My name is Alison and my husband died Nov 4, 2009. He had stage 4 lung, lilve and bone cancer. Our story is a very long one. We got married in May of 2000, and we couldn't have children of our own, so we adopted our kids from the county...foster care. The boys are not blood brothers, but brother of the heart. They both had a very hard begining of life, and lets leave it at that. In May of 2007 I found out that I had Stage 4 breast cancer and was in and out of the hospital...it had spread to my spine and I couldn't walk....then in May of 2008 Ron (my husband) found out that he had Stage lung, liver and bone cancer....this was not good news! and was given months to live...he did live for about a year and a half. Ron died in our home and I was able to care for him....our boys climbed up on their Dad until the day he died....I feel like we were given a gift to care for him.
Yes, I miss him ALOT! but I am taking care of us...and I do go to a group and one thing that I found out is that I will never get over him....I don't want to...he was the love of my life...my childrens father....I don't want to forget!...when I think of "getting over him" if makes me mad and crazy....I don't want to forget! I will not forget! He is out of pain and we will be okay....I know that....God is watching us!!!!
I hope that this might help....you know you will get though this.....