I checked out a blog here that offers counseling and books for sale to help us all deal with our loss and stress, I guess. One post said something to the fact that some people will always cling to their grief, while others are willing to "do the work" to move on. Ok, there is a part of me that can see the trace of a valid point there. We all must decide to whether we want to keep on living, or continue existing. It took me 5 years to reach the conclusion that I could still continue to live and still remember my late son every day. Some days are still very bad. And some days are almost normal. I find things that I enjoy now, and try my best to not feel guilty for it, because my son no longer can.
However, people grieve in their own good time. There is no quick fix for grief, especially at losing a child. It is ok to grieve, it is ok to cry, it is ok to miss our children and think about them every single day.
We cannot equate stress-reduction with grieving. They are not the same. I can talk to a grief counselor until I am blue in the face, and it does not ever erase the fact that my son is gone. This is a wound that never really heals, it just becomes a little easier to live with over time, probably because we get used to having it.
I just needed to say that. There is no quick fix for grief.