Hi my name is Debbie. My husband and I got together in 1989. We lived together for years, then along came my sweet boy Scott, he was born in 1994. We then decided to get married on July 15, 2000.  Lived a happy life, then in 2003, along came my baby girl Amanda.  Like every marriage there was ups and downs. We decided best to seperate.  We still remained the best of friends, and best friends at that and always had the kids come first.

One day on June 29,2014, his girlfriend called me to come and check on him as she was worried, well I called and called while on my way, and something told me to take my cell phone into the house with me, and I did, and unfortunately I had to make that dreadful phone call.  My husband had committed suicide and it was with his archery bow, was loaded like a trigger on a gun. My worst ever nightmare was right infront of my eyes.

He left 2 amazing kids who are now older but still live with me. I am left with the what if, and well If I had of.........I have joined therapy and several other groups that have been very helpful, for me to realize I am not in this alone. Yes I do say what if, as he had asked for his family back and I have come to realize now, if he wasnt now it would have been another time. I am learning it is a sickness. and I thank you for your time, and patience, and thoughts here.


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Comment by Barbara Rieger on February 19, 2015 at 4:06pm

Hi Debbie, please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of your husband and the father the children. You're doing rather well by going to therapy and other groups. You can join loss of a spouse on legacy as well as one for suicide.

I am on the site for loss of a child. My son was 42 years old when a drunk driver took him from all of his family and friends who love him. It will be 5 years this April 5th. Last year I found out that my ex-husband passed 5 weeks after our son Joe.

Debbie take good care of yourself and your children. We never know what life has in store for any of us. Keep your chin up.

PS If you want to talk with me click on my name and you'll be on my wall.



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