Hi Danielle, I am going way back to when I started this site and seeing how parents are coping, I hope that you are doing well.

Tami

Danielle, I am a widow on Legacy & somehow ended up here. Your son's beautiful face caught my attention & so I read your post. My deepest, heartfelt sympathy for you and what you endure. I live in Covington, GA, so just around the corner from you. I am struggling with my loss also. It will be 1 year next month that my everything lost his life in a work related "accident." I come here to Legacy to read posts from others who can relate, understand & give comfort. I just said a prayer for you & yours for peace & sustainability. Bless you as you continue to bless others through your work as a nurse & beyond. Hugs~ Christy

Danielle, Yes 2 days after your son....I truly feel that all of us parents here have been led here by our children, I feel that since we have found each other they have found each other also, and that when our time comes we will all be together! I have thought that since the beginning of this site. If I go first I will hug each and every one of our children for each and every one of us! Love and hugs and comforting prayers to you my sweet friend!

u r so welcome

u r so welcome

I am so sorry to know someone took your sons life on purpose is what i truly don't understand why the good die young and the murders rapist and just plain old mean people live.  They say it's not for us to understand but when we get to heaven everything will be revealed, well i need some answers down here, as im sure you do to

Danielle, Of course you are crying today, This is the day that you gave birth to Trenton, the happiest day of your life, I reflect back to the day that I gave birth to Joey on his birthday, I remember the happiness I felt and how I was so blessed to have him, It will be two years for us on June 22 that he left, I celebrate the day of his birth, after all it was the happiest day of my life, yes I cry, I feel very sad but I also thank the lord for letting me have him for 18 years, I wish it was way longer. It is such an emotional roller coaster we are on. Please know that I will be sending Heavenly Birthday wishes to Trenton and special hugs and prayers for you to get through this day and all other days we have to be without our babies.

Danielle....Continue to hold on. With time it gets a just a lil better each day. Cherish the memories, I will keep you in prayers....Love Jeanette

I so sorry did you do aything in remembrance of him for his birthday.  My sons is feb 9 he would have been 18 some people say i should still have a memorial birthday party for him and some says it would make the pain be worse than it is now.  How long has been son been deceased if you don't mind me asking

I am sorry about the loss of your son . I lost my son who was 26 on DEC 2 2009. not a day goes by that I dont think of him and miss him. Sometimes it feels so unreal . as if I am dreaming and will wake up and he will be here. but thats not so . I tell you to hold on to Gods unchanging hand its the only way we will make it though .You will be in my prayers. Have a Blessed New Year

...To be awakened by a phone call, looking at the caller ID it was the hospital, at 2:54am on Sunday morning, and told by a faceless, unknown person from the hospital "your son has been stabbed and is now going through emergency surgery"...she told me "you must get here as soon as you can", I don't remember hanging up the phone...I was there in an instant...then to be at the hospital and the receptionist is unable to look me in the face when I ask her repeatedly what is my son Conrads condition...then only after what seemed like an eternity to have a doctor and a chaplain come to me and finally let me know my son is now "fighting for his life"...the doctor told me my son had been stabbed...stabbed in the Heart...and "it did not look good"...but at that hospital, they had the best Trauma unit available anywhere...period. I was in a state of absolute and utter dis-belief...shock...having a nightmare, and I am totally awake...an unwanted out of body experience, in such a so-helpless situation...I had no choice...I could do nothing...I could do nothing but pray to god....and leave my sons life in the balance...in the hands of the best, most experienced trauma team possible...and god...to save my sons life, to keep him here where he belongs, with us, with his daughter...she is only five years old...God why did this happen....WHY...

Hi Danielle,I hope the new year is good too you and your heart doing a little better.I know that the pain of the heart still exists but I kow that the days get better after much prayer and trust in God Almighty.I hear the pain of so many of our friend and I cry as they cry knowing that sudden death can be rough on any heart but we have too keep pressing on,so press on my friend until we meet them again.

Justins mom I will pray for you oh how hard that will be. But god does tell us to forgive my heart goes out to you. Justins mom Pam

Danielle, You are like me, Up all night! I think those are the most peaceful hours, where the house is quiet. I lost my 18 year old son in a motorcycle accident 7 months ago, It is so painful, no matter what I believe in It just feels so wrong that he isnt here with me. Your Son is very Handsome, I am so sorry for your loss, and to think $70 and a taser... People now a days kill for shoes, it is just so unbelievable to me. I am so sorry
Hugs
Tami

There is strength in numbers & if we continue to lift each other up we shall get thru these hard days as I miss the voice of my child & I pray for those who still have their children too cherish them & thank God for them everyday.I watch as her sisters & brothers go through a hard time as they are angry that she had too leave & they don't talk about Kisha so I'm left to find my way alone but her love for me and my love for her is a statement too all that we shall prevail.I have a cousin/mortician who lost her brother to a swimming accident & her son in college was found slumped over in his car with a bullet in his head and she has not recovered yet.It has been 10 yrs for her son & longer for her brother.So we have a burden to carry but love will guide us through.Be Blessed Daniellle!!

Hi Danielle,my prayers go out & up for you & your family for the loss of such a fine young man,your days will get better as its been 3 yrs.that my 23 yr.old Kisha left me as she had a blood vessel to burst in her head from a brain tumor she had when she was 5 yrs. old she recovered from it finished school but they think it weakened over the yrs. & all of a sudden it struck & she was gone,it was hard to turn the machine off but after all of the tests proved she was gone we had too.So take your time cry when you have too but don't hide your feelings to please other people because they don't understand this type of pain unless they are walking in the same shoes,all of the fancy sayings don't get you thru the reality of losing your child God Bless you & your family during this tough time of the year,trust God & he'll see you thru. Rev.J.Durden

Dear Danielle...
I can tell you Hun, this is the hardest thing we'll ever go through in life. We will never get over this; but we WILL GET THROUGH IT. What a beautiful young man your son "is". What is his name? Only 21yrs....
I have no idea how I made it this far. My son Jordan passed away April 29th, 2007. He was only 23 years old. He was 6' 4" tall, light brown hair w/ golden highlights, and green eyes. He was so full of life, yet never had the chance to live one. He, like your son, was a firefighter, and wanted to become an EMT. He never had the chance to have children, or get married. He wouldve made a great father. It makes me very sad to think of all that couldve been; but will never be.
I know that pain you have inside you all too well. I am here to let you know...I understand. It wont make the pain go away any sooner, but I have found some comfort in this site. I only wish I would've found it sooner. I have only been here the last seven months. I am glad you found us now.
One thing you CAN do for yourself, is talk about your son. Talk about silly things, funny things..things that made him mad. People may not want to listen to you...talk about him anyway. Even memories they think are not apropo; I love them. All my memories are good memories now. Ask your friends to tell you about their funnest story about him. Or tell them to write it down and you can start a scrap book of stories. Just don't bottle him up. He was here. I would get mad sometimes when people would act as though he never existed. My son was here. And I LOVE talking about my son.
Please feel free to write me anytime. I am grieving with you. You are also in my prayers. God Bless you my new friend....Leslie

Daniel, I lost a child too, and I am sad but I am hopeful. God is with you, and he sometimes does not answer right away, but I have learned that we are all given a number of days to prepare for that final day, and we don't know when our number will be called. My child was 5 and she was my only daughter, I hurt a lot but I must press on for the other siblings to survive. Death is alive, and Jesus has not taken it out of this world, yet he gives us tools to prepare to live after death. Don't allow grief to take your life away from you, your son would not want that for you, with all the strength and courage that is in you, pull on that and weep! Yes I said to weep, because it cleanses the negative emotions and you will feel better, but know when to come out of that place, do not stay there long. Keep your head up and pray for faith to keep moving

Thank you Danielle for responding. Today has been a hard day. I spoke withthe coroner and it seems as if there is nothing going to be done to the drug dealer that sold my son a fentanyl patch. Just another dead drug addict but that drug addict was my son, my baby and he tried so hard to get off pain medicine it just defeated him again and again. I just thank God that he was saved and was serving the Lord, I'll never know what posessed him to leave his newfound sobriety and use again, but I know his struggle is over. If I can just find some peace in all of this. Have an awesome day and thanks for your feedback and comfort. I really think this forum is helping!
Lorelie