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Comment by EmersonLily1103 on March 18, 2010 at 11:49am

I'm glad you all have faith and I've resisted commenting and saying what I really feel but the anger I feel when I read this is more than I can handle. Thank you for your condolences but god is dead to me.

Comment by Elizabeth Connelly on March 18, 2010 at 8:53am

Please! I beg you to read this book by Randy Alcorn called Heaven. You will be totally amazed and comforted. It hurts so badly this horrible suffering but I found so much healing in this book. For now you and your family are without a doubt, living on borrowed srength. Please accept Jesus as your Lord and know that you are going to run towards that child when Heaven merges with the New and restored Earth and resurrected & glorified bodys! You will kiss and hug your beautiful little Angel again, but this time it will be 4-Ever. My prayers and blessings for comfort and healing are with you. Also watch for signs they are a blessing and they occur quite often. Some are suttle and some are WOW! Sounds crazy and appears to others as if you are grasping at straws, but right now grasp at that and the reality that we miss them terribly here but pray to God to send her in dreams that you can remember and I've done it, this works and you actually get to spend time with her even if only for a moment to kiss her precious face. God bless your family, especially the young ones. It is the most difficult challenge you will ever have to face and reach out with groups like this and see if there is a GRIEF SHARE 13 week program offered at your local church. My heart goes out to you. My 13 year old grandson went home to the Lord recently. Waaaaaaaaaay 2 soon. His name is Philip N. Connelly. Miss him like crazy but I'm starting to breathe every now and then a little bit easier. That cemented truck in my heart must have dumped a concrete load some where because I actually felt a teensy bit of true laughter the other day. I pray you have a wonderful day and please try to read that book. It really is miraculous!

Comment by GUARDAIN_ANGELS on March 16, 2010 at 9:57pm

your wife and your self..need to sit in her room alone... look at each other and tell eachother your best memories of your baby.. the fun times..her funny storys .. the day she was born..every day of her life leading up to her death.. after you have laughed... and smiled.. remember the love she gave you both... that was a special gift.. you both love her..and miss her.. u have lots of guilt and blamb.... take all that negative energy and get rid of it.. you both created this life together out of your deepest love the kind you cant destroy but make stronger.. hug eachother listen to each other let each one talk with out interupting the other.. feel eachothers pain.. realize that everyone grieves different ... dont discriminate agenst eachother because they feel in a different way.embrace eachother ...heal eachother .. before you try to heal anyone else... parents are the unbreakable force they are the ones who hold the mold together.. u need to make your other children safe they need to feel like pain is ok to feel and each person made so differently ... its ok to feel different things... just because someone grieves in a different way dosnt mean they loved that person any less but just as much .. the brain protects us when we can not emotionally protect ourselves.. and each person's brain is wierd differently...so ur fighting a force u cant win... love eachother thats what created this amazing little girll... find eachother love ... dont let your family suffer anymore grief.. please find your way back to each other..

Comment by GUARDAIN_ANGELS on March 16, 2010 at 9:40pm

i can't express enough how much my heart feels for you and your family..even tho i know its still new..trust in faith even when u feel so mad .. god dosn't kill.the human body is a strange and amazing thing. and sometimes it just stops working..no fault of anyone.. so many questions ,no answers.. that really sooth anyway.. theres always that question why? why me ? why us? why this family.. how come not someone else.. truth is there are a dozen of those someone eles out there too... and none of my questions were answerd right away either,not when i lost my 11 year old cousin,to suicide,my 39 year old father to cancer due to malpractice, my step mother,all grandparents.. to many close friends to even count..and now today my childhood friend lies in icu..brain dead due to an intruder beating her almost to death unrecognizable..i dont have all the answers but i have to belive there is a reason bigger then us to imagine... and i believe your little guardian angel is with you everyday.. as you kept her safe for her short little life.. she will be guarding you every day every night..none can ever harm her.. or hurt her in any way she is always safe..and pain free.. she is safe.... in this cruel mean world..she didnt feel any pain..and the last thing she herd before she drifted off to sleep was i love you.and a kiss and a hug... i could'nt emagine a more peace full way to go..... dnt stop living ... live thru her.. keep her memorie alive every day.. that little angel wasnt put here to rip apart your family with grief..nothing that beautiful could be used for such pain... she wants her mommy and daddy to love eachother and her sisters... they are hurting as deeply as you.. but may be more confussed and some how feel it might be there fault.. or that u dont love them as much as u loved the baby...u need to all pull together as a family for your baby... u dont want her to feel grief for hurting u all.... i dont think we will ever know what realy happens..but id like to believe that they see and feel everything we do. and say .. she was sent to your family for a reason.. and even tho it was brief..only your family will know what the reason was... i wish you peace... i wish you sum relief little by little..day by day.. one day at a time..one minute by minute..go at your own pace dnt let anyone tell you when to stop greiving reguardless how long .. im still learning and its been 18 years... it does get easier .. but it took me years of faith searching to find inner peace... i wish you the best .. i pray for your family and streanth as a unit.. to heal as a family..in gods name i pray amen..