When my son went fourteen months ago that is exactly the thought that was uppermost in my mind. If only I could call him, or someone, to see if he was okay. I invented a word. A Heaven-o-Gram. None yet.
But I pray every night that they are looking after him, and look forward to seeing him again one day.
Hi Don---thanks for accepting me as your friend---I thank you for your kind words. I saw your post about heaven and it having a phone----I totally understand that. I wish too---I have 2 brothers there and a sister. My brother, Clarence died on 1/27/12----he had a massive stroke on 1/21/12 and our family decided to pull him off life support on 1/27/12. It hurts so much cause just didnt get to tell him how much he meant to me as a brother and that I loved him and he mattered. Im in so much pain--I cry everyday and I just dont know. I wish I could talk to him---I pray and I pray he hears me. I hurt for my mom too---3 children gone. Anyway---I just wanted to say--I can relate to you and what u said and if u need to ever talk I am here. :-) Luciana
I lost my brother to cancer. the battle was for 16months.I never dreamed when we had benefit march 16,2011 id be burying him sept 12,2011. I am here for you whenever you need me .. im not a big talker but im a texter and love to go on facebook. Please join me in celebrating their wonderful spirits and remember them as great bRothers !
I lost my brother to cancer. the battle was for 16months.I never dreamed when we had benefit march 16,2011 id be burying him sept 12,2011. I am here for you whenever you need me .. im not a big talker but im a texter and love to go on facebook. Please join me in celebrating their wonderful spirits and remember them as great bRothers !
Thank you, Its so hard because little things upset me and I am trying to be strong. Last night I seen a picture of my mom and me and my brother and i couldnt help it i cried so hard and didnt sleep. It hurts so much I keep thinking maybe I should have been there more. He was amazing but he didnt think he was and maybe its my fault that I didnt tell him more.
Hi Don thanks for your kind words, i dont think i have been keeping things in to help me help others tho what you said does make sense, i live 160 miles from my family (brothers and sisters) and although speak often on phone visits even before my sisters death was once maybe twice a year. i know i was lucky not to have to deal with everything following her leaving us and not having that day to day contact i could almost tune everything out. i dont understand if i am done grieving am i over the worst ? if i fell to pieces now it would seem stupid and embarrasing to ask for help from family who have only just got through this and last thing they need is me dragging them back down
Don..I'm so sorry you are hurting, but I do understand. It will be one year on the 21st that my only brother and sibling died. He also was on a ventilator. All I can tell you is in the last couple of months I have tried to focus on Brad's life not on the circumstances of his death. I was replaying the last couple of months in the hospital and his final days and I realized no matter how much I thought about them it changed nothing and didn't serve any purpose. I was getting stuck on his death instead of his life and what a great life he had. He was kind, funny and so full of life. That is how I want to remember him and I know that is how he would want to be remembered. You move forward because you don't have a choice time just drags you forward whether you want to go or not. When the dark thoughts come regarding your brothers days in the hospital try to change those thoughts into remembering Kenny's life. Hopefully you'll start finding a little peace with those thoughts. It sounds like you guys were so close. Just know he's still with you and the love you shared is still there. Those bonds can never be broken. I wish you peace.
Don, don't give up...God is listening and will heal your broken heart. I lost my sister December 14, 2010. We buried her 3 days before Christmas; so it wasn't much of a holiday for our family. She never complained of pain, never even flinched. She was diagnosed with end-stage breast cancer that had metatasized into her lungs. We found out the day after Thanksgiving when she was having trouble breathing and only had a short time to prepare for her death. I feel guilty because I was supposed to ride with her in the ambulance when they moved her from the hospital over to hospice. My younger sister asked me to ride with her because she didn't know the way to the hospital...I did and while waiting for them to get her situated in her room, she took two deep breaths and passed away. I never wanted her to go to hospice and I don't think she wanted to go. I had prepared to stay with her overnight and be with her every step of the way. The time span was so short. One minute we were preparing for surgery, then she was being transferred to another hospital for treatment before the surgery, then we were being told they would make her as comfortable as possible. I feel I should have ridden with her, then I could have been with her when she left us. It is hard now but, knowing that God is listening, I just keep talking. So just keep talking with God, He hears you...I'll keep you in my prayers.
Hang in there the pain is hard to handle . You will learn in time how to live your life .You will always miss your brother . We have to go on for the family we have here.
I started this group so there is a place for people to let there feelings out.
Everybody here will support you . I really hate that you are going through this.
One day at a time friend .People say time heals no it doesn't heal it just becomes easier to live your life. My brother has been gone three years ...
Its the 1st Christmas without my brother Kenny, WOW! its hard, I miss him so much, I cant sleep,I cant think,I keep seeing his Heart beat for the last time. See, When they took out the tube he never took a breath on his own,His heart just slowly stoped. And i keep seing that over & over everytime i shut my eyes.But u no,On Christmas Eav ,Wer all at my moms and mom looked up and saw her hanging plant swaying back and forth,There was Nothing making it move,Im sure it was Kenny letting Everyone know he was there. Well Kenny, We all know it was you and i think it was your way of telling us that. We all love you & Miss you like Crazy kenny.missing really is not the word on how im feeling,I want to see you So Bad,I hurt so much Everyday and dont know how to deal with it.And i dont know what to say to Lynn,My sister,On how she can deal to help her.She is having a really bad time. We want so bad to see in,to here him. Love ya buddy and ill see you later,,
3 weeks ago today my brother Kenny passed away, Im not doing very good, I want to see my brother again. I no he is in the best hands, Gods hands. I trust in my lord and i always will. I miss you Kenny My only brother, I cant wait to see you again. Please no i will never forget you Brother.
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When my son went fourteen months ago that is exactly the thought that was uppermost in my mind. If only I could call him, or someone, to see if he was okay. I invented a word. A Heaven-o-Gram. None yet.
But I pray every night that they are looking after him, and look forward to seeing him again one day.
Hi Don---thanks for accepting me as your friend---I thank you for your kind words. I saw your post about heaven and it having a phone----I totally understand that. I wish too---I have 2 brothers there and a sister. My brother, Clarence died on 1/27/12----he had a massive stroke on 1/21/12 and our family decided to pull him off life support on 1/27/12. It hurts so much cause just didnt get to tell him how much he meant to me as a brother and that I loved him and he mattered. Im in so much pain--I cry everyday and I just dont know. I wish I could talk to him---I pray and I pray he hears me. I hurt for my mom too---3 children gone. Anyway---I just wanted to say--I can relate to you and what u said and if u need to ever talk I am here. :-) Luciana
I lost my brother to cancer. the battle was for 16months.I never dreamed when we had benefit march 16,2011 id be burying him sept 12,2011. I am here for you whenever you need me .. im not a big talker but im a texter and love to go on facebook. Please join me in celebrating their wonderful spirits and remember them as great bRothers !
luv dawn
I lost my brother to cancer. the battle was for 16months.I never dreamed when we had benefit march 16,2011 id be burying him sept 12,2011. I am here for you whenever you need me .. im not a big talker but im a texter and love to go on facebook. Please join me in celebrating their wonderful spirits and remember them as great bRothers !
luv dawn
Thank you, Its so hard because little things upset me and I am trying to be strong. Last night I seen a picture of my mom and me and my brother and i couldnt help it i cried so hard and didnt sleep. It hurts so much I keep thinking maybe I should have been there more. He was amazing but he didnt think he was and maybe its my fault that I didnt tell him more.
Don,
Hang in there the pain is hard to handle . You will learn in time how to live your life .You will always miss your brother . We have to go on for the family we have here.
I started this group so there is a place for people to let there feelings out.
Everybody here will support you . I really hate that you are going through this.
One day at a time friend .People say time heals no it doesn't heal it just becomes easier to live your life. My brother has been gone three years ...
Lisa
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