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At 12:09am on June 12, 2018, Edith R said…

Hi, Tina Greer it's been a long time.  I came back to Grief Support.  My lost of my husband is going on 9 years and I still miss him.  I hope life have been good to you. If you ever come back leave a note and let me know how you are doing after all these years.

At 10:42am on April 28, 2011, Valerie Gernaga said…

Oh Tina!  I feel for you.  I have the same feelings.  My husband Stan passed away on April 2nd after being in the hospital for a very long 9 months.  I just went through my "first"...Easter without Stan.  Mother's Day is going to be a tough one & I am not looking forward to it.  We also had no insurance other than Medicare (my husband was 71) which he exhausted all of his days being in the hospital for so long.  Sometimes I wonder if we had GOOD insurance and I could have gotten the best doctors on his case if he would still be with me.  All of the "what ifs?" are driving me crazy.  I know nothing is going to bring him back, but I DO know that we WILL be together eternally one day...so that is my hope right now. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Valerie

At 12:33pm on February 2, 2011, Christy said…
Tina, I wish there were something we could do to change things. I love and miss my husband every moment of everyday. Not a day goes by without tears- it's been 5 months. I am more shocked when I wake each morning & realize (again) that he is gone, than I would be if he walked in right now! Sounds crazy, but I am much more used to him being here than not being here and it doesn't seem real that he is gone.  It is harder than people imagine unless they have experienced it themself. I understand that you are younger than most widows, as am I. Larry was only 38 yrs. old  and I just turned 47 last week.  He always joked that he kept me young & would care for me when I grew old, but here I am. My prayers & best wishes for you.
At 8:52am on January 19, 2011, Crimson B. said…

Tina,

I have a very small family. Infact, 2 people are my family. But it is the online community that has been more of a support than anyone. You are very lucky to have a supportive family. But, it doesn't take away the pain. I know what you mean about not wanting to go there, in terms of re-visiting the rawness of it all. Every day is a little different. Today I feel better than I did yesterday and the day before was just so awful. You want with all of your might to have them hold you, have them talk with you and the fact is, they cannot. Not in the flesh anyway, and that hurts a lot. I try not to think of that too much. Well, I have started to write a journal of grief and post it on blogspot. That has helped. i hope you have a wonderful day and thank you for letting me share. xoxo

At 6:33pm on January 17, 2011, Crimson B. said…

Dear Tina,

Thank you. It is the women and men here who help me realize that I am not alone in grief. I know, it is like one minute life, the next ....gone. But this is how life is. I lost my father when I was 29. Cancer. I lost my man and I am 49. I don't know very many women who have lost their loves, and I know it is hard on my friends and family because they just have no words. They try but they know that there is no consoling me. Hugs help though. Thank you again. Different is better than raw. Raw is just, frightening at times. Glad to know you are better. We all do get better, don't we? Life goes on, doesn't it? And it goes on inspite of our pain. Did your husband come to you? Mine did not and there were others who said, "Oh, I saw him. He visited me." That made me mad. But, I was with him on the last day so maybe he thought, "Well, I was just with you!" I have had a challenge of faith lately. Don't know what to believe. Just believe that he has definately moved on......Love to you. Crimson

At 5:01pm on January 17, 2011, Crimson B. said…

Dear Tina,

Oh, I understand. Not the suddeness but the loss. The loss is just breathtaking. I am sorry for you. I am sorry for me. I am sorry that the tow of us lost the men that were our other halves. bless you and hope you are well. My man was 53 when lung cancer took him. One minute he was enjoying las vegas and 5 months later he was dead. There are no symptoms for lung cancer. I am so sorry for your loss. Be well, love, Crimson

At 3:37pm on January 11, 2011, Warren Washington said…
Death is such a terrible thing the Bible describes it as an enemy. But the Bible also explains: “There is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Acts 24:15)
At 3:37pm on January 11, 2011, Warren Washington said…
Death is such a terrible thing the Bible describes it as an enemy. But the Bible also explains: “There is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.” (Acts 24:15)
At 8:25am on November 6, 2010, Virginia said…
Tina, I'm sorry you are haveing a hard time. Hang in with us the special days and holiday are very hard to deal with. you have a family that cares and your son sounds like a rock for you to lean on right now and it will be good for you both, don't shut out your feeling with your family they will be a great sourse of strength for you and will give them the oppertunity to express their feelings with you because i'm sure they try not to in front of you as you do with them, sometimes trying not to show your grief around loved ones is not good. god bless and a big hug to you.
At 9:01pm on November 5, 2010, Kathy King Kates said…
I see that you are at the 4 month spot today Tina. So sorry you are having such a rough time. A good number of us have been in your shoes and wish we had the right words to comfort you. We know the pain is unbearable and we wish we could just wrap our arms around you and give you some comfort. We do feel your pain. We can't say it will get better, it will just get more tolerable as time passes. I have been suffering with ACID REFLUX myself these past 3 months and finally got a doctor to admit this past weekend its NOT. I have to have my gallbladder removed next Wednesday. Sure wish they could make up their minds. I am glad my dear Bill doesn't have to see me go thru this pain right now. And my bro just got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and is being so brave. Life keeps happening and we do wish our loved one was here to comfort but they can't. Lots of hugs coming at you Tina..
At 9:47am on October 6, 2010, kathy obiedzinski said…
TINA: GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU. I PRAY EVERYTHING IS GOING OK FOR YOU. ME I AM GETTING BY CAME BACK FROM VEGAS OF CAUSE LOST BUT I ENJOYED IT. IT SEEMS I AM DOING OK WHEN SOMETHING COMES UP LIKE YESTERDAY EVERYTHING WAS GOING OK WHEN I GOT A PHONE CALL FOR GEORGE FOR A JOB INTERVIEW I TOLD THE CALLER HE PASSED TODAY I AM WEARING HIS BELT JUST LITTLE THINGS TO KEEP ME GOING
At 8:21am on September 20, 2010, david said…
time does help a little . does not cure the problem but does help . only 11 weeks for you.. it's 5 months for me so i am sure my improvement has something to do with that . however i fully understand it can be 5 months or 5 years and it's a lose that will never go away . you can only hope it becomes livable if you know what i mean for whatever it's worth to you i want you to know what is working for me is i try to count blessing and ignore the negative and that seems to help.

peace
david
At 7:51am on September 20, 2010, david said…
i have not found real peace but i am in a better place than i was so i guess i have found some peace and have my guardian angels to thank for that and the greatest joy and peace for me is those moments when i feel my wife is one of those guardian angels because if true and only God knows i have nothing to worry about . Faith is hard when you cannot see what you most want to see but i guess if we could see it would not be faith . I wish I had the power to take away your pain and the pain of everyone on this web site because just maybe it would someone take my pain too .but regardless if it took my pain or not i hare to see anyone gpo through what i am going though
peace

david
At 8:10pm on September 5, 2010, Tonya said…
I'm sorry for your loss Tina. I pray god eases your pain as well as mine, I loss my wonderful dad to heart disease too, your husband knew you loved him and you showed that everyday and through your remembrance he will forever live. I believe now with all my heart that God will allow us to see our loved ones again my friend, take care.
At 8:10pm on September 5, 2010, Tonya said…
I'm sorry for your loss Tina. I pray god eases your pain as well as mine, I loss my wonderful dad to heart disease too, your husband knew you loved him and you showed that everyday and through your remembrance he will forever live. I believe now with all my heart that God will allow us to see our loved ones again my friend, take care.
At 9:09am on August 28, 2010, Virginia said…
Tina,sorry I wasn't on yesterday but I hope your move went smoothly and you get settled quick. and I know you will have peace of mind being in a safe place. You are right all the memories you made are in your heart and your husband will be with you wherever you are. God Bless and hugs,virginia
At 8:21pm on August 20, 2010, CINDY POWELL said…
TINA, I JUST READ YOUR BLOG AND AM STILL TRYING TO FIGURE OUT DIFFERENT THINGS AROUND THIS WEBSITE.ANYWAY I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. I CAN TRULY UNDERSTAND THE ANGER WITH THE HOSPITAL. MY HUSBAND PASSED AWAY IN FEB. 2010 OF CANCER. IT WAS DIAGNOISED IN NOV. SO HE LASTED 3 MONTHS. WE HAD NO IDEA ANYTHING WAS WRONG UNTIL HE WOKE UP ONE MORNING WITH DOUBLE VISION. I AM ANGRY WITH HIS FAMILY DR. HE HAD TO GO IN EVERY 6 MOS. TO HAVE LAB WORK DONE BECAUSE OF HIS MEDICATION. WHY DIDNT THE BLOOD WORK SHOW SOMETHING? MY HUSBAND ALSO DID TELL HIS DR. AT ONE POINT THAT HE WAS FEELING VERY TIRED IN THE MIDDLE OF THE DAY AND WAS HAVING TO DRINK ALOT OF COFFEE AND ALL THE DR SAID WAS TAKE IT EASY ON THE CAFFINE. WHY DIDNT THE DR RUN SOME TESTS? ANY HOW JUST WANTED TO TELL YOU THAT MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH YOU AND ALOT OF HOW YOU FEEL, IS HOW I FEEL. I MISS MY HUSBAND SO MUCH. HE WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND I AM SO LOST WITHOUT HIM.
At 1:51pm on August 15, 2010, david said…
THANK YOU TINA AND I WILL SAY A PRAY FOR YOU TOO.
DAVID
At 11:23am on August 15, 2010, david said…
i wish i knew what to do with my wife's ashes . all i know for certain is she belongs with me but if something happen to me tomorrow or today i have no instructions for the 2 people who have to decide (son and step daughter) because i don't know so sure what my wife would want . although the never lived there or has any friends there she absolutely loved Paris France . maybe i will tell my family to spread our ashes there near Notre Dame because it does not matter to me but i know she probably would like that .
PEACE TO ALL ON THIS BOARD

DAVID
At 7:58am on August 15, 2010, TINA GREER said…
Yesterday we did some of my husbands ashes. We spread them at one of our favorite fishing spots. Larry loved the water, and we loved to fish together. It was a very hard time, the with family, I made it through. After my son did his, he looked down and there was a butterfly on the ground. He bent down, and it got on his finger. He carried it to the rest of us. It then began to fly, it flew all around, in between all of us for a long time. It was like Larry was there with us and letting us know. I know he is with us in our hearts and spirit, but it just isn't the same... I need him here with me! I just can't get over how sad and alone I am!

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