I am wondering what to do and say to my friend and her family regarding the death of her sibling. He was a wonderful young man, sensitive and caring and a bit of a free spirit. As he got older he became addicted to a number of things and ended up in prison for a good many years for a horrific crime, really letting everyone down. Every relative washed their hands of him except his parents. He was released just months ago and now has died from an apparent overdose. I do not know what to say to any of them during this time, my friend swears she is fine and now "he can't cause us anymore pain" but her parents are in so very much pain. Regardless of how he lived his life he was still their son and he was still a father a brother an uncle. There is an awful lot of pain running through this family. I can see this being a very long process for all concerned. Is there any advice on condolences and continued support?