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Comment by JoAnn Brozowski on November 19, 2010 at 10:13am

Hi - I lost my 24 year old son Tyler on January 26th of this year. He worked in my office and I could not find him for about an hour. I finally realized the one of the bathroom doors was locked but no one responded to my knocking. I opened the lock with a paper clip and my baby was lying on the cold floor as well. I knew he was gone but the paramedics worked on him for 40 minutes as well. I relive that scene in my head 24 hours a day, every day. I wonder if I could have saved him if I had found him sooner. It hurts every minute of every day. Keep in touch - it helps.
JoAnn

Comment by Helen Rush on March 17, 2010 at 4:41pm

Any time you want to talk about Gregory you can talk to me. I lost my son in Jan. 2005 and one of the things that help is to talk about him. I know he is gone but talking about him keeps him alive in my memories. I think that friends who have not experienced anything like this are uncomfortable talking about it. I have his pictures out and look at them all the time. I talk about him with his brother and sister and we share our memories. The hurt never goes away but I find that talking about it eases it a lot. Our children lived and left their mark in our lives and not to talk about it is like they were never here. Well meaning friends think if you don't talk about it it will go away. How wrong they are. You have my prayers always.

Comment by Susan on March 16, 2010 at 11:48am

Just a thought from me. My son Roman died on 10-29-06. It's been almost 3 1/2 years now. I still can't put a picture of him on the wall. And thinking in terms of death is so hard........I find myself thinking of him as simply being somewhere other than here with me. So many people say that time heals all wounds..................not so. What time DOES do is eventually dull the edge of that pain so we can learn to live with it. As long as we all have family and frinds and this site, we will be on our way to healing. Things won't be the same, but we WILL heal. Much love and many prayers to all of you.
Susan

Comment by Susan on March 16, 2010 at 11:36am

Lisa...........I read your story about Chad, and there are just no word to tell you how sorry I am for your loss. If I could give you a giant bear hug and let you cry on my shoulders, I would. As far as friends go, it isn't that they don't want to be friends anymore. So many people just don't know what to say or do, so they back off. They're uncomfortable with death. We HAVE to deal with it. Just know that there are lots of people, including me, who are keeping you in their thoughts and prayers. When my son Roman died, I knew that a part of me went with him. He was 30, and died in a motorcycle accident. Maybe it would help you to see the website I set up in his memory. I'd never done one before, but my husband and my granddaughter helped a lot. The address is http:/rncordova.bravehost.com.
That is r n...........not m. I sent it to one lady and she thought it was an m. It looks like one! Much love to you and your family.........hugs!!!!!!

Comment by Lisa Hobrook on March 16, 2010 at 11:11am

Hi Gregory's mom,

I am so sorry for your pain and the devestation to your family over the loss of your 26 year old son Greg.

It has been six months since I lost my treasured son, Chad. He was 18 and full of life, love, smiles, and a future. A future that he wanted to include a truck, his own dog, a wife someday (liked the ladies so wasn't planning that soon, but that was important to him) and children ... he wanted to someday be a dad. He said not until he was 27 or so.

I think that in 10 years he would still just be so young. And yet, we face each day without him. His dad, his brother, his sisters and, of course, me, his mom have no words for how his loss impacts us every day and night.

He died instantly in a car accident. One minute healthy and here and one minute gone. I pray to Chad and to God that we will be with each other again. I will not let death have the final word on our love.

You are very right about finding out who your true friends are. I have one that sticks beside me. Everyone else ... no. I have lost friends since Chad. They don't call, the email is silent.

With the loss of your child comes many other losses as well. You don't need me to tell you that. Every day that you get through means that you are doing your best. That's what our children would want us to do. Our best.

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. Keep talking about him. Keep his name alive. If others don't want to listen, find someone who will. Greg deserves to be talked about. He didn't just die, he lived.

Lisa (Chad's Mom)

Comment by Richard Macary on March 6, 2010 at 1:29pm

To Greg's Mom,
We are sorry for your loss. We also lost our 25 year old son Richie the day after thanksgiving, also in our bathroom. He died of an overdose. We tried to save him, it was a horrific experience. Now we cry every day. We are lucky to have each other (me, my wife, my other two children). What has sustained us the most is our reading. In search of understanding, we have come across the book Destiny of Soles and The Shack (more spiritual). The book describes our souls and the path we take after we die. We believe our son is with his soul group and he is being healed. We believe we will be with him again either here (if he comes back) or in heaven (we are in his soul group). While we cry, we also speak with him regularly, and we try to meditate to open our minds to communication. We wish you strength, love, and peace in your journey to come to peace with his passing knowing you will see him again. Love, Jean and Rich

Comment by DEL ROGERS on January 19, 2010 at 9:35pm

TO GREGS MOM ; I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LOSS OF YOUR SON ,& FOR YOUR YOUNGER SON TO SEE ALL THAT WILL FOREVER BE DIFFICULT FOR HIM TO LIVE WITH. AND IT IS LIKE A MAGOR PART OF YOU DIES TOO, I FEEL THE SAME WAY,THERE'S A HUGE PART OF ME THAT NOTHING COULD BRING BACK EXCEPT TO GET MY RYAN BACK - & I KNO THAT CANNOT EVER BE !! IT WILL GET A LITTLE EASIER AS DAYS GO BY BUT WILL NEVER GO AWAY , JUST BECOMES A LITTLE EASIER TO LIVE WITH .I WISH THERE WAS SOME EASY WAY FOR US TO PUT IT ALL BEHIND US SO LIFE WUD NOT BE SO PAINFUL BUT THERE ISN'T AN EASY WAY . WE MUST LEAN ON JESUS FOR STRENGTH & COURAGE TO GET THRU ONE MIN , ONE HOUR ,ONE DAY AT A TIME .I PRAY THEY CAN DETERMINE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR SON- & MAYBE THAT WILL HELP YOU SOME .PLEASE UPDATE US IF THAT HAPPENS -OK ??YOUR YOUNGER SON REALLY NEEDS YOU NOW TOO. WE CAN EASILY FORGET OTHER FAM MEMBERS PAIN WHEN WE ARE HURTING SO BADLY OURSELF- I HAVE CAUGHT MYSELF DOING THAT .I PRAY GOD WILL GIVE YOU & YOUR FAM PEACE. GOD BLESS YOU ALL !!

Comment by Tami on December 30, 2009 at 11:07am

I am so sorry for your loss of Gregory! Oh and for your 13 year old to find him... I will keep you all in my prayers, I too lost my 18 year old son Joey, i motorcycle accident in June 2009. It is such a terrible tragedy to have to lose a child. I have one prayer I say every night and it brings me comfort, I sleep and dont dream, I am not ready to dream yet. Please keep writing here, I feel that all of us being together helps each of us, we know what it is like to lose a child, nobody else will understand unless they have been there.
Take care and I will be thinking of you and Your Son Gregory.