With the help of friends and neighbors, I got my house and yard ready for winter this weekend. I have a disability and cannot do all the work myself, but have great friends and am lucky to live on a wonderful block with wonderful neighbors who all pitched in to put up storm windows, take in the deck furniture, empty and clean flower pots, prune shrubs, cut back perennials, and spread mulch.

Today came the saddest chore, though: clearing out the vegetable garden. I started crying when I awoke this morning, and I'm still crying now. In 2009, Steve and I put in a raised bed for vegetables to make gardening easier for me. My husband loved that garden, and I never grew vegetables before I met him, so all that part of the gardening is deeply connected in my mind with Steve. In the weeks just after he died, I couldn't stand to be out there at all. It was just too painful. In the past week, I've been able to get some work done, bring in what remained of the edible things, put a few of the last marigolds in a vase to enjoy, and get the bed ready for winter. Tonight, I look out over the empty garden bed and my satisfaction at having the work completed is mixed with deep sadness for the end of the last garden Steve and I planted together.

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Comment by Kathy King Kates on November 25, 2010 at 6:55am
I was lucky to have family help me with winterizing too last week. Luckily here in the south its not as major as you up there in the north but still have pruning cleaning mulching and all. Luckily my daughter and SIL were up to the task. With my surgery I was stuck just watching but nice havin it all done. It does remind us that everything does have its season. With today not only being Thanksgiving but the 9 month anniversary of Bill's passing, it is a bittersweet day. I will rejoice in having my loving family all snuggled in their beds this morning and knowing it feels so good having a houseful and even more joining us later on today. I hope you are having a good family or friend day. Happy Thanksgiving Susan. Hugs
Comment by Jerry on November 24, 2010 at 8:26pm
Somtimes crying is good for us. Just think,in the spring,when it is time to replant the garden,Steve will be looking over you shoulder to help you get the job done.Dont think that this was the last one he worked on with you.

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