I have recently lost the love of my life. We met when I was only 15 years old and married when I was 16. We have been married for 27 1/2 years and he just passed away on
3-12-10 and I don't know how to keep going. I can't remember what my life was like before John and I can't picture it now without him. Can someone please tell me how to survive this? how to make it thru the day without crying? How to comfort my kids and grandkids? Please,, I need help.

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Comment by Dominic Manzer on April 13, 2010 at 8:46pm

One of the things I don't like about the way this sight operates is that it's impossible to see how many interactions a person has. Until today I had only seen your original posting and yesterdays. It appeared to me that you were not getting any support and had only reached out in desperation.

Now I see you are getting support. From you're perspective you would not have understand why I said the things I did and I might have appeared to be overly friendly. I'm sorry if I was misunderstood and caused you any concerns.

Comment by Dominic Manzer on April 12, 2010 at 8:52pm

I've not had a loss close to me, but have known several who have. I can't talk to my experience of coping only theirs. I do understand some of it. Was your husband older than you by more than a year or two. If he was it would have been easy for you to having him make the decisions, take care of you and set the tone for each day. You ARE lost with out him.

It might seem strange to you, but I get lonely at night. I have two pillows I hug, it helps. For medical resins Carol and I don't sleep together, I can't hold her at night, it causes her pain.

Would you tell me how he died? Sometimes just saying the words helps.

Get back to me soon, I want to help but even the little I can do can't happen if you don't help me do it.

Comment by Dominic Manzer on April 12, 2010 at 6:54pm
Hi Lorie.
I'm getting this out quick to see if you're still on line.
Comment by Lorie Reid on April 12, 2010 at 6:49pm
Today it has been 1 month since he died. It still doesn't seem real. I miss him so much, the nights are the hardest
Comment by Lorie Reid on April 12, 2010 at 6:47pm
Thank you for taking the time to comment Dominic
Comment by Dominic Manzer on April 4, 2010 at 2:11pm
I wish I had something for you, but I don't.

I think I know the kind of love you had, and still have. I was with my love for 3 days, she asked me to leave for resins of who she was and nothing else. I still love her after 31 years of never seeing or hearing of her. I found her again a week ago, she still will not talk to me. I will always love her.

You will always love him. He will always be in your heart. Look for him in your children, some of him and you are together in them, and their children.


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