thank you so much i think i will stick with this group i was going to try and find a local group but i don;t think so you are very nice here how long does it take to let up just a little all i do is cry at everything .
Debra, the death of a child is devastating for any parent. It is an overwhelming ordeal that mere words cannot erase. But if you have suffered such a loss and are wondering why God took your child, then you are laboring under a misconception that may only add to your anguish. You need to know the truth: God did not take your child. I would like to send you something to read along with your bible that was great comfort to me. I feel it will answer some of your questions. Kathybonham92@yahoo.com
debra - i tend to talk about dusty to people at work,, maybe too much i have just a few people at work that are really nice and care about me...i realize there is only so much i can talk about it around people- i do not want anyone to feel sorry for me... things are just the way they are and other people have issues, not just me.... i know you understand.. i am always here for you... it helps each one of us, when we are all here for each other..... love to you,,, hugs, valerie
debra, this is the best place to come and talk on and on about our children. everyone needs to talk as much as possible, because we are the only ones... who understand each others feelings. we may not understand the whys and ifs, but we are here for each other and for me, its a great comfort because i have no friends. i am lonely. i am here for anyone who wants to talk about their child. i want to feel needed here and all of you make me feel need and not crazy.. love and hugs, val
Thank you Debra, I do believe my son loved me above everything else since my husband gone back to work out of town it was just jonthan and me most nights we always had one night that was movie night and even if his friends called he would say no its our movie night. He was my baby was so spoilt his siblings would get so mad and has caused alot of fights with my husband he always got his way with me, the one of very few times i made him do something that he asked to do later he was killed doing it, I know its not my fault but why couldn't I have babied him one more time and maybe he would still be here.
I'm glad you have dreams of your son i haven't had one yet, the doctor finally put me on sleeping pills because i can go to sleep but wake up and all i can do is see my son dead in the truck with his hand outside the door and the police wouldn't let me hold it, then I start crying and can't go back to sleep I would love to see my son, I know he's alright he has given me enough signs but seeing his face would be the best Christmas gift ever
Thank you Shirley for your comment on would we change places with people who never had children, when my son died i asked god if you were going to take him at such a young age why did you give him to me in the first place, when i was 13 weeks into my pregnancy he tried to come and the doctors didn't think they could stop the labor but they did and then he became stuborn and then they had to induce and belive me he was the most stubborn child you would have ever met, but after what you said i had to really think about it and no i wouldn't have changed a thing i had him for 17 years not always great but will always have the memory of my baby boy and that is something some people will never know.
Thank you for your comment about the penny someone on here was telling us about always finding one I thought that was so cool of their love one and then i was having a bad day and found that under my pizza that i made my self and didn't have to pay for it since my daughter is manager, so i knew it had to be him, my son wanted to go into the military so bad but he had adhd and that would have left him out so he was gong to be a fbi agent, thank you for letting our country have your son to protect the ones who love, I believe people like him get a extra space in heaven for all their good works they gave for our country.
I truly share your pain. I have lost 2 adult daughters in the past 18 months. I know the feeling of with all of my heart, wanting them back & wanting our family to be as it used to be. However, my way of coping is to remember I had them & I am so grateful to have had them for as long as I did. We loved each other very much. Many women have never had children & have never felt what you & I feel. Would you trade with them? I doubt it. I'm so sorry for us.
Today marks the fifth year anniversary of when my son Travis was wounded in Hit, Iraq. He lived until the 21st of July of 2005, six days. There are days like today when his loss is fresh in my heart and mind, and I rage at his loss. I miss him so much.