My Mom died on Valentine's Day '09 and for about a month now, I'm reliving the last hours of her life, especially before I fall asleep. It seems that I even go into very vivid dreams of her when I am asleep. I've been advised that I should think of Mom as she was as her vibrant self and our happy moments on earth instead. But they too make me cry because I miss her so much. My Mom was in so much pain (even though she had her medicine) that you couldn't touch her even to the point of changing her position in bed to prevent bedsores. Any thoughts on this? We had a very loving relationship and this hurts so much to say I couldn't physically comfort her other than meeting her medical needs.