I was in a relationship while finding out my father's death. Sadly, he just couldn't understand why I felt upset and sad over my father's death 2 years later. He would belittle how I felt and told me that I was self imposing it (trying to play a psychiatrist which he wasn't by any means)I learned that while still dealing with the aftermath of my dad I was in an emotional abusive relationship on top of still dealing with estate issues and the absence of my dad. I also sense that he was jealous because his own parents wanted nothing to do with him so he was jealous and quite manipulative.
I ended the relationship on my terms and haven't spoken to him since January. At this point, he does not even deserve my friendship because he disrespected me so much. If my dad were alive I am pretty certain that he would have not approve of "J". What I feel is still quite normal. How does one ever get over losing a parent? There is no written rule. With this situation which is quite abnormal, I have a right to feel the way that I do. I learned that I lost pieces of myself believing everything that "J" said. He was just that manipulative, cold hearted, self centered jerk. I definitely saw tons of jealousy with him that it was difficult to talk to him.
I will always love my dad and I felt that his presence was telling me to leave "J" because my dad always looked out for me. I will always be his little girl. Boyfriends can come and go but the love of my father can never be replaced.
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