I am sorry for your losses. I lost my mother-in law, my father, my only aunt and my husband all in 2007. I didn't think I could face another day but somehow I've managed. God does pull you through..... it's tough! I lost my job after my husband died. I lost all of my co-workers/friends. I am most disappointed with the friends who disappeared when I needed them the most. Sending you a picture of my twin sister and myself. I would have loved knowing your sister. Take care and God bless.I am wearing the black and purple top.
Pearl, it's so good to hear from you! You remain in my thoughts & prayers. I'm sure you have read the posts & see so many are repeating some of these same feelings & difficulties eating & sleeping. It seems I feel o.k. at times and think I am growing stronger & more capable of dealing with him being gone & then I go through periods of complete heartbreak & devastation as if I cannot bare another day. Perhaps this is a cycle we repeat until we eventually get it in our heads & hearts that they are gone, we are here & that we are going to be o.k. I don't know... Just thankful for our grandchildren, friends, church family, co-workers... or who ever is out there encouraging us with a smile & kind word. God bless you always. Hugs~ .
Hi Pearl ... I am very sorry you've had a bad time of it and I can certainly relate. My beloved husband Ernie passed away April 27, 2011. I thought I was handling things fairly well a few weeks ago and getting my second wind, but suddenly I just couldn't eat and the dam burst. I too have not been able to eat (very little) hole up in the house, but I'll answer the phone. I know I can't keep on like this and need to try harder. I am happy that you are finally able to feel somewhat normal and I pray you keep getting stronger.
Pearl- It's so good to hear from you! I am sorry for all the extra aggravation with your brothers on top of your grief & the problems with your mother's health. I am glad to hear she is improving. If you look over recent posts, I have had similar issues w/ my brother who I sd has been "dumping on me" regarding a bad relationship with an ex-girlfriend. He refuses to hear anything I try to share about the loss of my husband yet he goes on & on over this wicked woman. People just don't realize how fragile we are now. They are used to coming to us with all kinds of problems we just don't need to deal with now. You are a dear woman & I am still praying for you & wishing you the best always. What happened w/ your babysitting job- are you still doing that? I hope you are staying active with something positive that gets you out of the house & around good people. I hope you stay in touch.
I know today is really hard on alot of us and wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you & hope you are well/good. How is the job working out? Keep your eyes on God & you'll be fine. Remember that Love endures forever & nothing can ever take that from you! You are in my prayers- Christy
Pearl, I understand your concerns over the new job w/ the children & the possibility of uncontrollable tears. I think you will be fine. Even if it happens you should be able to disguise it, &/or manage it without scaring the children. They will probably be a real blessing to you. Kids are great little pick me ups :-)
I'm sorry to hear you have been having a hard time lately, but now I see that's just the way it is. I've been boo-hooing alot more the past two weeks and hardly at all the week before that! It doesn't seem to make sense. You continue to be in my prayers. Best wishes, Christy
Pearl, I am so sorry for all our losses.The only thing that keeps me going is my belief in God. God brought Jim into my life, and then took him away. I find myself doing okay one minute, then crying my eyes out the next. People say that it will get better, I just don't know how. Please take care of yourself Pearl. Hugs to you.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I cry for what seems like no real reason sometimes and I guess it's just pure emotion that has to come out from time to time. We can't keep holding it in as we try to complete our day to day tasks, pretending we are o.k. It's been 4 months now & I actually had over 1 week that almost felt like I could handle life and then I crashed. Crying uncontrollably & spending the long weekend in my room alone for the most part. I keep thinking there must be some way to have him back. I'm crazy.Larry gave me a coffee mug that says to seek the Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart. I keep looking at it wondering that I had the desire of my heart & now he is gone, what else is there? Surely God has something more for us ahead if we can hang on to Him. Prayers & HUGS, Christy
Thanx so much. I do pray for ease in your heart. I am blessed and I know this with my kids and grandbabies. You know, I had my wife's obituary kept on line for viewing and signing her guest book and that is my way of kinda keeping in touch with her and I write when my heart is heavy and on all special days. Pearl, I appreciate all you great folks, really I do, but in all honesty I never ever want to think of a day to come without my hon being the first and foremost thought in my crazy head. I went to the doctor and all they want to do is keep me all drugged up and I am not abt that. Now I have you all....thanx again
you have my deepest sympathy for your loss. I to have lost my husband of 33 years on April 1, 2010. My who life revolved around him. He was my soulmate. There was 17 years difference in our ages. He was 80 when he passed and I was 63. For the past 4 years he battled with CHF and alzhemier for the last 1 and 1/2 he was bedriddened at home, I would not send him to a nursing home. He drove me crazy but I'f I had to do it all over again I would. We have to take it one day at a time and hope for the best. I had to cut my work hours down when he got sick and after he passed I could not get them back. I now do volunteer work at a food pantry on my days off and it really helps me to get involved with other people. People say things will get better and all we can do is pray it does.
Sometimes a good cry and a good scream when I'm alone helps me. I sorry if I bring you down more with this but I can feel your pain.
Dear Pearl I fell you pain. I woke up one morning thinking its a nitemare but itwas not ... It is so hard .. The cried has not Stoped..I am soooo sorry. How does it Stop..I don't talk to friends or famliy about it... They just don't understand my broken heart but I do know you !!! Love Sandra
Being home alone can really stink, but I am glad that you were able to enjoy some time with your brother and family both days. Grandchildren are a blessing, but I'm sure you must feel some of the same feelings I do- wishing your husband could be there to enjoy them & they him! At times it is on the verge of being unbearable, but I try to believe as you do, that God will sustain us. It was great hearing from you. Keep in touch- Christy
Hello Pearl, I just received the messg you sent me on Dec. 17th. I am glad to hear that God has blessed you with hope & that you no longer wish to end you life as you did in your previouse life before knowing Him. I would never consider truely ending my life simply because it would mean being seperated from God & Larry for eternity! I couldn't do that. I just lack the desire to live without Larry by my side now. He persisted & over the 8 yrs. we were together he tore down all my "walls." I tried to remain independent & unattached but after living with him 24/7 for over 5 yrs. there is no way I can live without missing his constant presence! I am so miserable without him. I am praying for God to fill this void & to build me up, protect me and give me peace. I know I will be o.k. but I just don't feel it yet. I hope you are continuing attending church & that life is getting better for you as well. You are a dear person- God bless you & keep you. Christy
I am so sorry to hear that your brother and husband died within the same month. I hope this support group on here can help you.
My brother died 9.1.09 and we are having major problems with his wife (2 little kids too) so maybe in a few months, we can chit chat... perhaps because you have experiencing both your brother's and husband's absence, you can help us understand my brother's wife process.