Accepting help from others can be particularly important when a spouse has died.  The tasks that they once completed may now be left unattended.  For instance, if they handled financial matters or chores around the house it may be difficult to handle all by yourself.  In such a case the advice of tactful friends can be of great assistance to you. The Bible describes at Proverbs 17:17 a true friend is one "born when there is distress."  So do not isolate yourselves from them thinking that you will be or are a burden to them.  Association with others can be like a bridge that helps you cross over from grief to acceptance. At times do you feel as though you are the cause of your loved one's death? How can you deal with the guilt?