I just wanted to express my appreciation for this blog. No one sets out to offend the grieving party at their most difficult time in life. Many people do not realize that their comments can be offensive. They are not meant to be. I am very thankful to have read the many comments of what NOT to say to those grieving family members. I guess many really don't understand how wrong those comments are until they are in that situation themselves.
I would say in most cases they are just trying to be caring and comforting and maybe the only thing they know to say is what they have heard others say for years and years. That point was already made by someone else.
I took great comfort in the comments that said they were most grateful for the comments of "I am sorry for your loss" accompanied with a hug. I have recently lost a great friend and am struggling to find the words to say to his wife and children. I feel helpless to help them in some way and have realized that there really isn't anything I can do to comfort them.
Thank you so much for this blog. It appears that, maybe, the less said at a time like this the better.