December 2009 Blog Posts (57)

SPC Matthew Murchison

SPC Matthew Murchison who was born in Hutchinson, Kansas on October 11, 1985 and was killed on August 04, 2007 from an IED attack in Baghdad, Iraq. Matt had been serving in Iraq with the 127th MP Company since November of 2006. Matthew grew up wanting to be a soldier and he died doing what he loved to do. Matt will forever be remembered as a hero and will stay in our hearts until we meet again.
Merry Christmas Matt.

Added by Ralph Perry on December 11, 2009 at 10:23am — No Comments

will we

i lost my son dec 26 06 i still cant deal with any of it yet

Added by caring on December 11, 2009 at 8:14am — No Comments

I'm lost

I Lost the Love of my life on Thankgiving day of this year. I feel so lost, we had so many plans for our future and now that's all gone, not a day goes by that i don't break down and cry for the loss of him. I Loved him with my whole heart and I know he felt the same way. Sometimes i find myself wanting to call him or expect himto come home at night. The day he died they let me hold him and i laid my head on his chest and listened to his heart beat till it stoped, as he took his last breath i… Continue

Added by judy on December 10, 2009 at 8:10pm — 2 Comments

Leonard Kirk

I want to thank Lenny for being a great friend. I worked with Lenny for years and will be missed by all that knew him.I thank god he came to work at the airport when he did and all the good times we had there.I want all to pray for Cathy so she can heal from the loss of Lenny.I thank God they had many years of retirement together and really enjoyed it.

Added by Robert White on December 10, 2009 at 10:54am — No Comments

Sam my sister

Keep her in your prayers today!

Added by C.J.H. on December 10, 2009 at 9:10am — No Comments

missing my mom and dad all the time

to those who lost both mom and dad and miss them everyday and not just on the hoildays sometimes it seems it gets hardr all the time. specailly when your faimly is no longer close or know where the are. but you think of all the good ;bad; and sad times and you get through it, love miss all of my loved ones everyday. i needed this thank you legacy alot. merry christmas and a very happy new year.

Added by jonie l bean[johnson maiden name] on December 10, 2009 at 12:43am — No Comments

No holiday from grief

The holidays are upon us and while many of us revel in the joy family traditions bring, for those grieving a loss, the holidays can hold little joy.

So what should we do for those we care about mourning a loss? Do we send cards? Buy gifts? Try to cheer them up?

For starters, it’s important to understand that grief is very individual and runs its own course. It’s not something anyone can control and the bereaved need to mourn their loss at their own pace and in their own…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 9, 2009 at 9:30am — 2 Comments

Loss of my loved one

On Saturday I found my boyfriend dead in my bathtub. We were getting engaged between Christmas and New Years. I don't know how to go on. I don't know how to live my life without him. I love you so much honey.

Added by dee on December 8, 2009 at 5:11pm — No Comments

Loss of my Baby brother

I lost my best friend May 16,2009. I got the call from my dad only to tell me that my brother was killed in a car crash.. God do i miss him so much! His birthday is nearing it is Dec.12th and i really don't know how we are gonna make it without him? My family grieves so much for him. He was only 27 he was the baby and has a beautiful baby girl who is 3 now she too grieves for her dad every day.. telling us she just wants to see her daddy,people say that is gets easier,well will someone please… Continue

Added by Coral on December 8, 2009 at 9:13am — No Comments

Grieving still

I has been 1 year, 5 months and 14 days since I lost my Tom. We had been married over 42 years. And I am really just now feeling the impact. This past time has been one of adjustment, of arranging, of grief but now it is really hitting home. Could it be the Holidays, probably. But I do know that I am feeling lonely and abandoned. He is supposed to be here w/me, helping w/life, making decisions and just being. I never opened up to anyone, preferring to be "strong" for family and friends but… Continue

Added by Sue Darby on December 8, 2009 at 6:31am — No Comments

Getting through the holidays!

This will be my first Christmas without my little brother. I tried to write on here the other day, but it kept saying there was an error. He died in a sudden car accident last Jan 23rd. I still wake up and think this is all a bad dream & I am going to wake up! Today my mom & I went to the crash site & put some solar lights up on his cross. We are going to decorate a living christmas tree with solar christmas lights (purchased at Target) and put it down at his grave. He loved… Continue

Added by Shannon on December 8, 2009 at 12:20am — No Comments

My Sons, Richard

Richard's birthday will be next Monday December 14,2009 he would of been 40. It will be 5 months since he has passed on December 16, two days after his birthday. I wish I could just break down and cry, but I can't. I do cry but not for very long. Love him dearly and miss him very much....

Added by Carol J. Dix on December 7, 2009 at 8:33pm — 1 Comment

The haardest phone call I ever had to make.

First a note of thank you to all living veterans and their families. twenty nine years ago today i had to make the hardest phone call of my life. I found out early in the morning that my two neices had found their mother, my sister Peggie Jeanne, dead on the kitchen flloor. I then had to call my mom in Erie and tell her. She lived in an apartment in the "old orphange" on West 6th St. Fortunately she had friends there and i was able to get two of them go to her apartment and at the same time… Continue

Added by Art Winschel on December 7, 2009 at 11:03am — No Comments

Loss of an EX

I lost my very best friend on Dec 2, 2009 at 9:30 am of esophigial cancer. He was my ex husband. We were married for 22 years and had 3 children together. After all the years together I asked for a divorce. I sure wasn' for a lack of Love. We sort of grew bored with each other. After I left he had written me an e-mail telling me that he is glad that one of us had to courage to do what had to be done. It has been 14 years since the divorce but through the years we still were best friends. I… Continue

Added by JCarol on December 5, 2009 at 1:52am — No Comments

Coping With Grief During The Holiday Season: Give Yourself A Holiday Gift

Sometimes loss is so devastating it sends you into a seemingly never-ending downward spiral. Do you often find yourself descending into darkness rather than looking for the positive ray of sunshine present in every situation?

Try to remember that every event in life is neutral. It is neither good nor bad; positive nor negative; happy nor sad. It is you, and your response, which gives meaning to the event.

I do not mean to mitigate the death of a spouse, or any loss for… Continue

Added by Ellen Gerst on December 4, 2009 at 7:00am — No Comments

How late is too late for condolence notes?

A reader wonders, “Is it too late to send a condolence note six months after a death?” I’m not aware of a statute of limitations when it comes to condolence notes, but how late is too late? Is it appropriate to send a note six months or even one year after a death?

Your first consideration should be the bereaved. How might they feel when they receive your belated note? Will they be comforted that someone remembers them and their loved one? Will they feel better knowing…

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Added by Robbie Miller Kaplan on December 1, 2009 at 10:00am — 4 Comments

December 13th worlwide candle lighting 7 P.M.

I really like this idea, :

http://www.compassionatefriends.org/WCL_Misc/2009_services/CA.aspx

I dont think you have to go to a service but it would be nice to light a candle and place it outside if you can do that safely, if not just light one in your home, I have lit a candle every day since my Son left and I just cant stop doing it, It is like a little light for my Angel to see. The above link will tell you if there are services near you.

Thank you

And you are…

Added by Tami on December 1, 2009 at 4:20am — 4 Comments