I don't know how to help my husband with his grief.  His daughter blames herself.  He just had enough and shot himself.

He is only 22 years old and was to nicest boy, no drugs or and problems.  He just did it.  I don't understand but maybe it is not for me to understand.  He is in a better place.  I got up this morning to the most beautiful clouds and I became at peace with the whole thing.  I wish I could give this to my husband.

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Comment by Mrs Houston on September 29, 2011 at 7:22pm
Joyce, I'm sorry to hear that happened. It's sad that something like that put a damper on such a solemn day. I'm sure you and the family have a had a long day. Hang in there and when things quiet down you'll have time to reflect and get your bearings. I'll be praying for you and will contact you on your personal account soon.
Comment by Joyce Rose on September 28, 2011 at 10:38am

Today is the Memorial mass and their whole family is here.  Last night my peace was shattered.  A friend of the family left his tie at Johnnys house and now he has to have it.  It was $600 when we started talking and in the end it was a $40 tie.  The thing is we cleaned Johnnys (the deceased) room and in the closet were some ties so we donated them along with clothes.  He screamed at me and I explained that I didn't care about the tie he could get a new one.  We can't get a new johnny.  I say that his tie wasn't important and that Johnny was.  I said a lot more but that is the idea.  When I brought the phone in and told my husband he flipped out on me and told me to mind my own business.  I know it is his pain talking so i am Just standing strong.  Please email me directly at joycerose50@msn.com.  I would really like to get to know you better.  Thank you for everything!!!!  Joyce

Comment by Mrs Houston on September 27, 2011 at 9:43pm
Joyce, I'm so so so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief your family is experiencing right now. I'd like to extend my deepest sympathy to your family.

When my brother died, my father (his stepfather) was visibly saddened and hurt. However, he did not mourn the way my mother did. He had a calm that came over him some would call it a peace or strength. However, the best thing he did for my mother was mourn with her. (Ecclesiastes 7:4)"The heart of the wise ones is in the house of mourning, but the heart of the stupid ones is in the house of rejoicing." This helped my ma having my dad (stepfather) supporting her.

Its commendable that you want to comfort your husband. I hope that your family can find peace in the days, weeks, months and years ahead. To hear news of such a nice young man taking his life without visible signs of distress, must be a shock to your family which makes this loss incredibly hard to accept. I pray you can continue to comfort all the family as many often carry guilt. That guilt can swallow the surviving family. I will keep your family in my prayers.
COMFORT-(Psalm 34:18) “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; And those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Philippians 4:6-7) Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus."
Comment by Mrs Houston on September 27, 2011 at 9:43pm
Joyce, I'm so so so so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief your family is experiencing right now. I'd like to extend my deepest sympathy to your family.

When my brother died, my father (his stepfather) was visibly saddened and hurt. However, he did not mourn the way my mother did. He had a calm that came over him some would call it a peace or strength. However, the best thing he did for my mother was mourn with her. (Ecclesiastes 7:4)"The heart of the wise ones is in the house of mourning, but the heart of the stupid ones is in the house of rejoicing." This helped my ma having my dad (stepfather) supporting her.

Its commendable that you want to comfort your husband. I hope that your family can find peace in the days, weeks, months and years ahead. To hear news of such a nice young man taking his life without visible signs of distress, must be a shock to your family which makes this loss incredibly hard to accept. I pray you can continue to comfort all the family as many often carry guilt. That guilt can swallow the surviving family. I will keep your family in my prayers.
COMFORT-(Psalm 34:18) “Jehovah is near to those that are broken at heart; And those who are crushed in spirit he saves.” (Philippians 4:6-7) Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus."

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