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Getting Through The First Holiday, Valentine's Day Without My Husband
Good Morning,
I made it through the first Valentine's Day without my husband. The day before Valentine's Day was very hard. I cried most of the day. My husband, Noel always prepared a wonderful dinner for me and always had a dozen roses and a sweet card. I spent the day with my son, daughter-in-law, grandson and family members. It was pleasant and it kept me from constantly thinking about what I don't have. I have kept every valentine that my husband ever gave me. I re-read them yesterday. I was truly loved by him. Maybe it is therapudic to do things like this. I know that I do want another relationship someday, but I also know that I am not even close to being ready for anything like that now.
I am taking on-line classes to help me get employed again. I have been out of the work force for a long time. My husband and I always had some sort of business together. Maybe I will try to buy a small business to run. These are all things that I am mulling over in my mind. Sometimes I think that I can't go on, then I remember that I must go on.
I am also thinking about writing a book.
Thoughts and prayers to all who read this.
Shelia
I made it through the first Valentine's Day without my husband. The day before Valentine's Day was very hard. I cried most of the day. My husband, Noel always prepared a wonderful dinner for me and always had a dozen roses and a sweet card. I spent the day with my son, daughter-in-law, grandson and family members. It was pleasant and it kept me from constantly thinking about what I don't have. I have kept every valentine that my husband ever gave me. I re-read them yesterday. I was truly loved by him. Maybe it is therapudic to do things like this. I know that I do want another relationship someday, but I also know that I am not even close to being ready for anything like that now.
I am taking on-line classes to help me get employed again. I have been out of the work force for a long time. My husband and I always had some sort of business together. Maybe I will try to buy a small business to run. These are all things that I am mulling over in my mind. Sometimes I think that I can't go on, then I remember that I must go on.
I am also thinking about writing a book.
Thoughts and prayers to all who read this.
Shelia
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Comment by Deb on February 18, 2010 at 10:39pm
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Hi Sheila. I have also made it through my first Valentine's Day without my Junior. I had to attend my cousin's wedding this Valentine's Day . . it was so very hard!! Brought back so many memories. My Junior would often cut me a rosebud from his rosebushes, give it to me with a kiss and an "I love you"! I so missed my rose and kiss this year. God blessed me with the greatest love I could ever imagine when He put Junior in my life. I do find it very therapeutic to read and re-read the cards and notes that he gave me...I, too, know that I was truly loved!!
Yes, we must go on - your Noel and my Junior would not want us to do anything other than be strong and happy! One of the very last things he told me was to take care of myself-be happy, not let anyone run over me, and to always remember how very much he loves me. He was always so concerned about me--more worried about me than himself! You and I can be thankful that we experienced the loves we did and know that we were so very blessed.
I have had you in my thoughts and prayers and will keep you there. If you want to email me, write anytime to debbier53@hotmail.com. God bless and keep you in His loving care!
Debbie
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