My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly 4 months ago while we were on vacation, in a drowning accident.
I have 3 teenage boys, and thye really have been my strentgh and support. I also come from a big family, and have lived very close , spending lots of time together with the cousins and sisters over the years. It hasn't always been harmony, but i have always had my husband to come home to, talk about things and learned to let the small differences go. At first everyone was very supportive, smothering , but i felt they were there for me and for the boys. Now, the pettiness is back, the senseless arguements and nitpicking, mean words amongst each other, i can stand it, i want to scream and say, haven't you learned anything?? I think they feel , poor thing, but soooooo glad it didn't happen to them! and life is business as usual now. it is so weird, they think i should be okay?!
why am i so sensitive? is it sensitive to want people to be kind to each other, why can that continue?
anyway , my father is elderly and I love him so very much, but it is so hard to be around the bickering between my sisters. I tried to let them know how hurtful it is, as sometimes it is directed to me to, yet they have always acted this way, and i don't know if they are capable of changing. I guess my question is, other than avaiding them ,which i still do want them to be part of my life, what can i do? the confrontation didn't work so i tried emailing, , now getting the cold shoulder.
i feel like i lost my husband , now i am losing my sisters, because i can't deal with the lack of compassion /kindness i need right now in my life.
any suggestions?
i know Jesus says forgive 7 x 70, and to turn the other check, but sometimes i feel this has given them years of approval for bad behavoir. they really don't lose too much sleep over it!