Thank you so much for adding me as a friend.  I really hope to begin the healing process and I think this is the best place to start.  I'm very sorry for your loss as well.       Janice, Ashley's mom

Hi Garry , Thanks for adding me as a friend , this is what helps us to survive the love of friends , We can all be there for each other , Why these things happen , we will never know , its an emptyness nobody can replace , Thanks again , Ann  

Twelve years - wow - I can't even think that far ahead anymore. 

JoAnn

you are so right with pink icing,, she probley gave grace a taste :)

Hello Gary, Thanks for adding me as a friend!! During this grief process we just can't seem to have enough friends.

Hello Gary, Thanks for adding me as a friend!! During this grief process we just can't seem to have enough friends.

Hi Garry - Thank you for asking me to be a friend in this group of bereaved parents.  I just noticed the request date was January 12th, my son Todd's birthday.  My son died from complications of pneumonia because his doctor refused to prescribe antibiotics, without even having an x-ray taken.  He was very sick when he went to her for help, but she told him he "wasn't that sick and didn't have the flu or pneumonia".  He died 9 days later.  Lawyers and the Board of Medicine tell us she followed the correct "protocol", which is to take a "wait and see" attitude for at least 6 to 7 days.  By that time he was in the hospital on a ventilator.  I don't understand.......

Gary, I am sure your feeling like most of us. youve lost someone and it surly hurts.  Were here for you.  When you feel like it, let it out.  Your not by yourself.  Its ok. were ok.  respectifully, Me.

Garry - Thanks for adding me as a friend, I can use all that I can get...

Hi Garry,

 

How are you with this almost third week of the new year.....I look back on this time last year and I am moving forward such a slow process this thing called grief. Still at times I can't believe my daughter is gone....Hope all is well with you.

Donna

Good Morning Gary. Thank you for your mail. Funny you compliment me for my words when you have helped and guided so many people on here that I have often wondered how you manage to do it. I imagine this ability is not relegated soley to this site but probably your everyday life as well. I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. Such a burden life has handed everyone here. But the load for some seems extra heavy. Makes me sad. My Cait was one of those kids you don't meet everyday. Everyday was a chance to pay the good in her life forward. Somehow someway she did that each day.  She did not judge, she did not feel the crush of peer pressure. She knew who she was. I will never understand how someone who did so much good in her little corner of the world, who would have grown into an amazing woman would need to leave this earth. When people like her is exactly what we need more of in this world.  But I need to trust that god needed her. That what she was able to do on earth can now be done tenfold as one of god's angels. I have plenty of time when I am still angry and human I guess. but I have a strong faith and no doubts of where she is and what she is doing.

As for helping anyone here, if I can ever accomplish that then that is a very good thing. You never know, many times I am not so sure. While we all carry this burden, this weight, feel that hole in our souls, there are many here that break my heart. Like in all facets of our lives, even here there is always someone who hurts a bit more. Who does not have the support I have. Who for lack of a better term, has it worse. If you can touch someone, help in anyway then it is a blessing. Because this site has helped me a great deal. I have a wonderful family and 2 other children who save my heart everyday I have the tools to move on and keep strong. Not everyone has that and that is tragic to me.

I would love to hear about your daughter. Have a peaceful day Gary

Hi Garry,

How have you been? Have not heard from you in awhile and hope the holidays weren't to much for you and your family. I am glad they are over.....

Donna

Garry, thank you for adding me as a friend.  I admire so much your helping others go through such a loss.  It makes no difference the age of your child, the hurt is horrible.  It may even be worse for those who lose their children so young, when their life is just beginning.  I can't imagine your pain, but know I am thinking of you and sending blessings your way.  We get through the holidays the best we can.  

deb 

Hi Garry,

I am very sorry for your loss.  Welcome to the club that no one here wants to belong to.  Thank you for adding me as a friend.  If you want to talk or vent I am here.

 

Mom to my beautiful child Max, Carolyn

 

 

Love the candle idea.....thanks for sharing that with all of us.  We can all strive for some peace and happiness in our lives that we have left.  The answer to WHY? will be answered when we are someday reunited with our children.

Hugs to you....again great idea, thanks for sharing

Gary the candle lighting sounds wonderful!!hoping that you are well, Hugs and prayers to you and the family.