Q. I recently spotted an acquaintance walking down the street and ducked into a store. His wife had died, and I didn't want him to see me because I didn't know what to say. I felt like a coward. Why is it so difficult to talk to someone in this situation?

The fact is the idea of facing any…

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How r u? I don't know where to start. Its been some years since I've been on this site. Actually I think I'm doing good. It's going on 7 yrs Jan. 9th. since Richard died. Tammy I'm writing to you because I started with you.  Don't even know what a blog is. I do have some concerns if you can help me.  It seems like nothing bothers me.  I went thru so with Rich dying now its like nothing.  Am I cold hearted or what?  Please someone tell me if this is right. sometimes I remember everything.…

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I miss you more with every breath
I take
missing you so very very much
A monumental Birthday loving you was easy losing you was the hardest thing I've ever done.
Love ya
Mom

My journey of grief and healing may be different from many others; in fact, I'm certain it is. (After all, one person's heartbreak can only be individual - not universal). After losing three friends to cancer over the last decade, my most recent and deepest loss was that of a friend of 20 years, whom I called sister. She transitioned from her earthly battle to Heaven's reward on July 19, 2013. She was the only one who understood intimately my own suffering and labored with me as we faced… Continue

I’m getting better at getting on with my life,

But it’s not easy since I lost  my wife.

I’m getting better at getting along, until I hear

an old sad song, then I start wondering…

What went wrong?

I’m getting better at writing a poem,

But not with the fact of being alone.

I just thank God that I’m getting better

at getting better.

I’m getting better at getting on with my life,

But it’s not easy since I lost  my wife.

I’m getting better at getting along, until I hear

an old sad song, then I start wondering…

What went wrong?

I’m getting better at writing a poem,

But not with the fact of being alone.

I just thank God that I’m getting better

at getting better.

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Q. Why don’t people remember the anniversary of my husband’s death? Even my husband’s sister and brother don’t seem to be aware of it or mark it in any way. It bothers me that he’s forgotten.…

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Lost my wife Sept 19 after a 8yr fight with cancer. Two weeks after her death we have found out her twin sister has a rare cancer and now is fighting for her life. They are identical twins and we went on yearly vacations and spent most weekends together. The pain and lose of loosing my wife and now her twin sick has just devastated our family. It seems I just can't pray enough for our family

1) Be supportive

2) Learn about the disorder

3) "Be comforting to one another" ( 1 Thessalonians 5:11)

A family in my neighborhood has been quietly struggling for months. The mom has a stubborn virus that is taking a long time to heal and the dad is shopping, cooking, cleaning, and ensuring his kids get wherever they need to go. When he finally shared his family’s situation, neighbors quickly offered to prepare meals. I asked him why he didn’t ask for…

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I can relate about feeling the pain in your heart. I feel that way every day. My world is turned upside down like all of yours are. I don't feel joy or care about anything anymore and I want that back. Continue

We are all affected by the enemy death. No matter how hard we try to run and make ourselves look ageless, it is going to catch up with us. However, there is someone that can help us escape..."As the last enemy, death is brought to nothing... (1 Corinthians 15:26)

Grief is not something that magically disappears.  As long as love existed for the person, then grief will always be present.  The intensity and the power of the grief to dictate our day may lessen, but the sadness will always remain, especially if tapped into.

Reminders of the loss are always present.  Some reminders can bring a smile to our face, while others sometime can bring a frown.   Reminders can be simple calendar dates of importance such as holidays or anniversaries, but…

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(John 5:28, 29) Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, and those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.

(Acts 24:15) And I have hope toward God, which hope these men also look forward to, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.

What a wonderful promise from our…

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In the best of circumstances, life is not easy. And we all experience rough patches, some harder to navigate than others. When life feels overwhelmingly difficult, a kind gesture can feel like a lifeline.

I have two friends who were feeling overwhelmed, as caregivers for their elderly mothers. I interviewed them…

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