Three Myths About Grief Support Programs Dispelled
Myth #1 – All you do at grief support is tell your sad story and cry.
Not at most programs! People laugh, they cry, they share and they feel better! Grief support groups are there to help as you heal from your loss. Whether or not you choose to speak, you can hear others share their feelings and discuss their situations so that you leave knowing that you are not alone in your experience. Friendships form, support is given and by the end of the session, you go home uplifted.
Myth #2 – Support Groups are for Women
Tell that to the many men who attend grief support programs regularly. Men are not exempt from the pain of grief. They do, however, have some different needs and that is why the issues they are facing may need to be recognized. Whether they attend a men’s only group or one that is mixed, men gain a lot of help from attending a grief support program.
Myth #3 - Time heals all grief.
Although you do feel better over time, time is not the panacea for all. Some people need the support and camaraderie found in grief support programs. Loneliness is a common feeling that people report following the loss of a loved one. By coming to a program, you get the chance to be with others who truly understand.
Still not sure if this is for you? Here is what some grief support group participants have to say:
“Overwhelmed by many losses over the last year, grief support has helped me to get through it.”
“Following the loss of my wife, attending the various grief support programs has helped me to level out the emotional ups and downs of grief and I have been able to find a life again. I look forward to going to the programs and like that I can also offer support to others.”
“These programs have shown me that I am not alone. I have made new friends. We support each other and get each other through the grief. I’ve learned how I can stand on my feet and be my own person again. It has given me the strength to find out who I am.”
Nancy Weil is a leading authority on humor and grief. She serves as Director of Grief Support for eleven cemeteries and is a Certified Funeral Celebrant and Grief Management Specialist. Through her company, The Laugh Academy, she offers products to ease the stress and pain that grief can bring. Bandages for Your Heart on DVD or CD, Laugh for the Health of It on CD and her new book, If Stress Doesn’t Kill You, Your Family Might, can be ordered by clicking here.
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