I am not even dead yet and my cousin wants my car. She said, "When you die can I have your car"? What's this world coming to? Another thing I dislike is when someone says the person is in a better place. How do you know what that place is? I also don't like it when someone tries to tell me how to feel. I will grieve in my own way at my own pace. No one knows how you feel, but you. The best thing you can say is, "I am sorry for your loss".