughts. She was tired and stressed all the time.

Her words were all too familiar. They brought me… Continue

Added by In Time Of Sorrow on November 20, 2010 at 6:54am — No Comments

I thought in time it would get writing gets me through all of this

as holidays approach the tears become more frequent. I get so tired of hearing the words "fallen angel" response thus far:

"There are no fallen angels

for they soar from up above,

They protect their brothers, their families

They protect the ones they love

So when your heart breaks and

you're crying

Look down at your feet do you see them there?

Because they are not our "fallen angels",

they are in heaven with our

God saying prayers

~~~~a… Continue

Added by Megan on November 18, 2010 at 11:56pm — 1 Comment

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