I hope your right, now you have me wondering what you know. Talk to you soon

Hi Brandy,
My name is Mary. You sent a message to Dotti and it appeared on my page. I don't know if she got it or not. I know Dotti, she and I have written each other many times, here and on regular e-mail.
You and I seem to have some things that are about the same. I too, lost my husband Jim in Feb. the 7th to be exact. I believe you said your husbands birthday was June12th. My husbands was June 13th. This has been a hard couple of weeks for me, with his birthday and father's day so close together.
I am so sorry you are going through this, none of us wants to be here. Sounds like you loved your husband very much, as I did mine. I just hate being alone again. You see, I have lost 2 husbands through death. I was married 16 years the first time and had 3 young children at home, when he died. I met my second husband several years later and we were married 24 years. They were both wonderful men. But my lose this time hurts so much more. Probably because I am older. We had just retired and were going to enjoy some "us" time. My children are grown now and have lives of their own. I am very lost right now and I know you know how that is.
It must be very hard if he took care of you in all ways. I'm glad you have your son to help you. I was always the one to be the care giver in both my marriages. I did all the yard work and bill paying, so that is not an issue for me at all. Let others help you with your physical needs, you have enough to deal with just getting through this time of grief, it is hard work, and very painful. You take care of yourself, and if you wish to chat back and forth please feel free to do that. Hugs to you, Mary

Hi Brandy, My name is Lori. I understand your loneliness, I lost my only sister in Oct. to Breast Cancer. She was only 46. I feel so lost and lonely with out her here, even though I am surrounded by friends and family. I still reach for the phone everyday and then remember.... it feels so unreal to me. She had a 10 year old son who keeps me busy but I worry about him constantly. It all seems so unfair. I will keep you in my prayers and we WILL heal! Talk to you soon.

Hi Brandy, My name is Lori. I understand your loneliness, even though I am surrounded by family and friends. A sister is someone you cannot replace. I feel so alone with out her. She died in October of Breast Cancer at the age of 46, and left behind a 10 year old son. It all seems so unreal to me still. I reach for the phone everyday, and then remember...I will keep you in my prayers and we WILL heal, eventually. Take care.

Bob's family doesn't bother with me either. So it's not just Dick's. If Billy would be doing my lawn I'm sure I would not see or hear from any of them. At least Tricia calls you. I don't hear from her at all and I'm not chasing them. Don't let your feelings get hurt because of Dick's side. Really not worth it.

Hi Brandy, I will keep you in my prayers. I live in new jersey ( south ) about 40 mins. from philly, I am sure it is hard for you, not being able to drive really adds to it. I usally get up earley around 5-6 because I have very bossy cats lol that want to eat, I have 13 indoor cats and 3 sometime 5 outdoor cats lol a couple come when they want to they are not really mine. I am also disabled but am able to get around ok and I drive so that is good. I have emphysema and so many other problems, diabetic, arthrist bad disc and a bone spur in my neck that is pressing on a nerve and now on my spine, so I am usally in pain all day I have a socket in my left thigh that has gone dry ?? but get injections of silcone and it really helps the stinging and burning and excruating pain I have there. I have good pain meds. but rarely take them I just deal with it. We are going to north carolina next sunday for about a week. When my husband ( mike ) was alive we went and took my nephew he was 16 then ( like a son to us both ) and I have an overwhelming need to go back there ( strange ) it was so beautifull and we both loved it so much. So my nephew who is now 24 married and has a 16 month old son are going as he loved it as well and wants his wife to see and do the things we did. I know mike will be there as he is with me everyday and yes I talk to him lol sorry for rambling on but I am so excited. What part of pa. do you live. Well I'm gonna go. I hope your days will get better. Virginia

Hi Brandy, I am just saying hi and hope you are ok I'm still trying to get my setting right lol. Any time you need a ear to listen I'm here. Have a Blessed Day. Virginia

Hi Brandy....You have been on a mind a lot today. Sorry that I could not come a see you. I have been crying a lot today and I know I would not have been good for you today. I think I would have made you feel worse. But just thinking about what you had to deal with broke my heart. But I know we will both have to deal with things like that.

Hi Brandy....Reading this site gives me hope. We just need to give it time.

Hi Brandy,I'm so sorry for your loss.First let me try to guide you thru the site it's grief support groups at the top of the page then click on the bereved spouses scroll down you'll see where people have started disscusions or you can write on the board there. this is a great site it has helped me very much even if you just read the post or want to write we are all here for the same reason everyone in their own time frame and emotions,to give advice or just listen.I'm still trying to learn the settings for my page lol, I would prefer people not to be able to read my whole page as it is now I want it privete for me I like to write my husband( mike )we were together 32 yrs. I'm just now getting used to being alone but it is still very hard at least I'm not crying everyday. Write me anytime Virginia

At 11:57am on June 9th, 2010, brandy said…
At 6:43pm on June 8th, 2010, brandy said…
Hi,my name is Brandy,this is new to me I'm not sure how I really feel ,I get scaread,worried,having to decide on things comes hard, I get upset easily&the nervousness keeps me awake,last night was rough I couln't sleep cause I knew I had to go away today.
The feelings are crazy,I lost my husband in Feb.& i don't know where i belong it's like I'm lost ,but yet I have to be here.
People say it's nomal ,but what is nomal.I wish I knew,Sorry for rattling on . Delete Comment Delete Comment

At 6:43pm on June 8th, 2010, brandy said…
Hi,my name is Brandy,this is new to me I'm not sure how I really feel ,I get scaread,worried,having to decide on things comes hard, I get upset easily&the nervousness keeps me awake,last night was rough I couln't sleep cause I knew I had to go away today.
The feelings are crazy,I lost my husband in Feb.& i don't know where i belong it's like I'm lost ,but yet I have to be here.
People say it's nomal ,but what is nomal.I wish I knew,Sorry for rattling on . Delete Comment