“Grief is a mystery to be lived, not a problem to be solved.” This was something I heard at a recent grief support program. Read again these words and consider their meaning. We tend to approach everything as if there is something we can “do” about it. We want to fix things that are not right in our lives or in the lives of those we love. It is difficult to accept that there are some things that cannot be repaired. We are taught that if we work hard enough at something, we can have whatever…Continue
Added by Nancy Weil on November 9, 2011 at 11:30am — No Comments
I never thought I would be on one of these sites telling my story about a suicide in my family but then again I dont think anyone would. October 24, 2011 my brother took his life. He hung himself in my sisters kitchen off a ceiling fan. My sister is the one who found him she cut him down and started cpr called 911. Problem is my mother is one of the head paramedics and happen to respond to the call when she walked in she broke. I recieved the phone call at work from my mother who just told…Continue
Added by Shea on November 8, 2011 at 7:54am — No Comments
Added by Martin Connors on November 8, 2011 at 12:00am — No Comments
Well, it's final. My house has passed inspections, the appraisal came in at the selling price, and the buyers have been approved for their mortgage so I'll be closing and moving out on 11/21. Hard to believe this has all been accomplished in less than 2 months, in this crazy real estate market. Of course, I'm losing a lot of money on the sale but I'll make up some of it on the new house I'm buying, which is now scheduled to be completed on 11/25 - another miracle since they just started…Continue
Added by Roy E. Hunt on November 7, 2011 at 4:39am — No Comments
I have had a tough time when it came to the loss of my husband. I was my husbands caretaker for the last three and half years,he had some major medical problems he had two uncureable diseases, one was PAH and pulmonary fibrosis. These diseases took a toll on my husband in more ways than one. I know in my heart that he is not suffering or hurting anymore but I am having a hard time letting go and understanding why I had to lose my husband. I am hoping through this it will help me to find some…Continue
Added by Julie Emmons on November 6, 2011 at 10:42pm — No Comments
I am literally reeling from a year in which my oldest brother died, and 7 months later one of our closest family friends died. He was also my husband's best friend. Both of these men and their wives made up a major part of our social circle.
Just prior to these deaths, my husband and I very nearly got divorced after 30 years, and we barely pulled it back together a month before my brother's death.
I think the most difficult question I have is, why is my sister in law so…
its been over a year and im still having trouble getting over it the depression comes and goes. I cry for no reason still. His birthday is coming up in five days and it is heavy on my mind. I am having a hard time going on. Whats making it worse is the pressure of having to get a job and not being able to get one.
Q. This New Year’s Eve will be my first as a widow. I don’t want to spend it alone. But I suspect the two couples my husband and I used to celebrate with will either make other plans without me, or ask me to join them out of obligation. What should I do?
The entire holiday season, beginning with Thanksgiving and extending through January 1, is a stressful time for most adults. Supposedly perfect families surround us, and we often have unrealistic expectations of happy…Continue
I cant believe we have gone thru another Halloween without you. You didnt celebrate it much as you got older, but it was one of those holidays you would have loved now 'cause you would have helped dress up the kids, especially Cece. She is so cute and we hope you can see her. I still go over photos of you with your pumpkin we carved and your parties from school.…Continue
Added by JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 on November 2, 2011 at 10:07am — No Comments
When our loved ones die, we ponder the imponderable. The “whys” and the “what-ifs” consume us at times. We pore over days and decisions in the past that we cannot change. We feel as if the world should stop for a moment to mark the passing of our loved one. We wonder why everyone just seems to be having a normal day when our days are anything but normal. …
Added by Nancy Weil on November 1, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments
My father died decades ago and he was part of my life a very short time. My siblings and I don’t talk about him much yet his death was probably the most formative experience of our lives.
Our family had a joyous event last week when my nephew married and it pulled us together from near and far. The bride and groom honored family members who had died in their wedding program. I expected to see my mother included but finding my dad’s name surprised me. That, and the groom’s…Continue
Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on November 1, 2011 at 10:00am — No Comments