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At 7:41am on October 12, 2012, Tami said…
Hi Bethany, I am going way back to when I started this site and seeing how parents are coping, I hope that you are doing well.

Tami
At 8:12pm on April 9, 2011, Judy said…
Yes, that "soul connection" is so precious.  It keeps Jack close to me and helps me to be able to go on in light of what has happened.  My circle of friends has changed also and I'm most comfortable with people who are more spiritual and who really think and care about deep issues of life.  Haven't found anyone who's lost a child, but luckily know many who try to put themselves in my shoes and try to relate to what's going on with me that way.  I still may try to go to a grief support meeting for people who've lost a child; I tried one earlier for people who'd lost a loved one and was the only one who'd lost a child and in some ways felt I didn't fit with the group.  I'm thinking about you, Bethany, and God's blessings to you and yours.
At 10:51pm on April 7, 2011, Judy said…
Hi Bethany-I lost my oldest son on December 28, 2008.  He had just turned twenty.  He was the most wonderful person-beautiful inside and out and I miss him every day.  We try to live each day the best we can, but some days it's a lot harder than others.  The first year, I was totally numb and in a daze and the second year I spent hours and hours trying to figure out life and how it happened that ours had been turned upside down by the reckless actions of someone else.  Somedays I want to shut myself off from everyone, and other days I reach out to people.  Somedays I get upset that our friends have moved on, and other days I understand it's natural for them to.  It's still hard, real hard even after more than two years - how could it be otherwise?  We love these kids with every fiber of our being, and they're not with us.  I take comfort somedays that Jack will always be in my heart, but other days that's not enough because I want to see him, talk to him, laugh with him, hug him, scratch his back, cook for him and listen to him.  I'm grateful that I feel him with me, and I know God is with me helping me learn to live again.  I pray for you and for all of us on this site, that we can find peace and a new type of happiness for our remaining time on earth.
At 10:40am on January 5, 2011, JoAnn Brozowski said…

Hi Bethany -I lost my only child, Tyler, at age 24 on 01/26/10.  He wasn't married and had no children.  His passing took every hope and dream for the future that I ever had.  I often wished his girlfriend would come to me and tell me she was pregnant.  I don't know how I would have survived if she had and then lost the baby.  My heart and prayers go out to you - we will both walk the same trail of tears for the rest of our lives.

JoAnn

At 10:56pm on August 3, 2010, Tami said…
My Son also passed a little over a year ago, We will never forget or ever stop loving them, It is such an unbelievable thing to happen to a parent, the Loss Of A Child.... Forever in our hearts, in our thoughts and Loved.
At 10:56pm on August 3, 2010, Tami said…
My Son also passed a little over a year ago, We will never forget or ever stop loving them, It is such an unbelievable thing to happen to a parent, the Loss Of A Child.... Forever in our hearts, in our thoughts and Loved.
At 2:11am on June 4, 2010, Cindy Sadler said…
At 7:38am on October 5, 2009, Marina Angel said…
Hi Bethany I am writting to u to say I am very sorry for what u are going thru-know u are not alone -this has happened to many good Moms- we cannot watch our sons 24/7 and i can only tell u what has helped me mijo passed 5-3-08 and I think he is alive in spirit and can still hear me when i talk to him i too thought of him all the time for over a year grief is a process that u must travel on ur own time- i would become overwhelmed @ the love i have for mijo (Joey D) Love will get u thru esp @ the Holidays- maybe we can set up something special for our sons this year- i'm still trying to send pics to this site that I took over this last year-keep looking- I'll ask mijo to find Markus also his friend Bobby who passed 8-30-7 so they can send some special sign ( and Tami's Joey) to make sure we have a Happy Holiday season-I am here for you- Lov Marina-02343
At 11:43pm on October 4, 2009, Tami said…
Hi Bethany, I am writing to other parents on here to see if they would write to let it all out, all the feelings you are going through, to vent, whatever you want to write about, I love the picture of Markus, very handsome. I hate that we all are here because of the loss of our children,. it just seems so unfair, but we are not alone, even thought it feels like we are.

XOXO
Tami
At 11:20pm on September 22, 2009, Colleen Dore said…
I am so sorry for your loss, for the second time. How wonderful the thought of our sons having a child, so we could hold them and see him in their face. I like you will never have this. God has a plan for all of us, we just need to have faith in his decisions, may he bless you, and watch over you as Markus is!
At 7:56pm on September 15, 2009, Bethany said…
Marks girlfriend lost her baby. I will not see my sons child, I will not be a grandmother. It is Gods will, he knows what is best for us all. We may not allways understand why; I have faith in the bigger plan.
At 1:48pm on September 15, 2009, Cindy Sadler said…
My son was the same age as yours. On Auguest 30th, 2009, This is the Worst thing that could have Ever Happened to My Son Danny. ******My Son Suffered for years wishing that he had Love and acceptance from his Father. My Dad had to call My Son Danny's Dad Dan to make sure that Danny's Dad did not blow Danny off for the 300th time because Danny was looking forward to seeing his Dad for his 21st B-Day weekend. Danny, His Dad and His Dads GF Joyce Vickless went drinking together on Dannys 21 Birthday and from what I understand a argument broke out and Danny's Dad and his Dads GF Joyce decided to return him back Home in Butler and started up Interstate I-79 as the Disagreement continued Joyce Vickless made the decision to pull over and leave My Son Danny out of the car 3 miles from the Portersville Exit while he was Drunk and had just been shut off at the bar, he had no cell phone and it was on a Dark Cold Night. Both his Dad and His Dads GF returned to the Bar where they continued Drinking until they received a call from the Pennsylvania State Police saying that My Son Danny was Hit and Killed on the Interstate Highway where "They" had left him.****** I will NEVER EVER be the same Fun Loving Person that I was just over than 2 weeks ago. ******Nether one of them had even told me that they were Sorry.****** Danny is Gone but he will NEVER be Forgotten. Danny Mommy Loves You Very Very Much and I Always Will. The Pain is Unbearable At Times.
At 11:47pm on August 17, 2009, Wendy said…
Hi Bethany,
Sorry it took so long for me to answer your letter. My husband has been on the internet for hours, and has finally gone to bed, mean while, I got a lot of packing done. We are moving in Oct. to the town my son Matthew us to live and died. It won't be hard as I love that town. Just not what happened there.
I know the pain, Sept 2d. will be two years since Matthew's death. I go to his "Garden" as I call it. As I got a garden bench, instead of a head stone. Matthew was unique, and I wanted his resting place to be unique as well. It's hard I know, but be true to yourself and tell people how you feel. It's OK to say I hurt, I'm angry, I'm not sure how to deal with it. if others don't understand, or tell you to move on. I have been told that. My reply is, When you go through what I suffer, than you can tell me to move on. The loss of a child is something a mother will never get over. You may function a bit better, but the heart and love of your child will for ever be with you. I sent you my email address. did you get it? I think you really would like the song I want to send to you. Look forward to hearing from you again, God bless you and keep you, may He wrap his arms around you and comfort you.
God bless,
Wendy

At 9:39pm on August 17, 2009, Bethany said…

Markus, how I love you...I will never stop loving you. You will allways be my wonderful child. I loved everything about you and would ot have changed one thing. What I wouldnt give to have you back. The pain in my soul is so awful. I never ever imagined one day my only son would be gone. Rest with the Lord, enjoy the peace the Lord gives to you. Someday my child I will join you....until then my heart overflows with Love for you my baby boy.
At 9:36am on August 16, 2009, Wendy said…
Dear Bethany,
I am so sorry about your loss of markus. I know just how you feel, and I have done that same thing, many times. My Matthew has been with the lord since 9/2/07. Nearly two years now, and I still feel him, and break down hard and cry till I can't catch my breath at times. Not as often, but you never get over loosing a child. Matthew's older brother was so down last week, he isolated and wanted to join his brother. It's so hard, I said, Brian, I will not bury my first born, I need you here. Your brother wouldn't want you to leave me too. He's ok now, got help,. I have been on anti anxiety and anti depressants since Matthew's death, His death is still under investigation. And I may never get the answers till we are all home with the lord. Keep the Faith as our sons had, So we will someday see them agian, Matthew is also with Jesus. I would love to send you a song on one of his C D's If you would like it, let me know and I will send you my regular email address with is attached.
I am here any time you want to write me. My prayers are with you,
Wendy
At 3:34pm on August 12, 2009, sue ferrante said…
Bethany when you hold your son's child you will have bitter-sweet feelings,you will hold this child and not want to let the baby go, you will feel as if your holding Markus when I held Alycia and Gino (carlos jr.) I just loved then so much it hurt, now I hold is grandchild and cry cause he's not here to enjoy her. Loving your grandchild I am telling you what a joy, its like your on top of the world, your heart will be busting with so much love and you will see your child in the baby,and you will cry all over again cause he's not here. but you will have the next best thing his baby peace as always Sue
At 1:28am on August 11, 2009, lorelie elkshoulder said…
Thank you for your thoughts. I will try to keep on going although the task is overwhelming right now! I think this site will help.
At 4:49pm on August 10, 2009, sue ferrante said…
Bethany my name is sue and I lost my son Carlos 13 years ago, it does get a little better each day but right now you might not think so it's all new to you , I can think of him with a smile on my face, there are still times when I still cry for him, my oldest granddaughter turn 21 we had a little party and we had a drink for Carlos then everyone said something that was funny that they remenberd about him I start to cry they were tears of joy because they haven't forgotten him, I love him so much my heart is still breaking. when he died he left 2 children Alycia was 4 and Carlos jr. was only 2 now Alycia has a baby and my heart breaks cause Carlos isn't here to be a grandpa Carlos was 23 when he died, killed by his friend Tony I haven't seen Tony in 13 years I hear he still lives in the same city as I do, so be good to yourself cry as often as need be, I would in stores in church , Carlos was such a Redwing (hockey) fan, I became a Redwing fan I have hockey stuff everywhere in my house even when to all the home games thats all he gets is red and white flowers.it will take time for you it's all new for you Peace Sue
At 4:57pm on August 4, 2009, Bethany said…
I want my son back.
At 1:20am on August 4, 2009, Tami said…
Thank you Bethany... I just want this nightmare to end.

{{{HUGS TO YOU}}}

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