Thank you Christy! It is an awful time. In the beginning I didn't think it would help to talk to others like me, but I'm finding it is better talking to those who can relate. My husband was very young as well. He died one week before his 26th birthday. People have been telling me how strong I've been, but I feel anything but. I'm so sorry about your loss. I know from experience that no words will help, but hopefully we can be each others support through this awful time. Always know I'm here to listen too. God bless and I wish you the best.

Hi Christy, Thanks for your concern. My computer was in the shop for a week. I do come in Bereaved Spouses but do not comment much.

I read the others problems. I guess I am one of the lucky ones in that I have no money problems.

My husband has been gone 15 months & I still miss him. I think of him all the time. He suffered so much the last 7 months of his life & when I think of that I cry. He wanted to live so bad but it was not to be. The dementia was hard to take.

I remember our last valentines day in 2009. He always got me one red rose since that means I love you. And with it was those little ballons on a stick saying P.S. I Love You! I have it stuck in a plant near my conputer.

Will try to comment more often.

Love & Hugs,

Barbara

Hi Christy, that is so sweet, about your granddaughter, having a birthday on Valentine's.  

I feel very lucky and blessed indeed to have found this site also.  The amazing love and understanding here, gets me through some very difficult times. 

Here's praying for a good week and I just read your above post - thanks, it is very comforting.

 

Hugs, Carol

 

Yes, I know the other grandson would like to drive it.  But, he has a "not so great driving record already."  I personally don't like riding with him.  He's just not attentive, talks too much, gawks around, etc.  I would imagine if he got behind the wheel, Jim would see to it that it didn't start.  As I said before, that was Jim's baby.  Maybe some day......and he really gets teased about it.  If my daughter lets the boys take her car she always makes sure Joe drives!

Thank you Christy. Yes they were so young and we still need them so much. I to just want to wake up from this nightmare. Hugs and prayers to you all. Cindy

thx for the message Christy. Have to say I did think of you as we passed thru Covington Monday and then again last night. You are just about 2 hours from me so we definitely will plan a get together. Love your TIMOTHY outlook. It does give strength. And your wonderful day with your "stepson" was a memory to sustain you both. What a terrific idea. Promise to be back soon. Just got to get it together now that I am back home.

Christy,

Thank you so much for your comment...Amanda is an awesome kid and I hope I have been able to show her some grace and courage throughout the past 22 months. 

How are things going for you?  I know this whole process is not easy.  I think of you often and hope you are finding even the smallest amount of peace.

Hugs and good thoughts to you.

Hi Christy, you are so welcome and I hope you are doing the best you can:)

 

Take care and I have other comforting books etc. if at any time you would like any details.

 

God Bless,

Carol

Christy, I made it okay through the week-end, but was certainly glad when the kids came home.  Thanks for checking on me.

Thx for sending the friend request. I hadn't bothered looking at the list but just assumed we were friends all this time. We have been in spirit for sure. Hugs

Thank You Christy

Hi Christy,

It's the wee hours of the morning & I'm wide awake. This happens every night as I fall asleep watching tv then am awake for a few hours thinking.

I see where you are having problems with family . The same has been going on with 2 of my step children for almost 2 years.

I would like to email you if that is ok with you.

Have a good day.

Hugs !

Barbara

 

Christy,

I hope your special day is good to you.  Happy Birthday, I hope you don't mind my saying.

God bless and comfort you,

Suzanne

Isn't Covington over by Atlanta?? I live just 30 minutes east of Augusta. Might be fun to meet one day. Give it some thought..

Hope you will be able to have a little celebration for yourself today. Celebrate life as you know Larry would have wanted. Definitely do something special for yourself. Bill was always super great about getting me something he knew I wouldn't get myself so in his memory I bought myself a Kindle for my birthday last October and each and every time I open it I think of him and how happy he would have been to have gotten it for me.. You are a good person and don't let anyone make you think or feel otherwise. Glad you got that "letter" taken care of..

Christy,
Thank you for taking the time to read our story. I love to share Tom with everyone.
I am so sorry that you had to find us here. It is so hard to lose the one you love, especially when you expect it to last forever. It's an amazing feeling to know that you loved completely and were loved completely in return. You and your children were lucky to find that kind of love. I'm just so sorry it was cut short.
I remember the early days. They were hard to get through. I had the hardest time (still do to some degree) understanding how and why I am in the position I am in...these things happened to other people, we had plans for forever, why is it that everyone else's lives can just keep moving on when tom's gone and I am stuck with no sign of a future. All of those things and more were running around in my head. It all takes time, but eventually you find a way to move forward. I've always said I will not move on...just forward with Tom in my heart. Everything I do is to honor him. He really is my focus for everything, even after all this time.
There are no magic words of wisdom to help you through this time. It just sort of happens. You just keep waking up each day...one day at a time, one breath at a time...that is how I survive. Thankfully, you have your kids and your granddaughter to keep you going. I think it would be a great idea to get a picture of her with her Grandpa ornament. I'm sure he was smiling down as she was opening her bat and ball and he was probably saying, "See I told you so, I knew she was a softball player"!!!
Hang on tight to the memories you made and all the good he brought into your lives. I like to think our guys are with us all the time, watching and protecting us. I wish you peace and comfort as you continue on this journey. You are not alone here. There are great people here that have helped me along the way. I hope I can offer you that same help any time you need it.
Hugs and comfort to you and your family.

Hello  Christy    Sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you.  I really appreciated your comments.  It made me realize that there are some people in the same boat as myself.   I am sorry to hear you are having a hard time with family.  I am going through the same thing also.  I  havent talked to a few of Rick's brothers in months.  I realized that i don't need the drama  I have enough going on in my life.  I too feel that ricks family is almost jealous  and greedy too of all the things he gave me in life and in death.  I  dont think they realize that I would give that all up just to have him by my side again.  I think that they do not realize the things we are going through, they never will until they have to go through it themselves.  Hang in there Christy  and remember  we didnt marry the family  we just married our spouses!   Meridith

Hello Christy,

Thank you so much for your message. I know the tremendous pain you are going through right now, and I know you are at the point in this grieving process, that you may feel it is never going to end. I think the pain from the loss of a spouse, especially if it was a loving marriage, is the hardest experience anyone can go through. But you will emerge strong, it just takes time. I probably should not have commented on this site like I did, but it irates me that a particular person, who is so messed up in the head, may be making it harder for the new people on here to handle their grief. This person is on 9 different websites, and supposedly seeing a counselor. If this is true, she should change counselors, because she had bigger issues than this site can help her with. I just didn't want any new people to get dragged down by her constant negativity and self pity. Four friends that I met on here, all left the sight because of her, but I decided to respond, because I felt bad for the new people. I know you all will eventually figure it out, but I just wanted to give everyone a heads up.

Take care Christy, I promise you the pain will ease up, and life will at least feel like living again. But stay positive, it does help. Count the blessings you still have, and most importantly, watch for little signs from your husband. Sometimes you have to noticed them, but they are there. One day, driving down the road, I was so sad thinking about my husband and missing him so. All of a sudden hundreds of butterflies flew at my car window, then swooped up the hood of my car. I just smiled, because I knew my husband was telling me he was with me. He knew, when I saw butterflies, that to me, it meant my love ones in heaven were with me.

Take care,

Nancy