I lost my first husband in 1991.  In 1996 I became a bereavement counselor for a hospice connected with the largest Catholic hospital in the world.  My own experience with deep loss taught me many things.  My experiences with helping others taught me much more.  Besides helping those who lost loved ones that were on hospice, though our community outreach program, I have been allowed to help many others whose loved one's death resulted from accident, suicide, murder etc.  For many years, I…