So Sorry to hear about your dog,the pain must be unbearable,just when you think ok I can do this something happens to put you back down,I will keep you in my prayers & know that you are loved by many,we have to keep each other going cause we are the only ones that know the feeling ,those that have not loved & lost have NO idea how we feel.
I"d like to send you a hug( ) .
Walk in love & peace
We offer our sincere condolences for your untimely loss of your husband. Your grief may
ebb and flow. It has been said each of us has
this deep well inside of us that can be filled
to the brim with grief. Everytime we cry,
we empy some of the well. There will always
be wondeful memories you cherish, then
the well seems to fill to it's brim again.
Allow yourself to remember and to mourn,
it's part of your healing. Grief is a continuing
journing. Jesus Christ promised us by means
of his rasom sacrifice that he will resurrect
your husband. (John 5:28,29). According
to Isaiah 61:2 God is comforting the mourning.
Take comfort in knowing you have the hope of
seeing your husband again.
LINDA: I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM WITH GEORGE. YOU SEE GEORGE WOULD ONLY EAT 1 MEAL A DAY AND THAT WAS DINNER. AND WHEN HE DID EAT DINNER IT WAS LIKE HIS LAST MEAL. ON WEEKENDS HE WOULD ONLY WANT SOMETHING IF HE SEES ME EATING. I WOULD ASK HIM DO YOU WANT A ENGLISH MUFFIN HE WOULD SAY NO,. BUT WHEN HE SEEN THAT IT WAS DONE HE DECEIDED TO HAVE ONE AND SAY THANKS HONEY HOW DID YOU KNOW I WANTED ON THEN IT WOULD BE CAN I HAVE ANOTHER ONE FOR LUNCH IF I HAD A BLT I WOULD ASK HIM IF HE WANTED ONE AND YOU CAN GUESS WHAT THE ANSWER WAS BUT WHEN HE SEEN ME EATING AND I WENT TO THE RESTROOM WHEN I CAME BACK IT WAS GONE HE WOULD SAY IT WAS GOOD
Loni and I had many missunderstandings, but one of us was always right. It was usually Loni that was right. I would talk to much while Loni was trying to read her bible and she would go into the bathroom to read in slience. I would feel bad about that. Loni knew i couldn't shut up long enough. When she was done she would come back out and be smiling at me with that look; what am I going to do with you !
And that would make me feel better. We knew enough about each other that those little things didn't matter all that much.
linda,my name is Debbie,,,i hate the nights too.. i start feeling very low around 4:00 and its a struggle to keep from losing it on the way home from work,,,,,one little thing can send me into a whirlwind of tears and pain...why does it have to hurt so bad,,,when we marry we really do become one,,,,and a part of us is missing...My God it hurts...its been 35 days since my Byron and I breathed together. I miss him so much....I just want to feel better...
I will be thinking of you, Linda. Douglas died one week after our 26th anniversary (July 2009) so July will be most difficult for me. Our anniversary and his death plus June 28th will be his birthday. We were going to renew our vows as well. This past weekend I found our wedding album and inside was a copy of our vows (we wrote our own). I will read them out loud on July 9th -- and probably cry. Thank goodness for Ben & Jerry's!! Take care and know you are in my thoughts.
linda: it will be 1 year on march 1,2010 that i lost my best friend.(my husband) he just had a massive heart attack everyday i miss him more and more. it is not easy as people think because they are not in my shoes i am so sorry for everyone that lost a dear spouse a best friend i am trying to do the best i know how but i cry almost every day i do not want to do anything just to stay in my bed and talk to my husband. i would love to hear from anyone that is going thru this hard time. it is so bad that i am seeing a therapist once a week i feel i can tell her anything and cry when i want to. the only thing i really enjoying doing is going home and talking to him also by looking at his picture which is on my cell phone god bless each and everyone of us
believe me it will never get easier or less painful,holidays are by far the hardest and what I hate most is receiving christmas cards or thanksgiving cards,be thankful for what?christmas cheer when the last christmas eve you remember was 2007 when you had to bury your husband and listen to christmas carolers how could they be so cold to wish you a merry christmas and happy new year,my life is over ,never will I smile again or anxiously await the holidays ,if people would only think first knowing you are mourning before sending you a card it would help.I hate the holiday season and wish I could just sleep through them ,,be it 2 years or 20 years the pain will always be as hard as the the last moment you spent with your loved one ,If I could have but one christmas gift it would be to lay next to my husband together for all eternity but I know how horrible for my grown children and other family and I could not put them through the pain and suffering I am going through.All I can say is pray and talk to your loved one and remember all the good times and memories that can never be erased from your head .GOD BLESS YOU
How? I think my husband got that figured out before he died Nov 2, 2009. He had Pancriatic Cancer and survived for 3 1/2 yrs. He questioned why God had spared him & decided the extra time was because God had something for him to do. For him, that was to let others know about God - not in an offending manner though. He just seemed to have people comming to him from all walks of life needing counceling, reassurance and someone to listen to their troubles. He never looked at the outward appearance of anyon and had the ability to look straight into their heart.
He had a painful year in the end, and said he was ready, just waiting on God to take him. He was and is my best friend and I will always miss him.
No I am not over this, and maybe I never will be. But, I do know that he is not suffering any more ... he has been sick for so long that I have trouble remember when life was normal for us. --- I still cry at the most unexpected times!
My name is Denise...I lost my husband of 40 years on 10/20/09...He got sick on July and passed away 3 months later...I know exactly how your feeling...I also dread the holidays...I can only take one day at a time..It's to hard to think what the future has in store for me now that the love of my life was robbed of his life by cancer....I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers...Denise
Linda good morning to you. My heart goes out to you this day, I know it will be hard on you but I also know that you will find the strength within you if you have to reach down to your does to get it. The cruise sounded nice and I am glad that you got to enjoy it together. You will also find great comfort in having your hubby there with you as Carl is here with me and it gives me great comfort as well and we talk daily. You try to have a good day and chin up, just know that there are others here at group who will listen and share and cry and everything else inbetween.
Linda good morning and how are you doing? My computer was down for a few days but I am back. I did not know what dh ment, thanks. My husbands name was Carl and I sure do miss him as you probably know. I have had the flu or cold or something for the past few days and these are the times that I really miss him for he would make me Chicken soup from scratch. Boy how that man could cook.
I finally found you have been looking all day and I cant find what you wrote. I hope you are doing alright today, remember baby steps at first and just one day at a time for now. It seems like the whole world has stopped for you I know but this will be alright I promise you