It's a lingering, no relief in site pain. Candace is my only child. I would die for her! Why Lord? He knows something I don't. I have to trust in Him. Thanks for replying Renee. I feel so alone w/o Candace. 

Renee, I just read your post that your son Tony was 42 years old. My son Joe was also 42 in 2010. It's so young. I too don't understand why bad things happen to good people. Was the book written by Robert Schuller? You're so right all we have is love. I read somewhere that they take the love with them. We had some nice neighbors who lived down the block from us and Joe was friends with the boys. He graduated HS with one his age. At the class reunion that same year Joe left us his HS class has a class reunion. Because the loss happened from a drunk driver his classmates wore a pink ribbon from MADD. It made me feel good that his friends included him at their class reunion. Come on and write about your son Tony if it helps you. I like to talk about my son Joe. Yesterday I was in the vegetable market and heard a song that reminds me of him sung by "Blondie." I get comfort from it because I smile and think of it. But I really do hate the fact that he's not here enjoying life on earth.

With Love,

Barbara

Hi Renee,

I along with all the other members on this site understand how you are feeling at this time. My son Joe was taken from me and everyone who loves him on April 5, 2010 by a drunk driver.

I remember waking up every morning all day long, before going to sleep, and when I did get to sleep thinking of my son Joe. He is the only child I ever gave birth to.

It's 4 years and sometimes I still feel the pain when I least expect it. It's so unfair but we were never promised a rose garden.

If you post on the main page someone will answer you and it can help. I didn't register on this site immediately but it was good I did when I did. It's a place to come when it's late at night or any time during the day. I don't post on the main page as much as I use to. Mostly I prefer to say something to someone new on their wall; as I'm doing with you.

The one thing I can say is that each person grieves differently. Be patient and kind to yourself. Try to take good care of yourself.

You're not alone there are many of us here who have walked this road before you. If you want to respond just click on my name and I'll be there. I read the posts just about every day so I feel the strength of others and sometimes I can offer my support and strength.

With Love,

Barbara