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At 4:51pm on December 18, 2010, mary mello said…

thank you so much i didn't no what to do i have copd and have a hard time breathing when i get upset confused or anguesse thank you so much

At 4:51pm on December 18, 2010, mary mello said…

thank you so much i didn't no what to do i have copd and have a hard time breathing when i get upset confused or anguesse thank you so much

At 4:27pm on December 18, 2010, Melissa Asher said…

Oh Terri my heart goes out to you,, this is very new to you, and I wish I could just hug you. I know your numb and do not know what to do. just remember you had 17 wonderful years with him, I know you do not want to hear this, as I don;t, my daughter was 18, she just gradutade high school, and was in rolled in collage she was a model, and published poet, she was going to be a cop, they told  her she could not cause she was so small, but she could do 50 one handed push up on each side and run 3 miles a day, I try not to think about the day she died but the last thing I said to her was hurry up, but the day before I told her i was falling in love with someone and i was scared and she said she was to and she was scared and at the same time we said it does not matter because we have each other forever. I always said never say forever, she slip in the tub and drowned she died she was in the water too long i was only gone for ten minutes get this, i thought her how to swim when she was 18 months, well she went to the hospital and she died three days later well she was brain dead i took her off the machines she saved two peoples lives, so she is still living,, ok i just read what cathy wrote my father killed him self on christmas day i was 14 i was very try to kill my self many times as a kid, i thought i was not worth living for,,, I am over that now, you can not do that to your other kids, I know you are hurting, that is not the ans. I know you can not handle the stress of your husband greif or your kids but somewhere for your son you have to be strong, the  pain wont go away, but you will get to the point can deal with it,, you have to do this for your husband and children ok, most of all do you  jonathan would want you to do that, no he would be mad,,, please get some help I am in therapy. here is a big hug, Melissa

At 12:58pm on December 16, 2010, Cathy Pearly said…

Terri....I know you are hurting..I know you miss your son...I know you want to be with him....you always will want him and miss him...but you cannot...CANNOT even consider leaving your husband and 3 remaining children.  I hope that you will always be able to pull yourself back from those thoughts...you are not done here Terri.  You have much left in this life to do.  Your children and your husband NEED you.  You know this already though....in your heart you always will.

 

As Christmas gets nearer and nearer, I myself get more withdrawn...I can't help it.  Even after all this time it still hurts to know that I will once again have a holiday that Jake won't be in.  It gets worse as the day gets closer...just know that what you are feeling is normal, and you are not alone.  You may have a few more good days before Christmas...and you may just have bad ones...please try to recognize the good ones, and let them happen.  I am sending happy smiles to you today and hoping you will have a good day!

At 12:58pm on December 16, 2010, Cathy Pearly said…

Terri....I know you are hurting..I know you miss your son...I know you want to be with him....you always will want him and miss him...but you cannot...CANNOT even consider leaving your husband and 3 remaining children.  I hope that you will always be able to pull yourself back from those thoughts...you are not done here Terri.  You have much left in this life to do.  Your children and your husband NEED you.  You know this already though....in your heart you always will.

 

As Christmas gets nearer and nearer, I myself get more withdrawn...I can't help it.  Even after all this time it still hurts to know that I will once again have a holiday that Jake won't be in.  It gets worse as the day gets closer...just know that what you are feeling is normal, and you are not alone.  You may have a few more good days before Christmas...and you may just have bad ones...please try to recognize the good ones, and let them happen.  I am sending happy smiles to you today and hoping you will have a good day!

At 10:41pm on December 15, 2010, Pam Brooks said…

Wow, Terri I am so so sorry for your loss.

I wanted to thank you for the comment regarding the ornament.  I took it to work and everyone loved it. Maybe I can take a pic of it and show you.  Bless you Terri.

At 10:14pm on December 15, 2010, sunni said…

Terri, thank you for your kindness. I read your profile and found myself with tears. Im sorry for your lose... truly... Sunni and I lost our son Christian Jan 10 of this year. My best friend.. I too thank god it was fast and painless. I had the honor of holding my sons hand and whispering in his ear that i love him and i would see him soon.. My heart go's out to you and your family.

At 4:23pm on December 15, 2010, Gaynell Leath said…

I was glad to hear from you.When my first child Steven passed.My youngest Jason had just been through brain surgery months before.I know I was in so much pain.I also know it changed Jasons life forever.His big brother was his hero.He loved him so much.I held on for his sake the best I could.I wish I would have done more.I look back now and know they are together.It is so very hard for me.As I said before I do know they would want mom ok.So I go on.I have hopes of helping others someday.My prayers are with you and yours.Have a blessed evening.Stay strong for the others they need you so very much~~~Steven and Jasons mom Gaynell Leath Always here

At 9:05pm on December 14, 2010, Mary Ann Squires (Macs) said…

Terri, If you would like a locket for your son Jonathan's lock of hair, go to ebay and bring up "prayer box" or "locket"  and there or a lot of different kinds you can find. That's how I found the one I have and I just love it. If you go to a cremation site they will way over charge you for a locket you can easily find for a more resonable price.

How are you doing?  I went to the national candle lighting last Sunday night and it was so comforting to actually meet other parents in the same sad situation and how we are all handling our grief. 

Take care and know I'm thinking  of you.

(((HUGS)))   Macs 

At 5:20pm on December 13, 2010, Cathy Pearly said…

Terri, there is a link to the video on the main page in my comments from last night..the comment just before the pictures I posted...it will take you to the youtube video...or...here..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ux4rG1lvd_w

If you have any trouble viewing it and hearing the music let me know.

 

 

At 5:05pm on December 13, 2010, Gaynell Leath said…

My heart goes out to you.Both of my sons passed at 19 five years apart.I do know the pain.I will have you and yours in my thoughts and prayers.Steven and Jasons mom Gaynell Leath Always here

At 11:41am on December 11, 2010, Teresa said…

Terri, I'm so glad your daughter is ok. Jonathan I'm sure is looking out for his sister. I think it's awsome that you saw the shooting star, I'm sure that was him sending you a message. 

At 8:58am on December 11, 2010, Mary Ann Squires (Macs) said…

Terri, I just read your story about your daughter almost tragedy.  I really couldn't amagine another loss like that in your life.  What a great ending with the shooting star and knowing it was Jonathan watching over her, all of you for that matter.  Glad your daughter is alright. Keep the faith terri, that is all we all have right now.  Much love, Macs

At 7:56am on December 11, 2010, Carrie L said…

Hi Terry I hope you are alright. well as alright as we get... which is a little better than the sadness we experience day in day out. I don't have a lot to say though this site brings me with people that know how sad i am and how i barely make it. just the sadness is so overpowering that nothing seems to kick it out. hope you are as good as you could be after such a horrific thing happening. as me. i may be as good as i could be. they are so precious. and so irreplaceable. so unique and so much loved. take care carrie L

At 11:44pm on December 10, 2010, Tami said…

Hi Terri,

Here are a few sites that have the throws, I dont know the exact site, so I just did a search, shop around because prices vary, Please let me know if you have one made, maybe you can post a picture too!

 

I think this first site is the one my Daughter used to have my Sons made, I love it so much, It is large and washable, I havent used it yet, But It is right here next to me...

http://www.custom-wall-tapestries.com/photoweave-throw.html

 

http://fmblankets.com/

 

http://www.treasureknit.com/blankets/original.aspx

 

http://www.thememoriesplace.com/

http://www.personalthrows.com/?Click=2

Tami Scalise Halton O:-)
At 6:53pm on December 10, 2010, Carolyn Smith said…

Teri,  There are some things that are beyond comprehension and this is one of them.   As for venting, this site is one of the places that I feel safe sharing my true feelings.  In the beginning of my nightmare I too wanted answers to all my questions.  I didn't get any answers, in fact no one in law enforcement would even talk to me or my lawyer.  I finally had to let go.  To me there was no point.  In the end my son would still be dead and for me it was self destructive.   The guy who said he followed  your son sounds like a first class jerk who has nothing going on in his own life and so wants to stir up things that are none of his business.   God bless you!!!!  We've all got a long road ahead and the journey can never bring me true happiness.  I don't understand any of this anymore than I can bring my beloved Max back so I keep plodding on.  I send love and prayers to you.  Carolyn

At 1:25pm on December 10, 2010, Teresa said…

I'm so sorry Terri, I am crying for you. It's not fair, so not fair. I have to leave work now but I would like to write more then.  Hang on.  Hugs, Teresa

At 1:25pm on December 10, 2010, Teresa said…

I'm so sorry Terri, I am crying for you. It's not fair, so not fair. I have to leave work now but I would like to write more then.  Hang on.  Hugs, Teresa

At 10:40pm on December 9, 2010, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…

What a wonderful looking son. I can see how he would light up a room when he walked in. I still dont get any of this.  But there is not much we can do or undo. I hate that we have to wonder what milestones they didnt get to take in life.  My daughter did graduate highschoo. then college, with a dental hygiene license. She got a job paying 20bucks an hr and then before she could go full time, she is gone. Not instantly, which, I dont know what is better, if that is ok to say.  she was in icu for 5 days.  I dont know why we thoghht she would pull thru. She had brain damage from a 15ft fall out of a window after being put to bed after she got overly drunk. Her friends were too drunk also to help her or call anyone. I will always question their decisions to put her to bed because, she probably would have died in her sleep. She was .298 BAC. they had been doing shots, playing beer pong and had pizza. I never got anyone to talk to us. 

Well, hang in there. We are all in this together for as long as it takes. Hugs

At 6:47pm on December 7, 2010, Cathy Pearly said…
Terri, I think it is definitely worth a try to take his phone in and see what they can do. Try to get someone that has been there a while because new employees tend to just say it can't be done, and don't really know. If there is a sim card in the phone, your chances are probably even better. I didn't go to the accident site when my son crashed on his motorcycle until about a month later, and it was aweful.....he flew through the air and broke two trees, and to see those broken trees and know that my baby broke them...well it is more than I can handle so I block it out. I think you must have been so tortured to have had to wait for them to take him out of the truck. I would think they must have know that he was gone already, otherwise they would have let you talk to him and keep him company don't you think? I was told Jake died instantly too, true or not, that is what I need to believe. Your life has forever changed, and your normal is gone...this is the beginning of a whole new life, not a great one to start with, but with time, it will get easier...you will always miss your baby, but you will not be in this much pain forever. Sending smiles your way for a brighter tomorrow.

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